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Aya_and_baby
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posted April 08, 2011 11:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aya_and_baby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think I should explain this title first... It probably sounds a bit confusing. About a week or two ago I went to a psychic I've been occasionally going to for a few years. This time, like last (and both times were actually not such good readings compared to before) she read my chart too, transits and the whole shebang. She mentioned to me that between june and august-september this year I would have the opportunity to meet my ideal man: a rich, generous man.

She then went on to explain to me what my ideal man would be. She said he should be generous and shower me with presents, that, because my 8th house is in Cancer, he would be a cancerian type which according to her included a bit tough but emotional, slightly jealous and loving and also a bit clingy.

Now I've been thinking a lot about this, and... If there are at least 3 things that turn me off on someone, it's definitely showering me with presents because then I feel that he thinks my love can be bought, and I actually find it utterly insulting that a man buys me clothes or jewellery "for no reason, just because". Jealousy in any measurement is also a killer of romance for me, I even pretty much lost a good friend because he got jealous. Clingy people are people I can hardly get on with either.

Which lead me to wonder: would any astrologer come to the same conclusion that this woman has? I can honestly not imagine myself living with someone she described. My ex was clingy and jealous, and thought that showing his love meant to give me presents and taking me to restaurants and apart from his mental abuse and drinking habits, those qualities of him irritated me enormously. If any of you guys would come to the same conclusion as the reader, then begs another question:

When our chart tells us we are attracted to a certain type, but the rest of our chart indicates that our personality would clash with that type... Then what?


Just a little disclaimer now: I'm on a mobile phone so I can't share images. So I'm afraid I'll have to ask anyone willing for a huge favor: if anyone could post my chart for me? Data are:

Nov 10, 1984
9:23 am
Schoten, Belgium

Thank you!

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amowls**
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posted April 08, 2011 05:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls**     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
8th doesn't have muc to do in terms of who we're attracted to. It does represent how we relate to sex so I can see how people would get confused. 7th is our partner, Venus and Mars also represent ideal mates.

I would look at your chart but I'm on phone too.

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lunatic
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posted April 08, 2011 05:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lunatic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm just 3weeks older.wow!

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mintgirl123
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posted April 08, 2011 07:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mintgirl123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have a gem moon and it's in your seventh house.

A mars cappy indicates you like a guy who's ambitious, knows what he wants in life, probably somebody competent, with a confident aura. Somebody who is responsible, stable and someone who is serious about life.

The Gem moon indicates you probably find intellectual stimulation very important, that though they should be pretty nurturing, they would give you space, but keep you entertained. Someone who knows alot about everything, someone who is witty and a great conversationalist. This ties in with your venus in saggy, so you want somebody who is fun and happy go lucky, someone who takes you on adventures, shows you the world.


Think that's about it yeah? How accurate am I lol

Since you have venus conjunct neptune, you always had this 'ideal image' of how your relationships could be like. You want a guy who will sweep you off your feet, but at the same time keeps you sane and grounded.

So yeah, nothing in your chart really indicates you loving guys who shower you with gifts... I mean you don't have a venus in leo lol or anything like that.

BUTT since your moon is opposite uranus, you prob end up with guys who are kinda flighty and irratic and not secure. Maybe?

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Aya_and_baby
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posted April 09, 2011 06:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aya_and_baby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Generally the guys I've been with were quite stable, with exception of a few of course. I'm not entirely sure about my Cap mars influencing my choice in men because I don't really mind if a man is not ambitious. Or stable. It's not the top of my list anyway

The rest is pretty much accurate. I tend to be attracted to guys who have a stunning aura (not neccesarily looks but it helps), someone who seems unique, different... Someone who is open, mature but child-like without being immature of course, wise and intelligence is always good. And someone who's been around quite a bit, the more experiences the better.

At first sight it seems like an Aqua influence on my ideal man, and a bit of Sag-Gem, but I'm sure that's just the fact that that kind of personality just gets on better with my personality

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zanarkand112
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posted April 09, 2011 08:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanarkand112     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can kind of see what she was talking about, but I don't know why she singled in on the eight house ruler so much. I don't know what transits she was looking at either, so it's kind of hard to see why she is off the mark.

She should have noticed with a Sag Asc and Sag Venus that you would have not tolerated a jealous person who would attempt to steal your freedom, esp with Sag Venus your preference is to give and receive love as if on an adventure together. Although she did say "slightly"... I do think she was right though that your ideal guy would have some lunar energy. Your eighth house ruler being cancer, with moon in the seventh the house.(the house of marriage/others) I could definitely see some Cancer placements, even if the DSC is Gemini, which will be the main attraction or tone of the kind of relationship you are seeking.

Generally, I wait until people have actually meet rather than guess what they will or will not be pulled to. I find house placements are good bets for guessing though. The most important are the first, fifth, seventh, and eight houses show what people will be attracted to most. But if you have placements that could have hard aspects to planets that would fall in those houses, of course it will causes some degree of frustration or problems despite the initial attraction. A woman's mars can help show what kind of man she might like as well.

Of course, you are a Scorpio and you won't be into it if there isn't the intensity that you crave. You won't want to be in a relationship if you feel like you could live without them, but that also scares you. I see a lot of scops have a pull-push/push-pull feelings about this part of themselves. You may not like a jealous partner, but that's because there's the unspoken rule about wanting to posses, but never being possessed. It can be quite unfair, but that's how most Scorpios play the game. If that's you, I'd be very conscious of that. It's a good thing you have lots of Sag energy though, cause that helps you put a lot of distance with that kind of behavior. I'd also say this is why a guy showering you with gifts offends you, as it smacks of superficiality and offends your Plutonic senses. It also feels like he is buying(possessing) you like a toy.

Basically, if I was going to some up what kind of guy would be interested in, he would be these things: He would be a high spirited, optimistic, lively, and talkative man. He also possesses a strong work ethic and be very determined once he made his mind up about something. He would take his career/job and duties very seriously but joke, laugh, and never run out of interesting things to say. With moon in your seventh, he would also have a strong desire to give and receive nurture, and would be very involved with his family(probably good with children) and even your own if that's possible. I'd also say he would be good with children too, and that he would trust and reveal his emotional side with you that would make you feel special that he would share that with you, but never be so emotional that it would feel suffocating to you. And to satisfy your scorp sun, he would have an air of mystery about him that didn't disappear too fast as if you could predict the future just because he was open and loved to communicate with you. I may be way off, but I just combined a couple things from your chart to form that description.

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Aya_and_baby
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posted April 09, 2011 12:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aya_and_baby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
At this point I am considering that the reader was just reading herself because she mentioned a lot that she then said applied to her, too.

I have to say though, even slightly jealous men are a turn off for me. I know I'm flirty but I am very loyal (like I mentioned to the guy I'm kind of seeing now: two men at a time is just tiring, I prefer to focus on one) so when a man is jealous, to me it signals that he either doesn't know or doesn't trust me, and I couldn't live with either. Also because an ex of mine was pathologically jealous and now when a man is even slightly so, my mind starts ringing the alarm bells. I suppose I just don't want to take the risk anymore.

I understand why work comes into the equasion, what with my mars being in the workaholic cap, but I can honestly say that anything concerning work has never been an issue, good or bad, for me. I've been with jobless, careerless, uninspired workwise, not loving their job, not working too hard, lazy on the job, workaholics, managers, floor fillers, etc... Alike and I've not loved them less for any of their work ethics or antics. What I do demand and might tie in with the cap is that I am a sucker for someone who can make me listen to them (cap=authority) and that they pull their weight equally around the house. What their work ethics are doesn't matter to me at all, then

In fact, the strange thing is that what I don't like done to me, I like doing for my men. If I had the funds, I'd most likely buy my partner clothes or items for no apparent reason and despite my claim that I can't get jealous, I do get slightly jealous and try to catch the man's attention when he notices a better looking girl than me. I've been clingy before but that was purely to chase men away... I still am commitment phobic, after all

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