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Topic: Is there anything worrying here?
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snarly Knowflake Posts: 161 From: u.k Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 11, 2011 11:59 AM
This is a friend/neighbours chart. On face value, he is friendly, easygoing and pretty normal. But, I have been getting to know his girlfriend, and I'm starting to have serious doubts about his intentions towards her. She has told me he is very controlling, belittles her in public, will not allow her to see her friends etc. I am standing back and trying not to make any judgements, but I have actually heard him having a go at her, and other people have said some not-so-pleasant things about him. In a nutshell, I am worried there may be scope for violence on his behalf. Is he really that bad? Sorry, no idea of birthtime atm, but I will post if I find out. IP: Logged |
snarly Knowflake Posts: 161 From: u.k Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 14, 2011 09:40 AM
TBH, before I looked at his chart, I expected to see a Scorpio influence, though his asc could be Scorpio...I'm guessing his own emotional issues are being projected onto his girlfriend as he just cannot cope with them himself. Would I be right in thinking that Saturn rx would signify immaturity? Especially as it's just in Gemini? He just seems so at odds with himself, and I think it's only him that can't see it. IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic Knowflake Posts: 254 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 14, 2011 10:15 AM
It's more likely to be her chart that shows she's projecting all of her power onto him. Has she got a scorp influence or strong pluto? It's easier for "strong" women to give their power away...we're not so attractive if we can fight our own battles. Sun square mars can be irritable, merc squ mars is argumentative, he's got sat squ plu which can be ruthless but it doesn't have to be channelled negatively. IP: Logged |
snarly Knowflake Posts: 161 From: u.k Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 08:23 AM
I'll post her chart so you can see... As you can see, she has a very strong pluto. This is interesting, as I kinda saw him exclusively as 'the nasty one'. Thing is, when I met him, he was with another girl, and she too seemed very cowed by him, and was very 'obedient'. I just don't want her to come to any harm, there have been tales of him being violent towards women, but without fact, they are just that - tales. But I know he is very economical with the truth... *scratches head some more* IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic Knowflake Posts: 254 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 09:04 AM
He maybe is nasty...but a bully always needs a victim, she doesn't have to be with him - but chooses to any way. I don't believe in "victims" in the traditional sense which I why I wondered about her chart. She may well be drawn to his intensity or desire for control, she may not want him to be evil towards her but if he can't control himself then he could be...she looks like she's got quite a lot of inner strength, so I'd imagine she'll be okay, but that veuns in scorpio will have very strong desires and she will be attracted to undercurrents (good or bad) and strong characters, it's just unfortunate that a lot of men (and women) who have some sort of "power" will possibly abuse it, especially if they know they can get away with it. IP: Logged |
snarly Knowflake Posts: 161 From: u.k Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 09:18 AM
Thanks, Dysfunctional - that kind of sums it up for me. I can feel the strength in her, yet she's so soft on him. She's only young, though, she's got a lot to learn!IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic Knowflake Posts: 254 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 10:21 AM
Yeah I only just noticed the age difference. I'm seeing someone a lot younger than me and I must admit I am very aware that sometimes my experience can be a bit intimidating...and I have to make a conscious effort that I don't overpower. I've got a venus/pluto conjunction and strong pluto but I'm the girl...If I didn't analyse everything I can see how easy it would be to dominate the relationships.IP: Logged |