posted June 12, 2011 08:02 AM            

However,after learning about them I know 1000% I am not.

However,when other woman were going ga ga over boys,I never was.
I loved that fact about myself.
I just figured I had a good sense of self and good confidence.

posted June 12, 2011 08:07 AM            

Now that I know I am nothing close to a sociopath I ask this question.
I could NOT be a sociopath.
I am VERY sensitive to not hurting others.

posted June 12, 2011 08:12 AM            

Unaspected Gemini Venus
90% of planets are interpersonal/transpersonal
Saturn conjuncts the ASC.This is the only personal planet.
Venus in 7th house
Sun,Merc and Moon in 8th house
Uranus, Jupiter and Mars in 9th house
Neptune in 12th house
Strong Gemini---Sun,Merc and Venus
Scorpio ASC,Pluto conjunct the MC
8th house stellium
Earth Void

The Scorpio makes you hidden and careful with outward expression,not detached per se

I just added this to round out my question

Cancer moon and Mars
If I do attach,I attach with my heart and soul.
With a man this has happened once when my Venus had an exact trine with Pluto and exact opposition with Neptune.

posted June 12, 2011 09:34 AM            

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Originally posted by oceaneyes9:
Okay well of that list i would argue with alot of them as far as making you detached.The heavy gemini would definetly make it easy for you not attached. I have saturn on my asc as well ( sucks doesnt it ) but i dont feel like it makes you actually detached it makes you appear that way, or remote and unaffectable. Makes it easy for people to judge you as detached. The scorpio would make you very attached instead of detached but its a very underground emotional investment that doesnt show itself to anyone else but you until your sure and completely comfortable. The 8th house i feel like would make you very attached as well especially with the venus in the 7th - house of relationships. Speaking as someone with an 8th house stellium i know it makes me unable to be detached where as the rest of my chart would suggest it would be a tendency.

hope that helped. for detachment id look at aquarius, uranus, saturn, air signs.

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Thank you.That helped

posted June 12, 2011 09:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Chaos:
Unaspected Venus, even if you're hopelessly in love, you don't know the proper way to express that love...And 8th house stellium can have trust issues...

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I don't agree about NOT being able to express love.I can.
I have loved a few people very deeply and can show them my love back in a good way.
Thank you for your post though Chaos
I appreciate anyone who takes the time to post!

posted June 12, 2011 09:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I don't agree about NOT being able to express love.I can.
I have loved a few people very deeply and can show them my love back in a good way.
Thank you for your post though Chaos
I appreciate anyone who takes the time to post!

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posted June 12, 2011 09:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Chaos:
You're the one with Cancer Mars, right? They express care and motherly love for someone, rather than romantic love...I know a few Cancer Mars people, dear people they are, lovable & loving, but they have no luck in love, cause they mother their partners too much, and then partners just run away from them...it's weird...

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I am Cancer moon and Mars.I have total faith I CAN love cuz I have and do.
That is really not my issue.However, please continue commenting

posted June 12, 2011 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

I am Cancer moon and Mars.I have total faith I CAN love cuz I have and do.
That is really not my issue.However, please continue commenting

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posted June 12, 2011 10:40 AM            

My mother told me that she used to admire that about me. I liked it, too - crushes started out feeling nice, but were too much of a distraction, and the cause of much frustration if not reciprocated. I seemed to be blind to guys who liked me, though. :/

posted June 12, 2011 10:49 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I used to be the same way - but you haven't been that way with everyone, right?

My mother told me that she used to admire that about me. I liked it, too - crushes started out feeling nice, but were too much of a distraction, and the cause of much frustration if not reciprocated. I seemed to be blind to guys who liked me, though. :/

I'm not detached in love, there just aren't that many guys who cause my heart to flutter. If anything, I have to watch my boundaries, because I attach pretty easily.

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Well I adored my Grandmother.If I even TALK about her now, I cry.
I love people in my life right now.
I suppose ,with that being said you might ask why I am asking the question--right?

posted June 12, 2011 11:55 AM            

I also hated that song Wishin' and Hopin' - things like that. Forget who you are, and you will land yourself a man, and get to feed him and do his laundry... he won't have married you, but someone who changed herself just so she might not be *gasp* - single. I resented the idea that the happiest day of my life - my supposed wedding day - had been predetermined for me by many people, because I was a girl. I'd seen enough nastiness where men and women were concerned (violence, true sociopathy, been the recipient of violence, had a cousin who was talked into sex before she was ready... and it goes on), that I knew it wasn't going to solve all of my problems, and could easily create more.

posted June 12, 2011 12:03 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Well, I liked boys, most just didn't impress me - especially anyone who seemed to not take a girls' feelings seriously, and those who would go through them like people do their money at a casino.

I also hated that song Wishin' and Hopin' - things like that. Forget who you are, and you will land yourself a man, and get to feed him and do his laundry... he won't have married you, but someone who changed herself just so she might not be *gasp* - single. I resented the idea that the happiest day of my life - my supposed wedding day - had been predetermined for me by many people, because I was a girl. I'd seen enough nastiness where men and women were concerned (violence, true sociopathy, been the recipient of violence, had a cousin who was talked into sex before she was ready... and it goes on), that I knew it wasn't going to solve all of my problems, and could easily create more.

A part of me wants it very much, and always has done, but not at the expense of who I am, and what I want and need.

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posted June 13, 2011 04:58 AM            

I think being too detached is just as much of an issue as being too attached. I think both partners need to have their own things going on and not constantly try to create emotional situations. I don't think the "love" shown on tv where people fight and make up or people chase one another down is what love is about. It's rather pathetic really.

That said, I must say, that sometimes we can't really help how we feel about someone. In that situation many people would probably chase them or try to keep them by their side - I think that this is not love, but rather possessiveness or fear of being alone - which I totally agree with you is not the right path to choose. I don't, however, find it a horribly bad thing to recognize being in love with someone who might not return the feelings - as long as it doesn't consume you or keep you from living your life to the fullest.

posted June 13, 2011 09:24 AM            

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Originally posted by blugrey:
I think there needs to be a balance - could simply be my moon in the 7th.

I think being too detached is just as much of an issue as being too attached. I think both partners need to have their own things going on and not constantly try to create emotional situations. I don't think the "love" shown on tv where people fight and make up or people chase one another down is what love is about. It's rather pathetic really.

That said, I must say, that sometimes we can't really help how we feel about someone. In that situation many people would probably chase them or try to keep them by their side - I think that this is not love, but rather possessiveness or fear of being alone - which I totally agree with you is not the right path to choose. I don't, however, find it a horribly bad thing to recognize being in love with someone who might not return the feelings - as long as it doesn't consume you or keep you from living your life to the fullest.

That said, I mean, if you have no issues showing your love effectively to your partner, I don't see what the issue is. Your mom probably has a very different love "language" than you - people don't show love in the same ways and they can understand it just the same. It all depends.

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Yes Blugray
Maybe I was normal this whole time.I have a FUNNY feeling I was.
That is like finding out your sister is your mother

posted June 14, 2011 11:34 PM            

I'm a virgo sun and I have moon, venus n merc in libra (7th house)

Deep down inside I'm much too sensitive for my own good =( (Moon square neptune, chiron square moon and venus + moon tightly conjunct venus makes me soft but with a tough exterior cos of my aries rising).

posted June 15, 2011 12:02 AM            

My daughter asked me the other day..
"Mom do you ever cry?"

posted June 15, 2011 02:11 PM            

I think with all the scorpio themes in your chart i.e. scorpio ascendant pluto (ruler of scorpio) at the MC and the 8th house planets, can make you detach very easily where emotions are concerned. Scorpio, I have heard called, is the amputation sign of the sodiac. You would be able to suss out people very quickly and if they don't mesure up then you would be able to cut them out emotionally right away, no games with you. I think it would be a very good defence for the possibility of being hurt of taken for granted. I have an 8th house placement and this is how I work emotionally.
Just my 2 cents worth.

posted June 15, 2011 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by sharon_1977:
Hi Ami Anne

I think with all the scorpio themes in your chart i.e. scorpio ascendant pluto (ruler of scorpio) at the MC and the 8th house planets, can make you detach very easily where emotions are concerned. Scorpio, I have heard called, is the amputation sign of the sodiac. You would be able to suss out people very quickly and if they don't mesure up then you would be able to cut them out emotionally right away, no games with you. I think it would be a very good defence for the possibility of being hurt of taken for granted. I have an 8th house placement and this is how I work emotionally.
Just my 2 cents worth.

Sharon_1977

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Sharon
THANK YOU SO MUCH
That is my answer
Do you know when the answer hits you,you know deep inside.
Thank you so very much Sharon !