posted June 08, 2011 12:01 PM            

I don't know which other sign has to deal with this but I feel I care far too much what others think, what others word meant and to validate things whether they are right or wrong for me. It takes whole lot of chunk of my time.

I know every person likes to be liked and loved thus when they hear anything which isn't same they feel bad.

I would like to think I am very non-judgmental and look at people patiently.I sometimes do not care how bad people sing, dance as I see all this as positive, I can see they are trying.

I spent ages thinking about what someone said, why they said. I try very hard to think something else, or do something else but it is just not possible to shake those feelings.
It affects my work.

I have seen my husband who is Aries and no matter what people tell him, he do not get affected at all.

Me as a Scorpio Sun, Aries Moon and Sag Asc. Find it far too difficult to get rid of them.
I know we can't please everyone but sometimes I can't believe how people can be rude and mean. Especially when I can see and feel far too much.

I know they say that Scorpio doesn't care what others think. It is definitely not happening with me. What I want to know is that is there something I need to do to evolve? Some of you in this forum who are elder to me can help.

As I am also worried that if I ignore everyone around me, I wouldn't have chance to better myself as well.

Truth is a concept which is unknown and we are mostly left with perspective. Various perspective. How do I know whether the one I have is right one?

posted June 08, 2011 02:46 PM            

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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:

Hi LLFolks,

I don't know which other sign has to deal with this but I feel I care far too much what others think, what others word meant and to validate things whether they are right or wrong for me. It takes whole lot of chunk of my time.

I know every person likes to be liked and loved thus when they hear anything which isn't same they feel bad.

I would like to think I am very non-judgmental and look at people patiently.I sometimes do not care how bad people sing, dance as I see all this as positive, I can see they are trying.

I spent ages thinking about what someone said, why they said. I try very hard to think something else, or do something else but it is just not possible to shake those feelings.
It affects my work.

I have seen my husband who is Aries and no matter what people tell him, he do not get affected at all.

Me as a Scorpio Sun, Aries Moon and Sag Asc. Find it far too difficult to get rid of them.
I know we can't please everyone but sometimes I can't believe how people can be rude and mean. Especially when I can see and feel far too much.

I know they say that Scorpio doesn't care what others think. It is definitely not happening with me. What I want to know is that is there something I need to do to evolve? Some of you in this forum who are elder to me can help.

As I am also worried that if I ignore everyone around me, I wouldn't have chance to better myself as well.

Truth is a concept which is unknown and we are mostly left with perspective. Various perspective. How do I know whether the one I have is right one?

My heart decisions are questioned so much and are always condemned.

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It seems you have a lack of confidence based on the fact your feelings are not properly acknowledged by others. Actually, at some point (in your childhood), it may have been true, but now it may not be the case anymore. If you feel it is still the case, then I would advise you to follow a good psychotherapy to free yourself from those old psychological patterns. At the same time, try to interact as much as possible with others/friends telling them your opinion, showing who you are. Behavioural therapy might be particularly helpfull in your case.

posted June 08, 2011 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:

Hi LLFolks,

I don't know which other sign has to deal with this but I feel I care far too much what others think, what others word meant and to validate things whether they are right or wrong for me. It takes whole lot of chunk of my time.

I know every person likes to be liked and loved thus when they hear anything which isn't same they feel bad.

I would like to think I am very non-judgmental and look at people patiently.I sometimes do not care how bad people sing, dance as I see all this as positive, I can see they are trying.

I spent ages thinking about what someone said, why they said. I try very hard to think something else, or do something else but it is just not possible to shake those feelings.
It affects my work.

I have seen my husband who is Aries and no matter what people tell him, he do not get affected at all.

Me as a Scorpio Sun, Aries Moon and Sag Asc. Find it far too difficult to get rid of them.
I know we can't please everyone but sometimes I can't believe how people can be rude and mean. Especially when I can see and feel far too much.

I know they say that Scorpio doesn't care what others think. It is definitely not happening with me. What I want to know is that is there something I need to do to evolve? Some of you in this forum who are elder to me can help.

As I am also worried that if I ignore everyone around me, I wouldn't have chance to better myself as well.

Truth is a concept which is unknown and we are mostly left with perspective. Various perspective. How do I know whether the one I have is right one?

My heart decisions are questioned so much and are always condemned.

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posted June 08, 2011 03:27 PM            

I also have to travel and I see more difference of opinions due to difference of cultures. Thus not knowing what is right or wrong.

This is the chart.

This is natal and progressed chart.

I didn't know which Asteroids.

posted June 08, 2011 07:54 PM            

You won't find a "right" imo....

Basically -- you have a lot of social signs in your chart and most of your planets are in transpersonal houses, so it is normal for you to focus on other people.
I think you beat yourself up about it too much..
I think the Aries Moon in you is saying "But I really shouldn't care!".
But if you care, then you just do! There is a reason why you care.. People who DO care about others - are needed in the world. If everyone was purely Aries - I'm not sure we'd coexist for very long.

It's possible that you take things to heart too much - due to your Neptune T-square.

I'm not big on Dr Phil.. but he did say something, probably years ago (I have an elephant's memory lol) which stuck with me and which I agree with.. It was along these lines -

"You wouldn't care so much about what other people think of you, if you realised how little they did!"

The truth is in daily life - we tend to focus more on ourselves.. Like right now you are focusing on how you're perceived by others... but all of those *other* people (or a great majority of them.. give or take an anti-social aries or two lol) will be thinking about how *you* perceive them.

Try to see and take in everything you see, but don't let it affect you emotionally.. because the truth is, often - it has zero emotional baggage.

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I spent ages thinking about what someone said, why they said. I try very hard to think something else

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posted June 09, 2011 05:26 AM            

After my post here I had conversation with my husband- Aries Sun and I had never seen that everything is subjective.I have valued opinion of elder and authority.

I think I get it that there is no right or wrong.maybe problem is finding whether according to me it is right or wrong takes time.

Earlier if there was someone who would say bad then I would assume they are bad people and get rid of my life. Now as I am growing I have realized that I can't ignore people they would always be there and I still have to work or be with them.

Maybe sometimes I don't understand different tones how people say things. I guess I am person who likes to listen good sounds, good words and I do not like people to say bad things. I mostly learn by listening. I do not mind when people swear but despite my good intentions when people tend to just say bad it hurts.I get it that they have their opinions and no matter how nasty they are, they can have one.

posted June 10, 2011 04:06 AM            

Another thing is expectation,People whom I love the most and I see them in most positive light and I expect that they love me for who I am as well. I start off the relationship good..good and I do not expect them to be bad. Despite my good intentions they want to misunderstand and name in certain way...I would like to set them straight but honestly after a while it all sounds noise.One can't please everyone anyways.

No matter what you try to explain to people it doesn't matter.

I guess it is tiring experience justifying ones actions and show your point of view.
No wonder then we get misunderstood.

posted June 10, 2011 05:19 AM            

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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:
Aya and baby: It is usually just loved ones from whom I expect love but I guess they are the ones who hurt most. Again maybe it is expectation.

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Could be expectation - I seem to have the same problem: the more I love someone, the less I can let something go. Incidentally, we do have the same sun, mercury and rising

Well, and saturn and pluto and uranus and neptune, but they're all slow planets anyway

posted June 11, 2011 04:22 PM            

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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:

Hi LLFolks,

I don't know which other sign has to deal with this but I feel I care far too much what others think, what others word meant and to validate things whether they are right or wrong for me. It takes whole lot of chunk of my time.

I know every person likes to be liked and loved thus when they hear anything which isn't same they feel bad.

I would like to think I am very non-judgmental and look at people patiently.I sometimes do not care how bad people sing, dance as I see all this as positive, I can see they are trying.

I spent ages thinking about what someone said, why they said. I try very hard to think something else, or do something else but it is just not possible to shake those feelings.
It affects my work.

I have seen my husband who is Aries and no matter what people tell him, he do not get affected at all.

Me as a Scorpio Sun, Aries Moon and Sag Asc. Find it far too difficult to get rid of them.
I know we can't please everyone but sometimes I can't believe how people can be rude and mean. Especially when I can see and feel far too much.

I know they say that Scorpio doesn't care what others think. It is definitely not happening with me. What I want to know is that is there something I need to do to evolve? Some of you in this forum who are elder to me can help.

As I am also worried that if I ignore everyone around me, I wouldn't have chance to better myself as well.

Truth is a concept which is unknown and we are mostly left with perspective. Various perspective. How do I know whether the one I have is right one?

My heart decisions are questioned so much and are always condemned.

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Oh you sound just like me! But I'd think with your Aries moon and Saggie ascendent you wouldn't even have enough time to care about what others think because those signs are known for an upbeat, positive outlook on life. I guess your Scorpio sun took over. You and I are one in the same--when someone says something to us, and if it's hurtful, we tend to replay the words in our head trying to figure out why someone would say such things.