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posted April 01, 2011 06:27 PM            

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So I have a crush on this Scorpio (what else is new?). I let him know I liked him, not with words as much as with actions. At first he was receptive. He flirted back, showed some interest. BUt I guess when it got too real for him, he backed off. He didn't respond, never made a move, never showed me any extra attention or care. So, I was confused, pined over him, pulled my hair out trying to figure him out, and I'm exhausted.

I felt I was an ego boost. I would avoid him whenever he'd be distant. Rejection hurts. He would 'bump' into me a lot when I'd pull away. He would look into my eyes, and it seemed to satisfy him. He'd walk away like his battery was charged. But it would be so short lived, and he'd be distant again the next time I'd see him.

I decided to move away, to another state. He's not the only reason I'm leaving, but he would have been the reason to stay.

He knows I'm moving. So, the funny thing is, now that I'm moving, he can see me. He smiles at me, big loud 'hello, how are you doing' still catches me off guard.

Why the sudden change?

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posted April 02, 2011 07:01 AM            

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Irrespective his sign,Desperation knowing you are leaving. He has to do something. Leave your e-mail even if you are moving and if you keep in touch he would as well. I am not sure whether you would be still interested or move on.

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posted April 02, 2011 08:55 AM            

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Yea, i had something similar with a Scorpio guy...

When i first fell in love with him, he didnt want anything. I agreed with him to stay friends, and then months later he started to get closer and closer to me. I had to realize that deep down i was still in love with him, so i gave him another chance to finally be together a couple of months ago. But he freaked out or I dont know, and did everyting to destroy our relationship

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posted April 02, 2011 03:51 PM            

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Hard to give an (astrological) answer when you just say "this Scorpio guy" is he a Scorpion? Scorpio Sun? (not a real Scorpio, so you can't judge by this alone) Scorpio rising? (much better)

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posted April 02, 2011 07:56 PM            

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Scorpio sun, virgo moon, leo rising, venus Cap.

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posted April 02, 2011 08:13 PM            

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Scorpio Sun? (not a real Scorpio, so you can't judge by this alone)

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Coffee, along with your 15 degree orb concept, I have to question your astrological standards.

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posted April 02, 2011 09:18 PM            

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wait i'm curious...why do you think a scorpio rising is more a scorpio than a scorpio sun???

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posted April 02, 2011 09:26 PM            

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also- I think I may have an inkling as to what is going on here. But WHO KNOWS- that's the problems with Scorps. They never play with their cards on the table. My experience with them in relationships as led to a few observations. I also have some pretty strong Scorp and Pluto placements myself so I feel like I can relate. Off the top of my head-
1) they know how intense they get when in a REAL relationship. A lot of them are able to keep their most essential selves hidden deep deep down, never really revealing them to anyone. They're probably the most likely to engage in meaningless sex for example. But by adulthood most of them have fallen in love at least once and it was most likely a very difficult break up because they feel everything so intensely so they just take things that much harder. Scorpios can actually be really needy in relationships, despite how cold they might appear to strangers. I think because of past relationship hardships they end up retreating into their shells and are very difficult to prod out of there for anyone whose got a crush on them, it just seems like a constant uphill battle of trying to convince them to let loose or open up.
2) Possibly as a symptom of this- they see "ups and downs" of a relationship as it is getting underway as a test of how worthy the relationship might be of their time and energy. Scorps love to test. And they have pretty high standards for their mates so ups and downs are typical in my experience and the more you can endure the more they see you as worthy.

It is possible though- of course- that he's just not interested. I know this is tough to bear, but it's best to get over it. I think they know what its like to like someone and for that person not to be interested so when that happens they kind of retreat to avoid the building of tension. It's possible now that you're leaving and he knows that- he senses its not dangerous for him to be nice to you, like you wont read into anything or get your hopes up. It's kind of a brutal but sincere thing to do in a way. Even if you're not that kind of person that would read into him being friendly to you as something more- most likely as a Scorpio sun HE is that kind of person, so it's possible he tried to avoid hurting you. I know that sounds really harsh, but I've had this experience with Scorps and like I said, with strong Scorpio and Pluto in my chart, have even done it myself.

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posted April 02, 2011 09:45 PM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
Hard to give an (astrological) answer when you just say "this Scorpio guy" is he a Scorpion? Scorpio Sun? (not a real Scorpio, so you can't judge by this alone) Scorpio rising? (much better)

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Oh My Goodness Coffee
I disagree although I love your name

I am a Scorpio Rising and exact conjunction of Pluto on the MC
I do not feel like *I* am a real Scorpio.I am like I am a real Gem which is my Sun,Venus and Merc.

To me ,the real Scorpio's are the Sun.The Mars seem like real Scorpio's too.

I don't know many Moons and Venus's so it is hard to say with them lol

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Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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posted April 02, 2011 09:57 PM            

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Is this the guy who's married??

My guess is that he started to get uncomfortable and feel like your flirtation had crossed a line. When he found out you were moving far away, he felt like he could afford to be friendly...because whatever inappropriate vibe had started up between you, you will soon be taking it, and all the awkwardness that goes with it, to a faraway place where it will very soon not be a problem.

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posted April 02, 2011 10:40 PM            

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If I was going by male-experience instead of astrological advise - it sounds like he knew you had a huge crush on him and it was an ego boost. Sooner or later, he understood the depth of your feelings as you made it obvious with the fact you non-verbally communicated it instead of saying it straight up (which guys take less seriously, for whatever weird reason), so he decided to back off. He felt bad, and didn't want to lead you on, so he distanced himself. Now that he knows you're leaving, he feels he can have a normal relationship with you again since it's impermanent and won't have to face the long term consequences of you crushing on him. The guilt is over with. If you want my personal take on that.

I say this as someone with a strong Pluto in her chart, who has nothing but Scorpio friends, and an infamous Scorpio ex with a stellium in the 8th.

And as someone that understands men pretty well, haha

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posted April 03, 2011 06:36 AM            

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If he is married men well then things change quiet a lot. I would have to go with JFK

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posted April 03, 2011 02:41 PM            

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staborgi's description of a Scorpio is spot on!
I'm a Scorpio Moon and I can relate to all of what was said. Yes, to me, the more they endure shows their worthiness in a relationship with me...I think that stems from trust issues and skepticism of the longevity of relationships.

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