posted May 17, 2011 05:49 PM            

We recently went to a conference together and we always found that we were near each other.

I do not want to cross any boundaries, yet I feel they have already been crossed in the heart. I am not attracted to him in a lustful way, nor do I see him as a parent figure or a brother. I feel like I can learn so much from him, yet I do not want him to fear that I am trying to seduce him or take his focus from his job, his family etc.

I posted on another thread about a Chef I dated briefly and he was not at all patient with me, nor was he respectful in the end.

Given my colleague at work, I know see elements of the type of man I see in my future. I was duped into thinking nice men had nothing to offer. Not adventurous, stale, boring etc. I went for the seemingly nice guys with a hard edge that 9 times out of 10 turned out to be rotten on the inside.

Has anyone experienced meeting someone that was married and everything seemed to line up?

I don't know my birth time or his, but I did at least upload a chart based on our birthdays. All positive aspects and a first ever for me.

posted May 17, 2011 08:10 PM            

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Originally posted by blugrey:
Personally, I've never had "perfect synastry" and to be honest, having only good aspects means there is nowhere to go - nowhere to grow together, IMO. Plus some "good aspects" can actually end up negative depending on the planets involved.

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Yes so true, Blugrey! Negative aspects create dynamic energy rather than flowing energy which often gets ignored or not used properly between two people.

posted May 17, 2011 08:12 PM            

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Originally posted by blugrey:
Personally, I've never had "perfect synastry" and to be honest, having only good aspects means there is nowhere to go - nowhere to grow together, IMO. Plus some "good aspects" can actually end up negative depending on the planets involved.

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Yes so true, Blugrey! Negative aspects create dynamic energy rather than flowing energy which often gets ignored or not used properly between two people.

posted May 17, 2011 08:13 PM            

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Originally posted by blugrey:
Personally, I've never had "perfect synastry" and to be honest, having only good aspects means there is nowhere to go - nowhere to grow together, IMO. Plus some "good aspects" can actually end up negative depending on the planets involved.

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Yes so true, Blugrey! Negative aspects create dynamic energy rather than flowing energy which often gets ignored or not used properly between two people.

posted May 17, 2011 09:52 PM            

One of the main aspects that always seem to come up in affairs (you two have)

Is Hard aspects with Uranus/Mars..

posted May 17, 2011 10:30 PM            

IS...

THAT?

Are we supposed to read that?

posted May 17, 2011 11:28 PM            

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I didn't realize that this squeeze is married.

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posted May 18, 2011 06:49 AM            

Also - we are not having an affair. It is what it is. When I first saw him in a meeting months ago I was instantly taken in. Not sexually, but just taken in by his energy. I never knew he existed in the dept until his team collaborated with mine.

We later had a few sidebar conversations relevant to work - I then got a promotion and my desk was moved to his side of the world in the dept. Never saw his wedding ring as his hands were always in his pockets when we talked or out of view somehow. so I asked a colleague if he's married and the answer was yes. He later confirmed

So I say all this because we as people can't cut the exchange of energy off. He and I are like magnets. If I weren't aware of it, I'd probably follow him everywhere due to the energy. No exchange of words, nothing.... Just pure energy alone. Is this situation unfortunate? Yes, but does it have to be? No - there is growth that can be found -at least for me.