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Topic: Torn between two guys. Help!
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featherlightly
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posted April 08, 2011 03:28 PM
  
I've never been interested in two people at once before, but WHAM, it just happened. I have a tendency to leap before I look in matters of the heart and end up with guys I'm not really compatible with (Venus in Aries square Neptune... oy), and I would be grateful for any outside input on this.I'm a health blogger and originally met both these people through my website. I've only met guy #1 in person so far; the other guy and I have talked extensively and exchanged some videos. Both live very far away from me, but I'm trying to relocate anyway, and would be happy to move where either of them live. Guy #1: Spent a full month visiting him. He's very nice, intelligent, same interests as me, very easy to be around, good chemistry (Venus-Mars conjunction), but... a little dull. He's very reserved in expressing affection, either physically or verbally, and my flattery-craving Leo moon hates that. Also feels like dating myself. We have very similar natal charts and the 6th house action is totally apparent -- when we're together all we do is work or take care of mundane things. He fits all my criteria on paper and I can't pinpoint anything that's "wrong," exactly, but it feels like the spark is missing. We're unofficially in a relationship, but haven't talked about being exclusive yet. Guy #2: Also a health blogger -- emailed me for the first time right after I got back from visiting guy #1. Wasn't expecting anything to come of it, but we clicked insanely well and have been talking daily, sometimes for hours. He's totally NOT what I usually go after -- but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't totally fascinated by him. Definitely less "dull" and more exciting than guy #1, and if my past Mars-moon conjunction experiences hold true here too, I think the chemistry will be amazing. He's throws compliments and verbal affection at me (unlike guy #1), which I love. But the synastry is difficult with a Mars-Saturn square and no in-orb aspects between sun/sun, sun/moon, or moon/moon... will this come back to bite me? Right now, I have the choice to travel next month to either visit guy #1 again and solidify our relationship, or go meet guy #2 a couple thousand miles away. I have NO IDEA what to do. I'm the inside ring on both charts. Guy 1:  Guy 2:  IP: Logged |
letram
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posted April 08, 2011 03:35 PM
guy one seems with a breif look, more compatible.compatible moon / venus / mars / suns IP: Logged |
featherlightly
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posted April 08, 2011 03:36 PM
Also maybe relevant: If I decide to go see guy #2 next month, it's going to coincide with my solar return, both his and my Venus returns, and Jupiter/Mars will be smack dab on my descendant.IP: Logged |
featherlightly
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posted April 08, 2011 03:45 PM
Thanks letram! He and I are definitely compatible. Very good friends, tons in common. I just feel like I may get bored with him -- he's so reserved and subtle, not affectionate.IP: Logged |
amowls**
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posted April 08, 2011 05:29 PM
Guy 2 is definitely more sultry.IP: Logged |
CrazyAquarian
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posted April 08, 2011 05:36 PM
Eros conjunct moon and eros conjunct DC with guy 2!IP: Logged |
featherlightly
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posted April 08, 2011 06:38 PM
Amowls: Yeah, sultry sure describes it. I'm way attracted to that. The connection I have with him feels totally primal.CrazyAquarian: You're right... I think the Eros stuff explains a lot of my attraction to him. He's not conventionally good-looking, pretty average in fact, but I find his voice/mannerisms/etc. a huge turn on. Ever since we started talking I've been having some R-rated dreams about him, haha. I've never had that happen before. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted April 08, 2011 06:51 PM
Saturn square saturn. karmic debt. You will be pulled to him and he too you. NOT pretty. Trust me.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted April 08, 2011 07:56 PM
Shouldn't you find sb closer to you?.. o_OI mean when I read the title of this thread, I was expecting something along the lines of you interacting with them often in person for an extended period of time... Not this whole online thing. Just my opinion. Don't think long distance things work out. IP: Logged |
melula
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posted April 09, 2011 02:29 AM
Yeah, I agree with mintgirl, especially with neptune conjunct your saturn with both guys... That suggests to me that you are really just seeing projections of yourself in them.I don't agree that long distance relationships can't work out, but with these guys there isn't really a solid basis to the relationship. IP: Logged |
featherlightly
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posted April 09, 2011 05:23 AM
Oh, I agree. It would be nice if I could find someone closer, but right now I live in a tiny town (less than 200 people) and know everybody here. I've been single for three years. I have a very unconventional lifestyle and it's difficult meeting people who have much in common with me, much less people who also live nearby, and most of my past relationships have started online as a result.The distance part is tough, but I'm looking to relocate soon anyway so it would only be temporary. Thanks for the input! IP: Logged |
featherlightly
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posted April 09, 2011 05:26 AM
I think I've answered my own question. I'm head-over-heels smitten with Guy #2. I'm going to have to meet him just to see if this translates in person or not. Ever since we started talking, we've both been having crazy coincidences happening... definitely feels like some karma even if it ends up being turbulent. IP: Logged |
featherlightly
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posted April 29, 2011 05:45 PM
Update: I booked a flight to go see guy #2 next month. I definitely like him more. He lives in Hawaii, so even if the whole thing blows up, at least I'll get a tan.  IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted April 30, 2011 04:57 AM
It definitely sounds like you like guy number two more. Darling, you should never ever ever EVER! settle for someone who doesn't make you feel loved. Expressing affection and "clapping" at each other's qualities like an audience celebrating a person on stage, are important to any healthy relationship. Love isn't love if isn't expressed. Because love makes you want to reach out and express yourself, and in turn makes both of your lives more full.
And love doesn't have a type! You don't either. You can love anyone....and sometimes the type you don't usually go for is the best type for you!I always let this song guide me as to what love is like:
It had to be you, it had to be you
I've wandered around, finally found somebody who
Could make me be true
Whoa whoa whoa could make me be blue
And, even be glad just to be sad thinkin' of you
Some others I've seen
Might never be mean
Might never be cross
Or, try to be boss
But, they wouldn't do For nobody else gave me a thrill
With all your faults, I love you still
It had to be you, wonderful you
It had to be you 'Cause nobody else gave me a thrill
With all your faults, I love you still now
And it had to be you, it just had to be you
It had to be you
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