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Topic: Making Friends With Ex
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Joey123k
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Far And Beyond
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 02:14 AM
  
Once again I have to ask for advice....My Cousin who is 16 just had his first relationship break-up after dating for 6 months...he is crazy about the girl still but now the girl wants to be friends with him so he came to me for advise since he thinks of me as his role model. unfortunatly i have no clue what advice to give him so again i have come to the experts....ahhh young love  so you guys thinks its healthy if they become friends coz im thinking its not a great idea since he still has feelings for her!IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 241
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 03:54 AM
Hiya,How great is it that he could come to you, and just as great that you're not being too proud to ask others for help. Woo hooo for communication!! It is possible to be friends with an ex, even if one side still has feelings, but it will take a while to adjust. They may need to put some distance there for a few weeks until he can begin to see her without feeling any longing or nostalgia. If the friendship is worth it, she will give him that space and they will be able to come back together as friends when the time is right. Sorry that probably doesn't help much, someone might have some better advice. Good luck... Rachel x ------------------
Where possible, give people a piece of your heart, not a piece of your mind. IP: Logged |
Joey123k
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Far And Beyond
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 04:05 AM
Hahaha why would i be too proud to ask for help. i mean its not like my pride will help my cousin lol..thanx rach  ------------------
For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
Audrey Hepburn IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
Knowflake Posts: 404
From: Somewhere over the rainbow
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 06, 2011 04:06 AM
Personally I think he will hurt too much.He needs time alone, away from her.
Seeing her and knowing she doesn't feel the same anymore will make things very difficult for him. But that is only my opinion. IP: Logged |
Venus
Knowflake Posts: 122
From: Beirut, Lebanon
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 04:44 AM
i agree with DR.
especialy at 16 he's way too vulnreable, i would say he should keep distance for a while and then see how he feels. And always keep his head held high..teenage heartbreaks! i still havn't gotten over them! IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 774
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 06, 2011 04:55 AM
Hi! Can you post their synastry?IP: Logged |
Joey123k
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Far And Beyond
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 05:30 AM
Im sorry betty i have no clue about their synastry...i only know mt cousins a leo thats bout it hahahayea thats what i was thinking that he shouldnt be friends with her just yet...maybe after he is healed and in a more healthy place then he can be friends with her if he wants... well they have their holidays in a few days so im calling him over at mine so we can just go out and do some guy stuff...should i be aware of any helpful activities which will help immensly? ------------------
For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
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RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 241
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 05:47 AM
One thing to be aware of, I think, is for him to be open and honest with her at any point. Its no good him pretending he is fine if he isn't because that isn't what friendship is about. He needs to be honest, and if he's not ready to be over her, then she needs to know that. If he genuinely does want to be friends, then it could be worth him making sure she knows that he feels some distance is necessary to start with, but it is not because he never wants to be friends.Activity-wise, I don't think there's much. Perhaps avoid doing anything that is a big favourite of hers, or one that will have you surrounded by adoring loved-up couples. Lots of boy stuff, whatever the grown up version of climbing trees is, lol! ------------------
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RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 241
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 05:50 AM
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Originally posted by Joey123k:
Hahaha why would i be too proud to ask for help. i mean its not like my pride will help my cousin lol..thanx rach
Oh I meant to answer this - because you're a guy! So many guys I know just will not admit that they need anyone for anything lol - ever heard the old 'men won't ask for directions' thing?! Rach x ------------------
Where possible, give people a piece of your heart, not a piece of your mind. IP: Logged |
Joey123k
Knowflake Posts: 61
From: Far And Beyond
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 06, 2011 06:58 AM
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Originally posted by RMChex:
Oh I meant to answer this - because you're a guy! So many guys I know just will not admit that they need anyone for anything lol - ever heard the old 'men won't ask for directions' thing?! Rach x
AHAHAHA oh yea i forgot guyz had that problem...lol i dont ask for directions...thats what my gps is for ..anywho activity wise i think ima take him skydiving coz he sounded enthusiastic when he found out i did it, might go for a surf play some pool, game a lil, maybe hit on a few chicks the usual guy stuff
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For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
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starfox
Knowflake Posts: 199
From: London England
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted May 07, 2011 04:52 PM
He's young, there will be many other girls for him to love.
On this planet there are millions of attractive single girls of his age, so why focus on just that one? after all she's not gold plated is she."Don't waste time being friends with her & find someone else" is what I'd say to him. Unless you want to be her emotional doormat, move on.. cut off contact with her and forget her. IP: Logged |
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