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posted June 08, 2011 05:28 PM            

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It has been 7 years that I have known this man. He continues to return to me over and over and over. I just about know too when he is making his way back. Bc he enters into my dreams. Up until now I was letting him back in. But this time I am reluctent and really tired. I still love him though.But just don't want to be bothered like that.

Will this ever end?

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posted June 08, 2011 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Mama Mia:
It has been 7 years that I have known this man. He continues to return to me over and over and over. I just about know too when he is making his way back. Bc he enters into my dreams. Up until now I was letting him back in. But this time I am reluctent and really tired. I still love him though.But just don't want to be bothered like that.

Will this ever end?

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There are tons of other guys in the world. Just tell him to stop chasing you, and if he persists just threaten him such as police or sth. What you ask will be finished when you start to "act" or finish. It is your choice and free will. If you really wanted to finish his bothering , it would be but maybe your ego satisfies as long as you get chased? Go deep in yourself and answer that. Also answer why do you still love him and allowing him to pursue.

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posted June 08, 2011 06:01 PM            

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I am asking on a metaphysical level..Not so much a physical level. There is a deep soul connection between us. He doesnt treat me bad or anything like that. He is an Aqua man huge commitment issues. Thats why we always end up being apart.

His timing was perfect as a matter of fact, its been two weeks since I have broken up with the latest guy that I was with..

Its a soul mate type thing..Kind of like and eternal love thing. I hope someone comes here that understand what I mean..

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posted June 08, 2011 06:09 PM            

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Well, I am not judging cuz if you know ME you will know I can't
However,to be real Mert is right.
YOU need to be proactive IF you want him to go OR accept that you don't.
Those are the only alternatives in the physical world.

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posted June 08, 2011 06:18 PM            

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I agree with rest. You have wrap up whatever loose ends are untied and just tell him its no more. You can refuse soul connections if you want to, you aren't obligated to go through them in this lifetime if you don't want to or if they cause too much pain.

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posted June 08, 2011 06:19 PM            

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I hesitated to respond, I understood what you meant but I don't normally express my views in these matters. Your second reply made me reconsider so there's my two cents.

My opinion is that if we have karma with someone, it will not be over until it dissolves itself. Sometimes it involves a lot of pain and suffering, and it's scary, but it will come back over and over again, until it is resolved. Sometimes it's a individual karma, and one person keeps attracting the same kind of people until the lesson is learned, but I think that that's not the case here. The karma is with this man.

Live it. Engage. Don't act from fear, act from love - I know it's easy to say that from the sidelines. It will resolve itself, but only if you are willing to put in the effort. It may take ages or it may take a week. But do it fearlessly. Even if it hurts badly, do it with love and compassion for yourself firstly and for him.

Best of luck!

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posted June 08, 2011 06:20 PM            

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Also, Benedict Moon is right. If it's too painful, you can refuse it by free will. Just know that at some point, not necessarily in this lifetime, this will have to be addressed.

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posted June 08, 2011 06:23 PM            

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Thankyou Maira..I understand what I need to do. I am not new to this..And if there is any old knowflakes around they know exactly what I am talking about..I am better and smarter now then I have ever been with this.

He asked to meet up with me on Sat, told him I will see and let him know on Sat. So if I can hang out a bit I will get all out in the open with him. I do know its time to clear the air on everthing.

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posted June 08, 2011 06:26 PM            

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I don't believe in past lives so my point of view is from this life only lol

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posted June 08, 2011 06:29 PM            

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Sometimes it's a individual karma, and one person keeps attracting the same kind of people until the lesson is learned,

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I totally agree with your all post.

But this part actually i am interested. What do you think what would be the individual karma of the person keeps attracting the same kind of people who are unfaithful, aggresive, strong -willed and egoists? Does it reflect your old self?

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posted June 08, 2011 06:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Mama Mia:
Thankyou Maira..I understand what I need to do. I am not new to this..And if there is any old knowflakes around they know exactly what I am talking about..I am better and smarter now then I have ever been with this.

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You're welcome!
I am an old knowflake, I just didn't post at all back then. But my memory fails me, I've read so many stories here...

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posted June 08, 2011 06:43 PM            

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I remember your story Mama Mia.

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posted June 08, 2011 06:43 PM            

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"I am an old knowflake"

I can tell..:-)

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posted June 08, 2011 06:59 PM            

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What do you think what would be the individual karma of the person keeps attracting the same kind of people who are unfaithful, aggresive, strong -willed and egoists? Does it reflect your old self?

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Yes, I think it is about our past lives.

I believe it's a projected karma of aggression and/or possessive attachment. Again it is my opinion and this time I'm not one hundred percent sure that what I'm saying it's accurate.

There are three main types of karma (I didn't have the patience nor the interest to study it further, so I cut it down to the basics). Karma of ignorance, of aggression and of possessive attachment. They all have astrological correspondences shown in the chart.

A projected karma of aggression would attract abusers - one does not own the aggression impulse within (which could be mastered more easily and resolved) and suffers abuse without recognizing that subconsciously it is himself who would want to be the abuser - if that makes any sense at all.

It depends on the abuse - physical and psychological would be more about aggression karma. Unfaithfulness would be about possessive attachment karma (usually shown in the chart by squares in fixed signs by example).

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posted June 08, 2011 07:14 PM            

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I hope everything goes well, Mama Mia. Deep ties are hard all the way around

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