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Topic: Astrology three way.
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Pixienoire
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posted April 18, 2011 04:01 PM
  
The synastry chart and composite chart below are of a couple that have been married for 14 years.   Now the following synastry and composite chart are between the woman from the two charts above, and her lover.   Morality aside, in your astrological opinion, which of these relationships will end up lasting? Will the married couple pull through? Or will the woman and her lover ultimately end up starting a life together? IP: Logged |
melula
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posted April 18, 2011 05:31 PM
Interesting topic pixie,There is of course the possibility that the marriage fails and the woman doesn't start a life with her lover. But, if I had to choose, I would say the married couple have the stronger chart together, with the saturn- mars conj, and then the mercury-jupiter, whereas the lovers don't seem to have a saturn contact to suggest long lasting relationship. IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic
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posted April 18, 2011 05:51 PM
What do you mean there's no saturn? In them charts between her and her lover her moon/nep is con his sun/sat/uranus.the 2nd comp looks more stable..interestingly the comp with her hubby has uranus in 8th and the one with lover has saturn. Pixie...do you know if she feels more like she's cheating on her lover with her husband? IP: Logged |
Pixienoire
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posted April 18, 2011 05:57 PM
I was just going to say that it seems like she has more flowing Saturn aspects with her lover than she does with her husband. With her lover she has a Saturn-Moon conjunction. The Saturn-Neptune conjunction is also nice.I've never read anything good about Saturn-Mars conjunctions. They seem very restricting. Yes, she feels more like she is cheating on her lover with her husband. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted April 18, 2011 06:35 PM
Why are you referring to yourself in the 3rd person?You put :30 for 2 birth times, on the half hour, so houses may or may not be off..
Anyway, I see your Mercury involved in a v.nice grand trine with the guy on the side, but with your husband it's afflicted by his Sun/Moon which can amount to not feeling heard. The composites funny or not both have an afflicted Sun in the 12th, tho the orb in both is a bit wide. The composite with your husband looks more stable, at first glance. However the heavy emphasis on Neptune/Pisces/12th isn't ideal in the long run. The square from Saturn to Uranus from 6th to 8th says there are conflicts between daily monotony and then wanting to break free, that Uranus is involved in a grand trine with personal planets in the 12th, so if this were a marriage I would think they may be open to an open arrangement to keep it going if need be. However the 12th inclines to secrecy or to a bond that doesn't show in public. Both composites have the Dsc ruler (Mercury) in the 12th. Your natal Mercury is also in the 12th. Your natal plays into this with the Sun in the 12th ruling your 5th house of love affairs. It's square Mars in the 4th which rules your 12th house of self undoing, so that is something you should keep in mind. I would think it doesn't feel exactly comfortable to have all this playing out like it does, to have these repeating patterns in your love life. Your natal Venus, big deal since it rules the Taurus Asc and is conj the Asc, squares Saturn (not so good for self esteem) and it conjuncts both of the composite Jupiters in the 3rd, there is an increased lightness (or was anyway) with both at some point regarding how you feel about yourself. It opposes your husband's Venus, trines his Merc, sextile his Saturn. And pretty much nothing to the young guy. Overall, I like the synastry with the husband at least as showing more of a continued contact, maybe there are children involved or a business or something that would make it difficult to completely break ties. But I think you're so attuned to these types of affairs that this new person if you choose to leave the husband that he will be a stepping stone, he's not gonna be able to give you what you want in the long run. So it's sorta, doesn't really matter which, just pick whoever floats your boat cos your general tendency isn't going to be stability unless you make changes, lots of gray areas here. You have Dsc ruler Pluto in the 6th in a tight opposition to Mercury in the 12th which rules the 2nd which tells me you have a frame of mind in a sense where relationships are grueling, involve power struggles and there has to be someone who comes out on top. This is echoed in a way with Venus/Saturn which reflects controlling partners, either them controlling you or vice versa or maybe switching roles back and forth. Mercury ruling the 2nd house of self worth in the 12th house of self undoing/secrets speaks for itself since we're talking of your frame of mind. Moon is the 3rd house ruler it's placed in the 8th house of shared resources trine that afflicted Saturn, which shows potential to marry well, but then it's conj Neptune which again brings up a picture of blurring the lines regarding relationships. Either way relationships aren't very easy territory. Saturn's in the 5th, another variation on the theme. You basically have a lot of Venus/Saturn/Neptune going on which skews things and reflects complicated matters. IP: Logged |
Pixienoire
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posted April 18, 2011 07:36 PM
You are exactly correct. I do not feel heard at all by my husband and he is emotionally cold, Where as with the other guy, I feel heard and very loved.It is odd how both composites have Sun in the 12th. It makes sense to me as to why the other guy and I have Sun in the 12th (hidden relationship) but it makes no sense to me as to why my husband and I have Sun in the 12th being that our relationship has never been hidden, or has dealt with any 12th house issues. At least in the synastry between both, I've noticed a lot of common aspects that I share between both men. This is definitely not a common theme in my love life. I am not the sort of person that randomly has flings when involved in a relationship. This is the first time this has ever happened, and it does not feel comfortable at all because this isn't what I want. My self esteem is not the greatest. You are right about the increased lightness.
I do feel a lot of love for both men, more so the other guy, and I do have more of a history with my husband and have children. I am not so sure that I would leave my husband for this other man no matter how unhappy I may be due to the duties I have for my children, and what's best for them come before anything else. Even though I feel this other person would make me happier emotionally than I am now. He does meet all of my emotional needs. But being a Taurus, it isn't just about emotions, I need stability as well. So basically for my husband and I to break things off, it would probably have to be his decision, not mine. But I guess I've surprised myself before, so it's possible. My husband is very controlling in our relationship. A lot of times it feels very Parent-Childish. I tend to wear rose tinted glasses when it comes to my idea of how relationships should be as well. I want storybook romance and love, and I think that's one reason why I was drawn to this other guy is because he makes me feel as if I am living in a fairytale. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted April 18, 2011 07:48 PM
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it makes no sense to me as to why my husband and I have Sun in the 12th being that our relationship has never been hidden, or has dealt with any 12th house issues.
The affair is kind of a Sun h12 issue, if he doesn't know about it; if he condoned it from the beginning then it would be a bit different. I don't know about your relationship so I couldn't say yes or no re:h12 issues, but Sun h12 has component of a relating that goes on behind the scenes that is not readily shown to others, a secret relationship is an option, but so is a couple who are warm when together and somewhat standoffish in public, or the reverse, the main idea is just that there is relating that is not consistent with how they portray their relationship in public quarters. Hope that makes sense, am writing pretty fast right now.IP: Logged | |
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