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posted April 15, 2011 07:12 PM            

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I met this guy some time ago who yaks on and on and confuses the hell out of everyone. Seriously, you never know what his question is or even if he's asked one at times. He has a way of talking down to people and even exploding on them from time to time. Ever since he let me know his assumptions about me he's been giving me pitiful looks. I've mostly forgiven him, but feel that it's only a matter of time before it happens again. He usually acts shy with me when we're around other people and God forbid I talk to someone else or am ahead of him in any way then I get this glare that turns the pit of my stomach to ice.

I thought that maybe he was a Scorpio, but then thought Virgo because he's extremely organized (serial killers could take notes from him), Gemini because he's a talker and flip flops, and Cancer because of the non-stop mood swings. Hell, maybe he's a bipolar schizo. Any ideas of what sign he is or what the hell is going on in his birth chart? I only know what year he was born in and am thinking that his Saturn may possibly conjunct my Venus and Mars.

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posted April 15, 2011 07:17 PM            

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There could be some Leo in the mix too, he talks alot and wants the attention. Maybe Aqua/Pisces since people aren't understanding him. Plus Aqua can ramble alot once they get going.
I've noticed Caps can do that look down on people thing.

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posted April 15, 2011 07:45 PM            

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I don't know about Leo. He becomes pretty shy when everyone turns to him and he says things that are really inappropriate. He once said that he was going to lock me in a room to force me to talk to him because I wanted to leave. I didn't think much of it at the time, but it made me uncomfortable later on. I think you're right about Capricorn being in there. You never know when he's joking or serious because he rarely doesn't have a stern look on his face.

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posted April 15, 2011 08:22 PM            

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He sounds like he's trouble. Not like, Oh-God-Stay-Away-From-Him Trouble, but more like Something-In-His-Past-Has-Screwed-Him-Up-And-Now-He's-A-Walking-Mess Trouble. I mean, he seems controlling, mean, and unstable. He might even have Autism.

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posted April 15, 2011 08:57 PM            

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Tyranny, a few people have said the same. I thought about it and felt bad for him and then crawled back into the fetal position. His words sting and he once brought up everything I have ever said to him and criticized it all. I don't know enough about Autism to fill a sandwich bag, but he is a genius. He knows everything about everything. He was rather open about his life seconds before he tore me apart. I mostly avoid him as much as possible because I don't think I can keep undoing all of the damage. I can hardly say a few words to anyone without him looking at me like I don't have the right to.

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posted April 15, 2011 09:16 PM            

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Autistic people have a hard time with social hierarchies complex enough to look down on someone and would not be so extraverted withoout extreme educational interventions in early childhood. If he starts asking if japanese soldiers are in the bathroom or insists the newspapers are printing cryptic stories about him that's schizophrenia or schizoaffective (bipolar and schizophrenic). Bipolar is a possibility, especially if he says he can go without sleep and gets arrogant or spends all his money like crazy sometimes.

I think it's trauma related although bipolars and schizophrenics tend to go through certain types of trauma. Not sure about the sign. I could see gemini/cap with what you've said.

Seeing the genius part, I'm thinking trauma initiated kundalini that's imbalanced. Though I tend to think schizophrenia and bipolar are kundalini and I know there are other hindu gurus who agree with me there. Just stay away from him and when you can't, have as much compassion as possible to mitigate trauma on your hypothalamus (neuroscientifically what happens).

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posted April 15, 2011 09:36 PM            

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He once said that he was going to lock me in a room to force me to talk to him because I wanted to leave.

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Not good! He could have some imbalance or delusional side to him and thinks he owns you..... and that stare you said eeek. I'd be careful!

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posted April 15, 2011 10:16 PM            

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Mochai, ok he's never said anything that crazy (the silver lining in this). I say hi to him whenever I run into him, but am scared to start a conversation with him. After his stomping on my confidence, he kept looking at me like he was sorry. Still does. He's apologized to other people he's had harsh words with, but from what one of them said it sounded more like he was panicking rather than truly apologetic.

CrazyAquarian, I've noticed that I'm the only person that he'll avoid looking directly at when his friends are around, but when he's alone and I'm talking to someone it's chilling. If he had just smiled and laughed a little when he said he was going to lock me in the room with him my skin wouldn't have crawled later. He's even brought up things in conversation that left me stunned because I'd never told him any of it. What I did tell him, he kept bringing up each time I saw him afterwards. I just thought that this was all a part of Scorpio's extreme side of never letting things go.

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posted April 15, 2011 10:39 PM            

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Can you even ask him for birth data or sneak a peak at his license..

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posted April 15, 2011 11:05 PM            

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Lonake, it's not possible. I'm not close enough to him to do either. I'm just trying to guard myself from his verbal attacks at this point, so asking him for his birth data isn't likely. I just know that he was born in '78. Saturn was either in the late degrees of Leo or early to mid Virgo that year. It kind of feels like it's between my Venus and Mars conjunction from the description of these aspects that I've read.

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posted April 15, 2011 11:11 PM            

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People with Autism are often very smart, shy, and have bad social skills. (blurting out the wrong things, acting weird) And I also think that he might think he owns you. I think he probably likes you, and is very possessive of you.

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posted April 15, 2011 11:11 PM            

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People with Autism are often very smart, shy, and have bad social skills. (blurting out the wrong things, acting weird) And I also think that he might think he owns you. I think he probably likes you, and is very possessive of you.

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posted April 16, 2011 02:00 AM            

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Lonake, it's not possible. I'm not close enough to him to do either. I'm just trying to guard myself from his verbal attacks at this point, so asking him for his birth data isn't likely. I just know that he was born in '78. Saturn was either in the late degrees of Leo or early to mid Virgo that year. It kind of feels like it's between my Venus and Mars conjunction from the description of these aspects that I've read.

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Oh, I thought maybe this was someone you were maybe interested in.
That's good yea stay away.
I was sorta worried about you but now I see you're normal
He's not gonna see the light, he sounds stubborn and like he's got it all figured out, I wouldn't even talk to him, personally, if this happens,

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Ever since he let me know his assumptions about me he's been giving me pitiful looks. (...) God forbid I talk to someone else or am ahead of him in any way then I get this glare that turns the pit of my stomach to ice.

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posted April 16, 2011 08:09 AM            

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At first I did like him. He's gorgeous. Can't lie about that. Just thought he was a little odd at first. Then IT happened and I was confused as hell. No, as much as I would like passion I can't handle this.

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posted April 16, 2011 08:31 AM            

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Hiya

I would hazard a guess that he is Autistic, possibly at the Aspergers end of the spectrum.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

Do you think the info on wiki fits this guy?

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P.S. If it is Autism, then 'staying away' isn't your only option. If it is Autism and he is not actually dangerous to you, then he probably needs help to learn what is socially acceptable rather than being avoided. He'll never learn if everyone lets him do it but walks away. I realise it might not be your responsibility to help him learn, but does he have anyone in his life who could help him?

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posted April 16, 2011 10:07 AM            

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He has a few of the symptoms listed, but he doesn't have empathy for people below him (career-wise I mean). He's fully functional if he does have Autism. His vocabulary is rather larger than anyone's I have ever met. Sometimes when he repeats what he thinks I said it's not at all similar. He doesn't have a problem with looking people in the eye, but it's intense. He's not clumsy and doesn't obsess over just one thing. Nor is he repetitive in conversation (he doesn't repeat himself at least). When he asks a question it's usually in a long-winded way, which is what confuses people. He doesn't like simple, straight to the point answers, at least not from me.

He does have someone whom he's close to. He even has a girlfriend, so not everyone's walked away from him. I have to because he talks to me like I'm a child who needs to be put in their place. He just brings up too many emotions for me from my childhood and I can't handle it. These are things that I worked really hard to get over and he has no idea or simply doesn't care that he's gone too far.

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posted April 16, 2011 11:18 AM            

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My brother has aspergers and my step brother is autistic. I was friend with another person with aspergers syndrome. I used to have a job looking after an autistic person and I will be living with an autistic man here in a month. The guy is not autistic. You guys are jumping to conclusions.

Kundalini expressions are different. The guy has a toxic energy system and that'll make for some crazy angry agitated expression/reactions that might be panicky. It also can make someone a genius.

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posted April 16, 2011 12:17 PM            

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Doesn't sound like Aspergers to me. I dated a guy with Aspergers and the not making eye contact thing is a BIG indicator. Aspies are also somewhat child-like in demeanor, this guy doesn't seem that way. He's probably just a freak lol.

I'd say Aquarius if I were to hazard a guess, but really I'm sure there are lots of things going on in his chart.

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posted April 16, 2011 01:25 PM            

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I didn't say that he is Autistic or has Aspbergers. I'm just describing him. A lot of people say that there's something wrong with him and my quick diagnosis is that he can be a socially awkward a$$hole. I do think that he has gone through something difficult because it's almost as if he attacks people before they can do the same to him. Judging from the symptoms listed on wiki we must all have some form of Autism. Sorry for the confusion and implying that he does have it, but like I said I don't know much about it.

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posted April 16, 2011 02:18 PM            

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My brother has aspergers and my step brother is autistic. I was friend with another person with aspergers syndrome. I used to have a job looking after an autistic person and I will be living with an autistic man here in a month. The guy is not autistic. You guys are jumping to conclusions.

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My son is Autistic, and through him I know many children and adults with Autism, incl Aspergers. I have not jumped to a conclusion, I just wanted to present it as something to consider. You are the one who has categorically said that he is not autistic; that may be the case but I don't think you should be so definite when you don't even know the person in question.

Delilah - sorry if I got ahead of myself in suggesting it, hope you manage to get out of this situation ok.

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posted April 16, 2011 07:58 PM            

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Rachel, it's ok. Reading the descriptions I've given he does seem like he has something.

I just read on cafeastrology that Mercury in hard aspect to Saturn can cause a person's speech to be harsher than they intend. I wish I had his birth data. It would make things a lot easier than guessing.

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posted April 17, 2011 01:50 AM            

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Yaks on
Confuses the hell out of everyone
Mood swings
Superiority complex...

My first bet would be a Gemini, and then Leo. They're a sucker for the dramatics and they're the only ones who think enough of themselves to blatantly look down on someone.

However, Geminis are known for having their mood swings at random. They can be enraged and sobbing within 5 minutes. They're definitely ramblers, and they ramble so fast that it's almost like vomiting words. Naturally someone who's used to logical conversation will get confused!

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posted April 17, 2011 01:51 AM            

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Yaks on
Confuses the hell out of everyone
Mood swings
Superiority complex...

My first bet would be a Gemini, and then Leo. They're a sucker for the dramatics and they're the only ones who think enough of themselves to blatantly look down on someone.

However, Geminis are known for having their mood swings at random. They can be enraged and sobbing within 5 minutes. They're definitely ramblers, and they ramble so fast that it's almost like vomiting words. Naturally someone who's used to logical conversation will get confused!

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posted April 17, 2011 04:30 AM            

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Hey, I've known three people who are like you described...and they were all geminis.

The craziness may be due to the fact that I went to an arts school.

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posted April 17, 2011 03:33 PM            

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I don't know if he cries, but he does go off on people at least once a week and pretends it's nothing while his victims are left wondering what happened and why. He always looks sad when I see him now and before he seemed like a fish out of water.

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