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Topic: My Aquarius is a Werewolf.
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esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 94
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 28, 2011 10:43 AM
  
We've been married for eight years. Eight very unfulfilling, unsatisfying years. He goes through moods of crazy anger that I feel comes out of left field. I tell him unhappy, and his usual answer is "If you don't like it, then leave." He says it so nonchalantly that I don't know what to do.Every few months or so, he gets crazy. He blames me for life. His words are lethal, hurtful, and downright violent. He also hits me sometimes, and loves calling me the worst possible names on earth. He lets out all this anger, and expects me to not care, and act like nothing ever happened. I can't, because I get disappointed. It this how he really feels? Today he told me to get divorced and go on Welfare. He told me that he hates me, is disgusted of me and wishes that I would divorce him. We were good two days ago. He curses out my family, acts like I'm spending his money (and I don't, to a fault) and that I "don't listen." I've really lost a lot of self esteem and self value because he's always calling me names, putting me down, and makes me feel worthless. And he brings up the past, the hurtful past, which I want to forget. He went out, he'll come back after a few hours, calm and collected, and will be shocked (as always) that I'm still hurting and sad. And he will do nothing about it. I want to divorce, but I'm scared, and have so much worry, as our children are still very small, 6,4 and 3 years old. And I'm not employed. Also, he's a horrible father. He hits and yells and spits at his kids. What in his chart shows this werewolf-like effect? Is there any way I can help him curb it, or avoid it. Any transits that will get him crazy like this, maybe I'll visit my mom that day/week? My husband's chart:
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amowls**
Knowflake Posts: 291
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 28, 2011 10:53 AM
You should leave him. There's nothing really to say except that. Do you have any friends or family you could stay with so you can get your life together? Or at least, you should secretly search for jobs and apartments or SOMETHING to set your life up before you actually have to walk. What if he gets extremely violent (and he's already violent clearly) and threatens your life that you have leave immediately and you have no where to go? You shouldn't stick around.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 108
From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 28, 2011 11:15 AM
agreed.
That is what you want to hear and that is what you should hear and you should just take the leap of faith and know the Universe will provide. Get a plan in place. Enact it.
Do not look back. You have the law on your side. This is 2011. No woman raising small children will be uncared for. This is not a matter for astrology, it is a matter for life. I didn't even look at the chart.Do it. Yesterday.
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bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 372
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 28, 2011 11:18 AM
Don't waste your time with charts.
Spits at his kids? Hits you?
Ghastly man. Get rid...IP: Logged |
Yrone
Knowflake Posts: 88
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Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 28, 2011 11:27 AM
Get out of there please, for yourself and for your kids.Don't be scared of making it on your own, nothing out there is that bad that it is worth gambling on the mental stability of someone who lets out his frustrations on the weaker. IP: Logged |
Yrone
Knowflake Posts: 88
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Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 28, 2011 11:31 AM
I wanted to add:I grew up in a home where I was beaten and emotianlly abused for all of my teen years basically. No, not my parents, my grandmother, but my parents knew and did nothing.
My mother was too weak to protect us from her mother even so she lived it in her youth. I do not hate my mother, but I am very much emotionally detached from both my parents.
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 9021
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 28, 2011 11:51 AM
Yrone  ------------------
If you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will forgive you
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses,neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 9021
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 28, 2011 11:51 AM
Yrone ------------------
If you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will forgive you
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses,neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Lioness
Knowflake Posts: 2154
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Registered: Mar 2010
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posted April 28, 2011 04:52 PM
Thanks for sharing your story.. First I would like to say I have been there.. This man will never change, and going to your mom's on certin days wont stop it either.. This man has anger inside of him, he is using you as an excuse to release that anger..
He intentonally lowers your self esteem, so you WONT leave.. So you will feel you "deserve it"..
You do deserve IT! and so do your kids.
You deserve love and happiness.. You can empower yourself to release your self of the power he has over you, you dont need him.. You can do it with out.. You WILL manage it!!! I am woman hear me ROAR!! Honestly arent the kids better off w/o him?
He's only goin to get worse.. Hasnt he??
No matter what it WILL NOT GET BETTER.
Your lesson here is you are worthy, take control and just DO it! do what you have to do.. I am speaking from personal experience here.. I was in the same situation. I was YOUNG with a baby and no family, no where to go.. The road was not easy.. I went through hard times... But its the best thing I EVER did for myself.. Remember This:
The hardest paths are usually the best paths..
We must gain our strength and will power to in act change, and start a new life, go to new directions..
I wish you the best... If you need to talk please let me or ANYONE else know..
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maira
Knowflake Posts: 281
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted April 28, 2011 04:53 PM
I'm learning from my therapy sessions that before giving solutions, one should always listen to what the other person has to say. My opinion may be controversial, but it seems to me that esheep is nowhere near making the decision to leave this man, "my husband" in her words - no matter how abusive he is. I'm really sorry for what you are going through, esheep! I looked at your husbands chart and transits, but my intuition doesn't tell me much. The opposition from the moon to his stellium means that his needs and wants will always be in conflict. There's no outer planet hitting hard that stellium. I doubt that Uranus inconjunct would wreak so much havoc. I'll post the chart in astro format, there are far more experienced people on this site who could answer your question. Could you post yours too?  IP: Logged |
crabbypatty
Knowflake Posts: 450
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 28, 2011 05:41 PM
Esheep__ they are all right, you know. No wonder you were mooning over the Scorpio neighbor. Your husband is a poor excuse for a man. Will you let me help you? If I can? I will be happy to talk over the weekend. IP: Logged |
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