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Topic: The Pisces Man who does Not like to get DEEP
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StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 08:30 PM
  
It has been said, Their mission is to drown in your love, prefers tender, heartfelt emotional bonding ...
and so on and so onThen why whenever I express my feelings about our relationship does my Pisces say let's not get deep? IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted June 23, 2011 08:43 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
It has been said, Their mission is to drown in your love, prefers tender, heartfelt emotional bonding ...
and so on and so onThen why whenever I express my feelings about our relationship does my Pisces say let's not get deep?
I think its because he's not ready to go there yet... Once he goes there.. Hes stuck (not in a bad way)
Once you open up, you cant come back from that...
Give him time, and no pressure... Let it come out natural in his own way.. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 23, 2011 08:54 PM
Piscean emotions are directed at groups of people or the entire world - rarely at their partner. Pisces is a water sign so it is an emotional sign.. but it is also transpersonal. They would be much more emotionally affected by seeing a starving child on tv, than they would be affected by a romantic relationship with one particular person. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 23, 2011 09:00 PM
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drown in your love, prefers tender, heartfelt emotional bonding
If this was a key-sentence for all water signs.. it would be individually altered based on whether they are personal-social-transpersonal (imo). Cancer would be: "They want to drown in their husband/wife (close family)'s love.. Prefers tender, heartfelt, emotional bonding *with* close familly members and close friends" Scorpio would be: "They want to drown in the love of their sexual partners. Prefer tender, heartfelt, emotional bonding *with* the people they have sex with and form a strong connection with" Pisces would be: "They want to drown in the love that goes round the merry go round of planet Earth. Prefers tender, heartfelt, emotional bonding with ALL of human/animal kind (no favourites)" IP: Logged |
hmm
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posted June 23, 2011 09:06 PM
i agree with betty, but with regards to pisces, i wouldn't say earth....something beyond earth/human kind...
more like a spiritual dimention or an ideal
more like god (or whatever term you wanna give it).(it might be a bit bold to say this, but to me it seems like they don't love the person they love love
and they have their idealistic beliefs of what that should be like, and if you challange this belief (directly or indirectly) they won't be able to look at you through their romatic rose colored eyes. IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 09:30 PM
"Give him time, and no pressure." 90% of the time I am so good about this, but it builds up in me. Then I let it out. He does not like it at all. He does not like to be pressed about feelings, etc. hippichick told me this as well. She said Pisces will not come back on their own if pushed. I do realize he shows that he cares for me in many other ways.I have a Sagittarius Stellium so I am blunt and say it as it is. My Capricorn Moon in the 7th house needs safekeeping in my relationships. Consequently I would like him to TELL me he will give me that security. IP: Logged |
avocadosandwich
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posted June 23, 2011 09:34 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
It has been said, Their mission is to drown in your love, prefers tender, heartfelt emotional bonding ...
and so on and so on
It hasn't been my experience with my Pisces man - not at all. His version of bonding is a high-five after he wins at poker.
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Lioness
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posted June 23, 2011 09:37 PM
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Originally posted by avocadosandwich:
It hasn't been my experience with my Pisces man - not at all. His version of bonding is a high-five after he wins at poker.
LMAO! Yeap!! so true... so true
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StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 09:37 PM
Betty Boop~ I see what you are saying about loving all. He has told me he wakes up in the morning and thinks, 'Who wants my help today? Who needs a favor done?' He gets burnt out.
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StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 09:42 PM
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Originally posted by avocadosandwich:
It hasn't been my experience with my Pisces man - not at all. His version of bonding is a high-five after he wins at poker.
Good to hear that!  IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 10:05 PM
So I really should not expect any one-on-one deep emotional declarations of love from my Pisces??IP: Logged |
starzy54
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posted June 23, 2011 10:31 PM
not even when he's a little drunk?
my Pisces goes through phases all through the month.He will be lovey dovey and open and spiritual all week than it tapers off slowly,than he will be sweet again,than scary desperate and clingy.Than he pulls away a little,but i enjoy the break once in a while.but definitely when he's a had a drink or two,he really lets it all out.almost cries expressing his feelings.and says "its not the beer talking! i really feel like this".he is a lot to handleIP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 10:40 PM
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Originally posted by hmm:
i agree with betty, but with regards to pisces, i wouldn't say earth....something beyond earth/human kind...
more like a spiritual dimention or an ideal
more like god (or whatever term you wanna give it).(it might be a bit bold to say this, but to me it seems like they don't love the person they love love
and they have their idealistic beliefs of what that should be like, and if you challange this belief (directly or indirectly) they won't be able to look at you through their romatic rose colored eyes.
hmm~ Thank you for being bold. Not sure what you meant when you typed .. It seems like they don't love the person they love love and they have their idealistic beliefs --
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StelliumH6
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posted June 23, 2011 10:55 PM
starzy~ I so agree. They are tough. My Pisces is moody. Good spirits, crappy day = does not want to talk that much, sweet and wonderful, affectionate, supportive, naughty, distant. Oh my! But there are things there that connect us. Can't describe it.
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Betty Boop
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posted June 23, 2011 11:07 PM
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not even when he's a little drunk?
LoL I was going to say the same thing!
But I don't trust them when they're drunk.. and sometimes they tell you what you want to hear - so I don't know hmmm IP: Logged |
JoJo
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posted June 23, 2011 11:25 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
starzy~ I so agree. They are tough. My Pisces is moody. Good spirits, crappy day = does not want to talk that much, sweet and wonderful, affectionate, supportive, naughty, distant. Oh my! But there are things there that connect us. Can't describe it.
I'm a Pisces so I might be able to offer a little insight to this... It's not that we're particularly moody even though it may seem that way. Personally, when I have a crappy day, it takes so much out of me. So when I come home, I need to re-energize myself (self healing in a sense). I do that by retreating into my "happy place" which is usually my head. It's hard to explain, but the "white noise" of the world and all the people we come in contact with on a daily basis take so much out of us. Imagine a mother with several young children pulling on her and constantly needing her attention simultaneously. Because we are so in tune to the emotions of everyone around us (even when we try not to be), the analogy of the mother and young children is sort of what we go through on a day to day basis. It's exhausting and if we're not firing on all cylinders, it quickly becomes overwhelming. If your guy is retreating - let him. He'll come back around when he's feeling better. If you push him, he will completely withdraw from you because he won't have any respite from the chaos that assaults him every day. Sometimes we only need a few minutes to get our heads (or hearts, souls, spirits, etc) right. We desperately need our partner to be the port in the storm, so to speak, so trust me... don't push. My close friends recognize and understand when I need to go "underground" to regenerate my spirit. I sometimes refer to it as coming back to zero. Which for me is that place where I am balanced, centered, and strong enough to withstand whatever emotions that I'm going to intuit from from the people I interact with on a day to day basis. Does that make any sense? IP: Logged |
amowls**
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posted June 23, 2011 11:35 PM
Maybe because he has other things going on in his chart.IP: Logged |
avocadosandwich
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posted June 24, 2011 08:01 AM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
So I really should not expect any one-on-one deep emotional declarations of love from my Pisces??
If my Pisces is any indication, you will be wasting your time if you want declarations of love. I've had to go mostly on faith in our relationship - saying to myself, "Oh, he loves me, this is just the way he is." Mine is *terrible* at any sort of communication and he's about as romantic as a toilet brush. He gets extremely uncomfortable whenever romance pops up (whether it's at a wedding or on the tv or on the street). I think my Pisces is at the waaaaaay far end of the spectrum, though, so don't lose heart. There are so many other things about a chart that come into play, right? IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 24, 2011 08:33 AM
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If my Pisces is any indication, you will be wasting your time if you want declarations of love.
I'm with you on that!
Ok.. well
Some Pisces men... (not all.. It depends a lot on their culture/religion/spiritual beliefs and background as well - see Aamir Khan for an example of a Pisces who seems emotionally *open*) are simply unable to open up. This is really just my own personal opinion (and it could be entirely off).. but I think the only people out *there* who can make such a Pisces feel comfortable and get back in touch with himself and his emotions - are Scorpio Suns who have a reasonably good synastry with him. IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted June 24, 2011 04:11 PM
I can relate to this emotional stuff.... a particular pisces is doing my head in at the moment....  One minute he's super sensitive and emotional and is head over heels and the next it's as if I'm just a friend! Last night I told him (in the worst possible way - email!) that I've had it up to here with not knowing how he feels and that because of that we should end it!
I'm starting to regret it because he is not taking me seriously at all after that! Cracking jokes all the time.... I'm wondering if he's making jokes to cover his feelings - is he hurt by rejection? Question - how does Pisces respond to ultimatums??  IP: Logged |
JoJo
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posted June 24, 2011 08:01 PM
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Originally posted by Jounia:
I can relate to this emotional stuff.... a particular pisces is doing my head in at the moment.... One minute he's super sensitive and emotional and is head over heels and the next it's as if I'm just a friend! Last night I told him (in the worst possible way - email!) that I've had it up to here with not knowing how he feels and that because of that we should end it!
I'm starting to regret it because he is not taking me seriously at all after that! Cracking jokes all the time.... I'm wondering if he's making jokes to cover his feelings - is he hurt by rejection? Question - how does Pisces respond to ultimatums??
Ultimatums make me as stubborn as h*ll and I tend to go against them just because they were put out there.
Pisces are deeply hurt by rejection and we tend to cover it up by putting on our happy face so no one knows how we feel inside...
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Betty Boop
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posted June 24, 2011 08:05 PM
Very Badly!
There's no such thing as an ultimatum in Pisces world.
They'll ignore it, at best. At worst, he'll swim off. This will usually get no reaction though.. He'll be very evasive and he won't reply to your ultimatum in any direct way.
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Betty Boop
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posted June 24, 2011 08:07 PM
JoJo - quote:
Ultimatums make me as stubborn as h*ll and I tend to go against them just because they were put out there.
Yes! I've seen this also lolll
Specially my friend who has Aries Venus. IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 24, 2011 08:19 PM
JoJo, Thank you!! Your description made excellent sense. He is so in tune to everyone around him and he feels they need his attention. This quickly becomes overwhelming to him too. He has told me I am his "happy place." I guess I want that to be the case always now. He has also said he likes me because I am not needy.
I have even asked him, Do you want your space for a while? He realizes I do understand he needs his time.avocado, I am with you about going on faith. If they did not want to be with us, then they would have gone away a long time ago. Betty Boop, I am not a Scorpio Sun. Jounia, My Pisces would definitely not like ultimatums. He hates any kind of pressure to make relationship decisions. He is all about carefree and going with the flow. IP: Logged |
avocadosandwich
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posted June 24, 2011 11:46 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Very Badly!
There's no such thing as an ultimatum in Pisces world.
They'll ignore it, at best. At worst, he'll swim off. This will usually get no reaction though.. He'll be very evasive and he won't reply to your ultimatum in any direct way.
That's my Pisces man, totally! IP: Logged |
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