posted May 01, 2011 07:19 PM            

My crazy Aquarius husband wants to wisk me and my kids away to his home country to "try it" for a few months. I've been born, raised and never left America. I wouldn't know how to rough it in the mountains of Jordan. I'm scared to death.

I've been really thinking of that divorce option, but again, I'm scared of what's to become of me and my three little boys. Sometimes I really believe it's something that I'm doing wrong. Right now, I see that I'm doing nothing wrong, that it IS all him. Tomorrow, ask me again. I'll pretend that it's all my fault.

He's very abusive, both mental and physical, although it's been about a year since he REALLY hit me. Our neighbors are from the same nationality and I guess he's afraid of what they may think of him. There is no security in our relationship, and he's done and said things to me that will never allow me to trust him.

But I don't know how the stars and planets are affecting me. I'm just feeling bad. Real bad.

I've got a Grand Fire trine. I go to the gym regularly, and although i expel massive amounts of energy, I still feel lost, sad, unsure...

I wonder what I can do to better myself. How can I get out of this emotional rut I'm in? How can I start believing that I'm worthy of a better life than I'm in. To get the courage to leave this guy, and go off on my own, and not look back?

My chart:

posted May 01, 2011 07:26 PM            

How do you know he's not picking up that you want to leave him and that's why he wants you out of the US? I can't believe you're even considering going with him after all you've wrote about him.

posted May 01, 2011 09:04 PM            

Please,research this!

posted May 01, 2011 09:50 PM            

No living being should -ever- be subjected to that.. and mental abuse is far worse than physical abuse. Contact family, seek a woman's shelter and leave now! Jupiter will be transiting conjunct your sun. Fortune is with you..

Cycles of abuse are extremely hard to stop in families. If not for yourself.. do it for your children. Abusers only have as much power as you give them.. What will you do when you're 50 and your daughter in law calls you crying because your son hit her and she wants a divorce? Do it for your children and your children's children. Your life is much larger than just your own..

posted May 01, 2011 10:20 PM            

Please please please PLEASE contact a women's shelter. You can stay there free for up to 90 days in most circustances. I'm guessing you're still in the NY area but here's a very large list.. http://www.usattorneylegalservices.com/woman-shelter-NY.html

There is nothing wrong with using assistance to help yourself. Don't live with the regret. These creeps will keep abusing women until they realize they cannot get away with it.

posted May 01, 2011 11:29 PM            

Physical Integrity:
Violence against women – particularly domestic violence – is common. Women have only limited legal protection through broader provisions on battery and assault within the Penal Code. Social awareness of domestic violence has increased, but there is no specific legislation that criminalises such violence and incidents are rarely reported. So-called honour killings do occur in Jordan. Critics argue that provisions in the Penal Code justify (at least to some extent) these crimes by allowing for lower penalties when a crime is committed in rage following an unlawful act by the victim.

Civil Liberties:
Women in Jordan have limited civil liberty. Current restrictions to women’s freedom of movement arise mainly from social norms, but this was not always the case: prior to 1976, husbands had the legal right to prevent their wives from traveling. Recent amendments to the Passport Act give women the right to apply for their own passports without having to obtain permission from their husbands. According to a study by Hassan, legal restrictions on women’s movement remain in other areas of daily life: women are not allowed to work between 8:00 pm and 6:00 am

posted May 02, 2011 09:28 AM            

Is that a rhetorical question because this is not the first post about your alleged pig of a husband. Yet here you are still complaining. If you are waiting/expecting/hoping he is going to change…… you have got more hope of extracting bacon from your elbow.

Is enduring your situation really worth having your rent paid? No need to answer, that was a rhetorical question. There is no easy way out or you would have already taken it, sure it will be hard but its not impossible. So you have a Grand Fire Trine. How lovely. Use it.

I know of a woman with kids who stayed in an abusive situation for ‘financial reasons’ and not wanting to ‘go it alone’. Many years on and she’s going it alone alright – the prick eventually dropped dead and her now adult children have cut all ties due to the years of abuse they were subjected too because she chose to stay. She is a broken and bitter woman - considering her choices how on earth did she think there could be a happy ending.

Your chart is very active right now, progressed Sun (26°Tau) is conjunct Algol and squaring natal Mars and is within 1° of squaring the natal nodes. The January eclipse was on your Asc/Des axis and transiting Saturn is now squaring that. There is a truckload of Aries energy about to conjunct your Sun. Maybe it is time to step up to the plate and leave if that is what you really want to do.

Jordan???

posted May 02, 2011 09:41 AM            

Leave him. Seriously.

posted May 15, 2011 04:54 PM            

I was in a similar situation as you. With an abusive partner. I know what you mean by it's been a year since he 'REALLY' hit you. I made those excuses to myself. He wanted to take me overseas too and even threatened that he would kill me over there. I knew that me going overseas with him meant that everything he did to me would happen 100x worse that if one day he got angry enough to kill me that I would die. I would be dead with no one knowing who I am and why I was dead. Possibly not even caring why I was face down in a river somewhere.

posted May 16, 2011 07:16 AM            

At the very least, tell your husband that you can't go now. If he wants to go, you can stay with your parents and see how you feel in a month or so but you can't go with him, as it doesn't feel right.

You have ONE life. Don't waste it being unhappy. This is not a dress rehearsal.

(((((hugs)))))

(also posted in the Scorpio letter thread because I believe it needs saying twice...)