posted June 12, 2011 10:19 PM            

My problem is that me and my mom always bump heads! It's been happening more often now. Don't get me wrong, I love my mother dearly, she's someone I have the highest respect for and nothing will ever change that but these intense arguments are getting out of hand. It's exhausting. I'm a Leo and she's an Aquarius. I know these two signs are the exact opposite of each other but I heard they get along with each other pretty well. It seems like me and my mom only get along when we discuss things that don't involve emotions or feelings. When we do, she's real quiet or she just completely blows me off. I find that very rude and insensitive. Oh and don't let me get emotional and start crying, she just looks at me with confusion and like I'm crazy, then blocks me out. That really bothers me. She says I'm emotionally dramatic and doesn't want to be bothered with it. I'll admit that I can be very dramatic but I honestly don't realize I am being overly dramatic. I'm very expressive with my emotions. My friends say I'm a typical Leo in & out so they understand how I get. With her it's different, she has no room for acceptance of how I am. She barely tries to understand. I notice that when it comes to her feelings, she approaches them in a strategy way instead of just going with how she feels. She can be very cold and detached sometimes but she is a nice caring person underneath it all.

Any advice on how to lessen the arguments? Anyone had a Leo and Aquarius friendship or relationship?

Here's my chart:

Rising - Scorpio
Sun - Leo
Moon - Aquarius
Mercury - Leo
Venus - Leo
Mars - Leo
Jupiter - Leo
Saturn - Aquarius
Uranus - Capricorn
Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio
N. Node - Capricorn
MC - Leo

I know it isn't a complete chart. Just wanted you guys to get a feel on my personality. I suck on posting links Lol.

posted June 13, 2011 11:25 AM            

Your mum can only respond in her own way....just like you respond in your own way. I did notice you have saturn in aquarius and wonder if that closely aspects your mum's sun? Saturn tends to stifle the affected planet and you may be unknowingly "stifling" or trying to control your mum's aquarian response. You also have your moon in aqua...very fitting as it describes the mothering received, is this moon close to your saturn?

The only planets you have that aren't fixed are in the sign of capricorn...a sign that is not known to be all that flexible.

You have a really strong chart, very willful, predominantly fixed and authoritive. Creativity should be quite high too and I imagine you can be very warm towards others.

Your moon/saturn may well be showing that you do find your mother to be cold and unresponsive (it's a common theme when these two planets are linked).

I think astrology may give you a lot of answers but it's unlikely to change her behaviour towards you. Maybe her way is to be detached and use strategy?

I have to stress that I don't think she's "right"....but you already noticed how she approaches her emotions and that it's different to you. Maybe she can't understand in the way you can, if you have a scorp asc then you probably do a lot of people watching...not everyone does.

You have a moon/sat in aquarius which indicates that you yourself can be detached and aloof when it suits you but you have a bucket load of leo to offset this....without seeing your chart I can't really say anymore.

posted June 13, 2011 11:29 AM            

I may have to make a chart too......

posted June 13, 2011 01:51 PM            

dee, what's your mom's moon sign? you're describing a typical aquarian mindset. i'm an aqua but i'm heavily neptune influenced and my moon is 4th house taurus so that brings me in closer contact with my feelings. however my 'default' especially when confronted with heavy emotion is to step back from it, gague it, and slowly mentally process it from a safe distance. it's been suggested that aquarians are emotionally detached as a way of having had to deal with emotional abuse. i know that is true in my case but i'm sure it's not the case for all. think about it: we are the last sign before pisces. pisces which feels EVERYTHING to the point the self is almost irrelevant. we DO feel, oh we do, but we want to do the right thing by these feelings and not 'just' feel them for themselves. it has to fit into the grand scheme of what is right and necessary and, yes, even what will most benefit humanity (wrap your head around that one). we have very intricate principles and convictions and emotions fit into our conceptual frameworks in particular ways but we cannot let them cloud the big picture. it does not mean we don't care or don't feel, though. we just can't be overwhelmed by emotions since when we are, it overshadows what we NEED to think to get on with trying to make the world a better place, to whichever small degree we are able to do so.

then again i've known some coldass aquas who don't give a crap about anyone but themselves. not many. but they've been males.

posted June 13, 2011 02:00 PM            

Two people that I have experienced this with, one actually being my mother, had their Jupiter conjunct my Eris. You might want to check for yourself where exactly your Eris is, but since it moves very slowly, you can expect it to be roughly between 13° and 25° Aries.

You could always check to see if your mother has anything around that area in her chart?

Just a suggestion