posted June 12, 2011 10:16 PM            

My step dad is a pretty well known dude around his community, super gregarious, funny, good natured, always does things for the surrounding community and is very chill. He’s on good terms with a lot of people that work for the state, and has a regular place where he gets discounted (delicious) breakfast. Every now and then some people from the state will also have breakfast with us (whenever I happen to join him) and we’ll talk and whatever. A lot of those people are fairly bland and not really worth much.. second thought after the conversation is over?

Well, a little over two weeks ago I was having breakfast with my step-dad and his new girlfriend, and some people from the state were eating breakfast across of us, and we were having a conversation about some of the crazy things that happens to them while they were on the job. And there was just.. this one dude who had the freshest sense of humor. He was a GREAT story teller - he totally had intelligence, former street smarts, perfect self depreciation, and razor sharp wit that made him this fascinating personality, and he was cracking me up the ENTIRE time, which is pretty rare for me. Anyway, eventually they leave and that was that. When he gets up I remember being very surprised at the fact he was like, 6’4”.

Then.. a few weeks ago I’m having breakfast with just my step-dad, and he’s there again with one of his partners. Surprisingly, I found myself very thrilled with the special amount of little, very subtle attention he was throwing me. Normally things like that deeply put me off, so this was interesting. Whenever jokes would be cracked around the tables, we would laugh, suddenly look at each other, smile some more and stare for a prolonged period. You know. Super crushy things. When he wasn’t looking at me I’d steal glances at his general countenance, he’d look up I’d look away, vice versa. I was going on about the pitfalls of gender roles in terms of expectations in femininity/masculinity, and he seemed surprised and would perfectly add onto my point.

posted June 12, 2011 11:11 PM            

venus/Uranus
Mars/Moon
Pluto/Moon

I wonder how Uranus sq Uranus will play out..

Care to post the Composite..

I think you should be extra careful of "pluto" your not use to this pluto, so It will have a deeper effect on you, and probalby touch you in ways you havent felt before..

posted June 13, 2011 09:21 PM            

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Originally posted by JohnFKennedy:
Shall I give a background story to make this all the more interesting? Haha, well, there is a 19 year age gap, which I did not intuit initially and still kind of sends shock waves through me.

My step dad is a pretty well known dude around his community, super gregarious, funny, good natured, always does things for the surrounding community and is very chill. He’s on good terms with a lot of people that work for the state, and has a regular place where he gets discounted (delicious) breakfast. Every now and then some people from the state will also have breakfast with us (whenever I happen to join him) and we’ll talk and whatever. A lot of those people are fairly bland and not really worth much.. second thought after the conversation is over?

Well, a little over two weeks ago I was having breakfast with my step-dad and his new girlfriend, and some people from the state were eating breakfast across of us, and we were having a conversation about some of the crazy things that happens to them while they were on the job. And there was just.. this one dude who had the freshest sense of humor. He was a GREAT story teller - he totally had intelligence, former street smarts, perfect self depreciation, and razor sharp wit that made him this fascinating personality, and he was cracking me up the ENTIRE time, which is pretty rare for me. Anyway, eventually they leave and that was that. When he gets up I remember being very surprised at the fact he was like, 6’4”.

Then.. a few weeks ago I’m having breakfast with just my step-dad, and he’s there again with one of his partners. Surprisingly, I found myself very thrilled with the special amount of little, very subtle attention he was throwing me. Normally things like that deeply put me off, so this was interesting. Whenever jokes would be cracked around the tables, we would laugh, suddenly look at each other, smile some more and stare for a prolonged period. You know. Super crushy things. When he wasn’t looking at me I’d steal glances at his general countenance, he’d look up I’d look away, vice versa. I was going on about the pitfalls of gender roles in terms of expectations in femininity/masculinity, and he seemed surprised and would perfectly add onto my point.

I have to say, in synastry.. is the Pluto person more inclined to get obsessive over the Ascendant person? Because I'm starting to feel that.. definitely. Thank God it's in Libra though, given my Aquarius moon I know how to naturally navigate the waters of that energy easily, but its still kind of. Disconcerting. I don't mean that in a bad way, I'm just not used to so much genuine affection! Not since my most significant Scorpio ex, anyway. It was overwhelming even then, too. I'm such an ascetic when it comes to affection, I swear.

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Is the age difference that you are older than him by 19 years? If so, that rocks!!! I have a new thing going on with a guy who's 21 years younger than me. Lovin every minute of it.

posted June 13, 2011 09:56 PM            

By the looks of it your man does seem like a fun guy and even if it doesn't work out I suspect you will have lots of fond memories. With regards to the Pluto thing, I can tell you from personal experience (twice) that it's not the Pluto person who becomes obsessive but rather the object of said obsession. I had Pluto once conjunct someone's AC and once opposed. Those men became insanely jealous and verbally abusive and physically abusive respectively. Not trying to scare you off, after all my Pluto is in Scorpio, not Libra and the aspect was twice almost exact

posted June 19, 2011 02:43 PM            

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Originally posted by JoJo:
Is the age difference that you are older than him by 19 years? If so, that rocks!!! I have a new thing going on with a guy who's 21 years younger than me. Lovin every minute of it.

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posted June 19, 2011 02:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Aya_and_baby:
It catches on after a while. The first man outside of my generation (although that is relative in my case since Neptune was about to change signs - a second time over - and Pluto just had changed signs, I never felt like I belonged to any generation, rather I literally felt like I was on the cusp of two generations! ) was also 19 years older than me. He behaved quite a bit younger though. Even though there were various reasons why we eventually couldn't be together, the age difference was a huge thing to get over, too. After breaking up I realized just how relative age really is and at this very moment, if he asks me again I would probably jump to the opportunity. So I hope you won't let age become an issue.

By the looks of it your man does seem like a fun guy and even if it doesn't work out I suspect you will have lots of fond memories. With regards to the Pluto thing, I can tell you from personal experience (twice) that it's not the Pluto person who becomes obsessive but rather the object of said obsession. I had Pluto once conjunct someone's AC and once opposed. Those men became insanely jealous and verbally abusive and physically abusive respectively. Not trying to scare you off, after all my Pluto is in Scorpio, not Libra and the aspect was twice almost exact

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posted June 19, 2011 02:59 PM            

It was only after I broke it off due to (mostly - there were other reasons too) the above reasons, that I heard from friends that they expected us to become a couple (obviously they didn't know what had happened in the mean time ) because he was always praising me to high heavens and telling people how much he liked me (I'm not going to say "love" because I wasn't there when he said it, I don't know if that word ever came out). Even years later, when my now-ex (my baby's father) met him (they happen to know each other too, but only from meeting once or twice before), they ended up talking about me (as a partner and ex partner often do ) and afterwards my now-ex came up to me, fuming with jealousy because the way the other guy talked about me made it seem to him like we were still having something going on. Even though I haven't seen him now in over 2 years and I have to admit, he's the only man I've never really been able to get over...

Buuuuut given the fact that he couldn't exactly be 100% or even 75% loyal does kind of bother me. I do like to have my partner for myself and I would even less like the idea of being that "other girl". If my partner does have to get it with someone else, let me be at least the "main" girl...

Anyway, I apologize for digressing, I'm in a bit of a melancholical mood But hey, all I can say is learn from my mistakes, don't let age become an issue because that issue can mess things up badly.

When you're attracted to someone, you're attracted to them, regardless of age!

posted June 20, 2011 03:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Aya_and_baby:
That's exactly what I let get to me all those years ago (well, a few years, really... ) I was 22 and he was 41, and because I was afraid of what people would think of our "relationship", I never went public. I kind of kept it "our" little secret. After all, he was only a few years younger than my mother and for all intents and purposes he was old enough to be my father, and what I was worried about was on one hand that people would think I was a gold digger (even though he hardly had a penny to his name) or that people would think he was in his midlife crisis and just wanted someone who was barely an adult as part of that.

It was only after I broke it off due to (mostly - there were other reasons too) the above reasons, that I heard from friends that they expected us to become a couple (obviously they didn't know what had happened in the mean time ) because he was always praising me to high heavens and telling people how much he liked me (I'm not going to say "love" because I wasn't there when he said it, I don't know if that word ever came out). Even years later, when my now-ex (my baby's father) met him (they happen to know each other too, but only from meeting once or twice before), they ended up talking about me (as a partner and ex partner often do ) and afterwards my now-ex came up to me, fuming with jealousy because the way the other guy talked about me made it seem to him like we were still having something going on. Even though I haven't seen him now in over 2 years and I have to admit, he's the only man I've never really been able to get over...

Buuuuut given the fact that he couldn't exactly be 100% or even 75% loyal does kind of bother me. I do like to have my partner for myself and I would even less like the idea of being that "other girl". If my partner does have to get it with someone else, let me be at least the "main" girl...

Anyway, I apologize for digressing, I'm in a bit of a melancholical mood But hey, all I can say is learn from my mistakes, don't let age become an issue because that issue can mess things up badly.

When you're attracted to someone, you're attracted to them, regardless of age!

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Whoa, you are speaking to my soul right now. Everything you're saying you regret are things I was/am totally thinking of doing!! Plus we also have a similar 19 year age gap, wow. At first our chart didn't impress me (I have no idea what the hell I was expecting in that regard), but the following things stand out to me

Obviously the first thing is his Pluto conjunct my ascendant
My mars conjunct his moon
His moon loosely conjunct my DC
My Moon on his AC
His Mercury/Venus on my IC
My Sun on his IC
The Sun/Saturn conjunction (7 degrees)
The Venus/Chiron conjunction