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Topic: Why did he react like this/why doesn't he react how I intend??
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RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 245
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 24, 2011 10:32 AM
  
Hi all,The sign I struggle most to understand, is Taurus. Can anyone help me? I've read all sorts of descriptions and books, but I still can't get my head to shift in to their 'gear' so to speak. Example, yesterday I texted our friend (Taurus male) that we will be able to attend an event on Monday and that I was looking forward to it. (If you want my exact wording I can post it). I cannot understand why he has not responded telling me he is also looking forward to it. Harumph. Also, my kneejerk reaction is to send another text saying "Hi, did you get my text, where's my "ohh good I'm looking forward to seeing you guys too!!" reply??  "
but I'm thinking that knowing him, I would get no reply and that would make me even more annoyed lol. Someone please help me understand why some people (Taureans mostly) don't respond the way I want them too, and how I could shift the way I say things to illicit more of a response! Pleeeeease! Rachel x
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Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 1519
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 24, 2011 10:35 AM
Well, at least you are doing something unheard of, being pro-active on behalf on the female race.Hopefully don't have to keep saying this, but, what is his asc? Taurus sun means nothing in terms of personality. IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 245
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 24, 2011 10:42 AM
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Originally posted by Coffee:
Well, at least you are doing something unheard of, being pro-active on behalf on the female race.Hopefully don't have to keep saying this, but, what is his asc? Taurus sun means nothing in terms of personality.
Libra. Oddly enough, I've just posted his chart on another thread (http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/208074.html) asking for help on understanding a discrepancy in the Mars and Mercury descriptions because I am trying to do a (simple) chart for him for his birthday (which I now have to give him tomorrow so have little time to do it lol). Here is his chart, in case it helps:   Interestingly, my sister in law is also a Taurus, with Virgo rising and she does the same to me - its so annoying, I feel invisible. None of my other friends or family do it to me at all! Thanks,
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Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 1519
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 24, 2011 10:54 AM
He is Libra rising, with 1st ruler in Pisces. Libra is the sign all about the reaction. As Aries is on the 7th cusp, he expects the partner to initiate. With 1st ruler in Pisces, I guess you could expect him to 'duck out' of actions in the way a Piscean would avoid confrontation. I don't know why, but can only say that if he saw this post on here, he would likely get rid straight away. Some people do not like their life and personal details on the net. Especially when every move is documented, seeking advice from a forum full of people. Are you being too pushy, or just that one text? Do you always initiate? More of a problem page question this. IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 245
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 24, 2011 11:06 AM
HiyaThanks for the info, I hadn't realised that about Aries on the 7th cusp so that does help me understand it. He really doesn't use the internet too much so he's unlikely to see this, but I don't think he'd mind anyway. I just sent that one text, nothing else. I do have a tendency to be pushy, well that is to come across pushy - I think it is actually more that I'm impatient. If I am ready for a reply now, I don't want to have to wait lol. I sometimes struggle to remember the world doesn't revolve around me lol - but I am aware of it and trying to control it. I would say that I initiate about half the time, but we don't see him or his family more than a few times a year really so most of our contact is hi how are you type texts every few weeks. Oddly enough - as I was typing this, he's just replied saying its great that we can come up tomorrow and what time are we getting there. I so need to work on understanding myself, and how I could come across to others. I still find Taureans difficult though! Thanks again
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littlecloud
Moderator Posts: 959
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted April 24, 2011 12:38 PM
Maybe you should post your chart.IP: Logged |
hannarama
Knowflake Posts: 75
From: edmond,oklahoma, united states
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted April 24, 2011 12:45 PM
It's inconsiderate, yes, but that's how Taurus' are. He probably assumed you would assume he got your text whether or not he replied thus he didn't think it was necessary to send a confirmation text back to you. That's how Taureans think, practically. Not to mention he's also a guy and while some guys are into communication (Do you have any Gemini male friends?) a lot of them are usually in their own world. I have a guy friend who takes HOURS to respond to texts because texting simply isn't important to him, he'd rather you just pick up the phone and call if you'd like to talk. I also briefly saw you said your Taurus friend doesn't use the internet that much. The texting and the not using the internet means he's probably got himself busy with other more productive things that he won't drop just to accommodate your expectations (not being mean, just saying). I have a Taurus moon and sometimes I behave like that. Honestly my lack of response to a text like that would never dawn on me unless you pointed it out. IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 245
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 24, 2011 12:52 PM
hannarama - thanks for that insight, that seems logical and very plausible. I never feel that a lack of reply is malicious in any way. I hadn't linked the lack of computer use - he doesn't even have a Facebook account lol and only used IM for about 2 weeks, a long time ago lol - but it is probably the same reason he is slow on the texting front. The busy with other things is spot on, I'm sure... thing is, is there a way to phrase something to make it more respond-to-able for a Taurus, or is it unlikely to change lol?Rachel x ------------------
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amowls**
Knowflake Posts: 319
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 24, 2011 02:35 PM
I mean, why do you need him to say that? I don't respond to texts if responses are not needed. If someone texted me that I would say "k, cool"IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 245
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 24, 2011 03:04 PM
amowls - that's what I need to think about... IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 774
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 24, 2011 07:00 PM
I'm not sure about this guy in particular. But generally men are brief in sms and email (or at least briefer than women).
On average women also talk at least twice as much as men (I cannot remember the exact statistic but I'm sure it was higher than this).Add to this ^ -- if he does not have much air in his chart --- and there's your answer! IP: Logged |
blugrey
Knowflake Posts: 598
From: Portland, OR USA
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted April 24, 2011 07:33 PM
Yeah um.. maybe it's cuz he simply doesn't feel it's necessary to reply to? Anyway, I think texts are more about ntk info rather than have conversations. I typically take a while to respond to texts just because I'm absentminded. I'm not a man though. IP: Logged |
hannarama
Knowflake Posts: 75
From: edmond,oklahoma, united states
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted April 25, 2011 12:54 AM
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Originally posted by RMChex:
Is there a way to phrase something to make it more respond-to-able for a Taurus, or is it unlikely to change lol?Rachel x
No, LOL. He's a bull! The more you try to get them to change (and they do know when you are doing this, which only infuriates them) the more they will absolutely dig their heels in and say no. If you leave them be and just give them an idea to mull over and they agree with it, then yes they will begin to change (note, I said 'begin' haha) besides, a text is petty to them and they'd just disregard it. As for why you feel the need for him to text you back... anxiousness because when you're on the sending end, you're not the one with the upper hand? IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 245
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 07, 2011 05:36 PM
Hi there,I just wanted to update this thread and thank everyone for the insight you were able to give me. Through astrology, on Lindaland specifically, I have been able to see my attitudes and behaviour in a different light. I'm not saying I have changed who I am, but I am able to see things from someone else's point of view much easier now. The communication with this Taurus friend has been incredible since I made this discovery - and having looked back through the last few years, I can see reasons for so many of our arguments. I feel so enlightened, and really grateful to Lindaland. Much love to all! Rachel x ------------------
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Doux Rêve
Knowflake Posts: 413
From: Somewhere over the rainbow
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 07, 2011 05:48 PM
Rachel, I am glad things are better with your Taurus friend.And it's a good thing you can learn from this forum, we all do.  IP: Logged |
roadwarriorsdp
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posted May 07, 2011 06:02 PM
Seventh house sun...extremely charismatic individual, no wonder you are trying so hard to engage with himmore evidence for the calssical interpretation of astrology that the sevent house rules charisma and magnetism/. IP: Logged |
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