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Topic: Pisces man confuses Aries girl
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JustJack79
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From: London
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 15, 2011 12:19 PM
  
Eight months ago at the happiest time of my life, been single for 2 years, this wonderful, mysterious, kind and romantic pisces man came into my life. I am from London and he is from Paris, we met in Amsterdam and had the most amazing night together. He then looked me up on facebook and for 6 weeks we chatted and talked on skype every single day. I then went and visited him for a weekend, which was by far the most romantic time of my life. I had to go to South Africa for 3 months (he sent me an email explaining that he loved me but that he was not in love with me, he wasnt ready to love again because he was really hurt from his previous relationship, but he did not want to lose me like this and that he would wait for me and that we will see where things go when I get back). We stayed in contact but after 6 weeks he started becoming distant, I thought it was just the distance and time and that once I get back things would go back to how it was. I thought of him all the time and always had hope that the strong bond would stay. I came back and contacted him, we arranged for me to go and see him again for a long weekend, he came to visit me 2 weeks later for 4 days en then I went and visited him again. By this point my feelings have grown even stronger - I was falling in love with him. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man and I just couldnt help these feelings. I was sure he had feelings for me too, there was such a stong connection and so many amazing memories. Anyway it all went pear shaped on my last night in Paris, we were at a friends house party he got jealous of me talking to another man (he obviously does not know how loyal and honest an arien girl is) and kinda ignored me the rest of the night. Well the next day I asked him if he was mine and he said no, I was quite upset by this and then told him that I was falling in love him and he said he wished he was in love with me but he was not, he doesnt know why, but maybe one-day. I then said that I wanted a man that knows what he wants and that if this is how things are then I cannot see him anymore. I then left in tears with a broken heart. He sent me a text message saying take care and all of the best, it's spring (new beginning) big kiss. I then deleted him from facebook. Two weeks later I emailed him saying that I think I might have run away too fast and that I would like things to go back to how they were and that I am willing to give him time if that is what he needs, and that I believe it was fate that brought us together that night in Amsterdam, I didnt want things to end like this etc etc. It has now been 2 weeks and I have still not heard from him, should I just give him time and if so how much time? or should I just move on and forget about him? PLEASE HELP IP: Logged |
Mblake81
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posted April 15, 2011 01:38 PM
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racole12
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posted April 15, 2011 02:44 PM
Pisces Men don't confuse just Aries women... they confuse all women. LOLIP: Logged |
racole12
Knowflake Posts: 942
From: the world is my home!
Registered: Feb 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 02:44 PM
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TrueTaurus
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From: California
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 02:53 PM
JustJack79, he told you twice already that he is not in love with you. He also said it's spring and time for a new beginning...I think you must move on. <3IP: Logged |
Lioness
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 04:00 PM
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Originally posted by racole12:
Pisces Men don't confuse just Aries women... they confuse all women. LOL
 OMG Im flipping dying here!!!!
(singing)
Tell me more... tell me more.. like does he have a car??? Ahw ahwww... IP: Logged |
starzy54
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 04:18 PM
Its terrible to fall in love with these men too soon,especially when they need a million years to make up their mind on if they are in love too.He probably has a lot of water in his chart.
Be thankful though that he has given you a somewhat direct answer "He is not in love".Thank goodness he didn't say anything that would point to strong feelings,and flip back and forth with them. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 04:31 PM
Ok - well often I've heard stories of Pisces men acting in a confusing manner... But I have to say this guy was very straightforward in telling you twice or three times that he was not in love with you even though he cares about you.I find that clear - and not that confusing. You can sometimes like someone and be physically attracted to them but it feels like 'something' is missing.
Maybe that is how it felt for him. I do personally think that you should move on.
Him saying "oh maybe one day I might feel in love" - is more like being polite and wishful thinking, so that he doesn't hurt your feelings (which he realises he has done).
That's how I would interpret it anyway. To be frank reading this - I'm kind of impressed that he was pretty honest.
You would not believe the ugly stories I've heard about Pisces men and from Pisces men involving all sorts of lies, half-truths and BS - This is actually not at all as negative as you might imagine. It gets much worse.
This one was pretty respectful.
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He sent me a text message saying take care and all of the best, it's spring (new beginning) big kiss.
He wasn't an ass. A Pisces being an ass - is him disappearing of the face of the planet saying -nothing-..
This one broke up with you - told you how he felt - wanted to be on good terms - said something sweet in txt the next day. It's actually not very Piscean behaviour ^ It almost sounds... dare I say it? Responsible??? lol IP: Logged |
starzy54
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posted April 15, 2011 04:44 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
It almost sounds... dare I say it? Responsible??? lol
HAHAHAHAH!
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Tyranny
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Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 15, 2011 04:54 PM
Yes, I think you should move on. He made it quite clear a number of times that the relationship wasn't going to work out. I'm sorry, and I wish you the best of luck getting over him. Some day, I have faith you'll fall in love with a man who feels just as you do.(Just by your title I could tell this wouldn't be a sugary sweet ending: Piscies men and Aries women aren't very good combinations for the most part) IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 15, 2011 05:11 PM
I agree that you should move on. I know it's hard and sad and it hurts, but this man is not a keeper. NO Aries woman should be with a guy who's not in love with her...or even who says he's not...that is a deal-breaker.You can't really know what your connection with someone is like in a long-distance relationship. The distance prolongs the heady, thrilling feeling of the early stages of things--especially if you do see each other occasionally--and can keep the other person in a fantasy role. He sounds immature and not prepared to have a real relationship. YOU sound like you really needed a bit of thrilling passion in your life, and this situation provided a bit....but consider it a transition, to finding a local guy who is mutually in love with you, to share your adventures with. IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 26
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 15, 2011 05:20 PM
Hi,I think you should move on, but be really flattered that he thought enough of you to behave so considerately (in the grand scheme of how a Pisces man could have behaved in that circumstance). He even said that he wasn't in love with you now, maybe one day. I personally wouldn't wait for that 'one day' because it isn't guaranteed, and I don't have the patience for it, but I would take it as a clear sign that he did have really strong feelings for you and there was nothing more you could have done to make him fall in love with you. It just wasn't his time. Hope that made some sense?! ------------------
"Vision without Action is a daydream... Action without Vision is a nightmare." IP: Logged |
mir
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posted April 15, 2011 06:52 PM
My first impression; forget him!My second; he's still in doubt because he didn't answer your last email and I really do not think Pisces is that blunt (at least not in my experience) and insensitive to JUST let-it-go-with-the-flow in THIS CASE! (I read your post).
He can't say YES, he can't say NO.. okay yes, that would be typically Pisces. I wonder if a Pisces could ever make a firm decision by himself, it seems he's always waiting for YOU to decide whether to continue or not.. (afraid as hell you'll expect too much)
So what I think is that you will get him back if you're fixed/convinced enough but keep in mind that he will offer you nothing more than what he promised he could give. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 07:51 PM
I don't know Mir.. I thought he wouldn't have answered the last email so that he does not start it all over again.
It has now ended and he is letting her get over it.
If he came back again he knows she would be unhappy again- they'd go round the same merry go round - and he doesn't want things to go on like this.
That's my feeling. I mean I am just thinking now from my own perspective - If I did not feel that strongly about someone and we got to a point where we broke up... I would hope and pray that he moves on and he is well and happy with someone else.
I would not contact him again or 'bite into' him contacting me... because it would only make things worse. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 655
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 08:06 PM
JJ -- If you are honest with yourself I think you'll see that what you said that night --"I then said that I wanted a man that knows what he wants and that if this is how things are then I cannot see him anymore." ^ Was the ****Truth****. And what you said in this later email, "I emailed him saying that I think I might have run away too fast and that I would like things to go back to how they were" ^ Was a panic reaction to things ending. I am positive you will get over this. He is not the right guy for you imo IP: Logged |
mir
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posted April 15, 2011 08:22 PM
Yes, you exactly described my first impression.. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted April 15, 2011 08:33 PM
The Pisces Guy I know is extremely blunt when confronted.. His words will knock you on the floor..
1. because you just dont expect it from him.
2. He just wiggs out.. LOL.. He will be blunt but in a nice way, kind of sugar coating things.. I can see how it gets misunderstood...
When the person doesnt get it.. He flipps out and goes off.. the thing about him... If anyone tells him they want something from him or gives him the impression, he goes into panic mood.. He runs.. He wants nothing more to do with her... He walks away and moves forward... I know this about him.. I know alot about him.. He has confided in me... One of his biggest fears is being alone, yet he doesnt want to feel pressured in any way to be tied down...
He does also like the challange... He's also told me that... He told me one time, he was dating this one girl and he took her to his house, and she said Oh this is a nice house.. I could live here...
He told me, F-that I took her home and never called her again...
The smallest thing sends him forever packing.. So to the og poster.. Im sorry I also think you have to move on....
I know its tough.. but it happens to all of us...
Those Pisces men can be so dreamy and passionate... A manly man in touch with his feminine side... We women just love it... IP: Logged |
Tyranny
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Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 16, 2011 12:09 AM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
He told me one time, he was dating this one girl and he took her to his house, and she said Oh this is a nice house.. I could live here...
He told me, F-that I took her home and never called her again...
The smallest thing sends him forever packing..
Whoa, now that's extreme. "I could live here" is a saying, not a beg for committment! He needs to take a chill pill and some good therapy lessons. Xd (no offense intended: just joking. Somewhat...Okay, not at all. Though he is funny..) ------------------
"Maybe it's not my weekend, but it's going to be my year." IP: Logged |
Tyranny
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Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 16, 2011 12:09 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Lioness:
He told me one time, he was dating this one girl and he took her to his house, and she said Oh this is a nice house.. I could live here...
He told me, F-that I took her home and never called her again...
The smallest thing sends him forever packing..
Whoa, now that's extreme. "I could live here" is a saying, not a beg for committment! He needs to take a chill pill and some good therapy lessons. XD (no offense intended: just joking. Somewhat...Okay, not at all. Though he is funny..) ------------------
"Maybe it's not my weekend, but it's going to be my year." IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted April 16, 2011 12:42 AM
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Originally posted by Tyranny:
Whoa, now that's extreme. "I could live here" is a saying, not a beg for committment! He needs to take a chill pill and some good therapy lessons. XD (no offense intended: just joking. Somewhat...Okay, not at all. Though he is funny..)
YEAP.. and yet I found him absolutely adorable!
See how neptune/moon... moon/pluto... venus/pluto messes with you....
LOLOLOLOL.... warning warning warning.... IP: Logged |
JustJack79
Newflake Posts: 2
From: London
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 16, 2011 06:25 AM
Thank you for all the replies, I know deep inside that I should just move on and that it would be the best thing for me. But it is not easy, Aries girls do not like to be rejected, we can't understand why this man is just not head over heels in love with her! But I know that he is not ready for the kind of commitment that I want. This could be due to him being younger than me (slightly immature) and he was badly hurt from his previous relationship. Anyway at least I know I am still capable of falling in love, just so disappointed that this did not work out, damn these dreamy, passionate fish and then on top of all he was French...IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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From: USA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 17, 2011 01:55 PM
That's why I don't date anyone who I'm not really really into. Why mess with heads, mine included, if I couldnt see myself with you forever and ever? Someone's bound to get hurt eventually when you have an argument and break up because the love wasn't strong enough. Or what if you actually get married and live miserably unhappy. I've known people that's happened to. They married their S.O. because they were at the age to get married.I'm a cancer and I've heard other cancer women say they hate pisces men because they can't make up their minds. So, maybe it's not due to Aries-Pisces incompatibility. IP: Logged |
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