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Topic: Confused by Capricorn w/ Venus in Aquarius
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msAries
Newflake Posts: 1
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted March 27, 2011 01:42 AM
  
I am an aries sun& moon with a mercury/venus/mars in taurus. I have been crushing for about a year on a co-worker.
His sun is in Capricorn, moon in Libra, mercury/ venus in Aquarius and mars in sagittarius.
This is a long one, but I'm wondering if anyone can explain this situation through astrology/ synastry. Reviewing relationships(platonic or otherwise) helps me better understand astrological connections.
Any how he used to show signs for quite some time that he liked me... or at least that's how I was reading it.
when we first met he would get really shy around me, stare at me when he thought I was not looking, and he would compliment my intelligence. We ended up working together on a couple of work related projects one of which was my idea and we started to become very close. I started to develope a crush on him b/c he was very supportive of me and my ideas( not that he is bad to look at as all the girls will tell you- and a couple men as well- but I am attracted to personality long before looks anyday)
anyhow there seemed to be an attraction that we just could not coordinate. When *I* was uninterested in (ignoring him b/c of) his open lack of interest in me, he seemed flirty. When I was flirty he acted uninterested.
That is until one day when I just looked at him and every thought I had about him was showing through my eyes and the develish grin that was spreading across my face. He responded in like fashion. The staring was so intense that out of the corner of my eye I could see everyone that was still in the conference room looking back and forth between us. Trust me when I say that the air was thick. He then started to show courtesy that he normally wouldn'tlike: wanting to walk me out of the building, holding doors... completely not his normal MO.He also looked at me with a sort of adoration. The thing that takes the cake was at one meeting he took the time to stand up and say "I'm excited to see who standing behind me. In my periphery."<-- this was significant b/c he tends to be private if he's dating someone(sorta hides it), so for him to say anything that could be taken as interest was major.
So a few months past and we only text each other once or twice and we have plans to hang (with mutual friends there), but they fell through b/c of my schedule.
Long story short we start to bump into each other again and everything falls closely back to the way it was before.
The seesawing, back and forth, begins again and so I resign myself to friendship. As soon as I do this we end up at a friends party one night and when I go outside to ask him something he gets out of his car hugs me tightly and then kisses me on the cheek. <-- shots of vodka. So I step back and look up at him, 'cause we're not the friends that kiss each other, and he has this smirk on his face that I absolutely hate (because I find it so damned sexy everytime lol)
Long story short.
I text him and ask:
"How do you see me. I am confused and as a result dont always act like myself around you."
Him:
"I see you as a sister. Straight up. A sister from another mother.  "
Fine. So we go away to a conference together and gets overly protective when he thinks I'm going to go out with some random guys (almost yelling). Gets very stern when I take off to explore the area by myself( I did kind of leave without saying anything- but I'm a grown woman.- and the group had left me by myself) Then when we went to a reception and it seemed to catch his attention when I was flirting with this guy. I turned away for a second and he started talking to him. It was almost like it was okay during the entire conference if I was sitting alone and lonely, but if a male talked to me I need him c/b.
If he has no feelings for me why does it seem that he cares who I am talking to?
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L0veLess
Newflake Posts: 23
From: Saturn
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted March 27, 2011 02:37 AM
if he already said that straight up yur just a sister (it should be sister from another mister hah anways)then thats how he must see yu.and being protective in a brotherly way. Im a capricorn but i have mercury and venus in cap and mars in sag. I know that capricorns are supposedly forthright most of the time, im that way, but he has mercury in aquarius. So that makes him different a little. I know that with my aries friend im supportive of her and we enjoy eachothers company, although im a girl too. But if yu sensed some chemistry or connection then theres obviously soemthing going on. I think sometimes capricorn tend to push away people they actually want. I think yu should either tell him yur feelings or just move on, because if he really does have a thing for yu then yu need to be real clear about yur feelings and reassure him or he'll just keep it how it is.------------------
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aquavenus
Newflake Posts: 1
From: UK
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted March 27, 2011 04:45 AM
My first post!!I'm a Cap sun girl with Aqua Venus. If I like a guy I tend to get really quirky around him, I'll say and do things that will make him see I'm very different but eventually I will get direct about it. I always want to be the first to ask the guy out, I hate playing according to the traditional rules. For me Aqua Venus messes my love situations because I tend to get really friendly and the guy is not sure if I'm just being friends or flirting. If I like a guy, I'll say and do the right things to become his friend first (Cap Sun planning) and only then will I start with the weird flirting. I don't kiss someone unless they mean something and I think the Cap Sun has a lot to do with that. He clearly has feelings for you but if he's said he sees you as a sister, he probably does. I have guy friends I see as brothers and I do get quite protective about them including having my opinion on who they date. I'll also look like I'm jealous if they are acting flirty with someone, only because I haven't got anyone to act flirty with! Not because I like them that way. But here's the confusing bit, aren't we all brothers and sisters, I'm still pretty close to my ex who is now married, I focus a lot on the universal brotherly love feeling so even if a guy doesn't like me or I don't like him or it doesn't work, we are still friends and I see friends as brothers and sisters from other mothers! This is proper absurd but I used to have a crush on my boss and at the same time I thought he would make a great brother! I think you should be direct with him if he's already suggested you mean something to him. I've told a guy I see him as a brother because I got hints that he liked me and I had no feelings for him. Sorry! But I'm sure he'll still be a loving friend after you've told him about your feelings. You'll feel a lot better just getting it off your chest. Trust me, he will appreciate the honesty. IP: Logged |
annaf
Knowflake Posts: 39
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted March 27, 2011 01:10 PM
Hi,I'm capricorn sun, capricorn venus, mars in sagittarius. My venus is square uranus and uranus is in the 5th house. So even though I don't have an aquarian venus, uranus flavours my venus and romantic behaviour. I'm very hesitant to show any romantic interest at all, unless the other person gives me a clear signal. With 3 personal planets in the 7th house I'm very friendly with most people and often being flirty fro me is a clear sign that I'm NOT interested. It's just a sign that I feel comfortable around the other person. Bottom line, when I'm interested in s.o. I initially give off very mixed signals from ignoring the other person to friendliness to being very reserved. It's a push pull situation, I need to be able to trust the other person first, know they like me first and hence being friends first is a first step in the right direction. All of this comes down to a fear of rejection, taking relationships seriously but at the same time shying away from them. However, if the person I like indicated their interst as you did with your question 'how he sees you', there would be no way I would reply I considered them a brother/sister, if in fact I was romantically interested in them. That's out of the question for me. I would only reply this way, if I liked the other person as a friend, but nothing more. So unfortunately, I would have to say, you should take his answer to heart and not read more into his looks than his actual words. Unless he is an immature young school boy, there is no sane explanation why he would tell you he sees you as a sister when he is in actual fact interested (and available) IP: Logged |
annaf
Knowflake Posts: 39
From:
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted March 27, 2011 01:32 PM
P.s. My exboyfriend was a triple aries - sun, moon and venus in aries. We certainly had a push pull situation initially, mixed signals. We were friends first, but he eventually made the first step and showed his feelings and when he did I also showed my hand so to speak. IP: Logged | |
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