posted July 20, 2011 02:26 PM            

I have fallen hard for a Cancer man that I work with and he really seems to like me too. It's just the cancer dance going on is so hard at times. He seems to take one step forward, 2 steps back and then 3 steps to each side, then repeat. Before I go any further into things let me show you our charts:
Me:

Sun Pisces 2.03
Moon Sagittarius 8.18
Mercury Aquarius 19.47 R
Venus Aquarius 1.45
Mars Aries 3.26
Jupiter Virgo 0.43 R
Saturn Aries 10.09
Uranus Virgo 28.13 R
Neptune Scorpio 26.32
Pluto Virgo 22.04 R
Lilith Taurus 16.58
Asc node Aries 19.46

Him:

Sun Cancer 4.10
Moon Sagittarius 21.30
Mercury Cancer 25.17
Venus Gemini 21.47 R
Mars Cancer 28.06
Jupiter Capricorn 3.20 R
Saturn Gemini 13.12
Uranus Libra 14.11
Neptune Sagittarius 3.05 R
Pluto Scorpio 13.39
Asc node Capricorn 26.10

It started off really slow and I would catch him watching me when he didn't know I could see. We then began talking more and more. There have been a few strong indicators in particular for instance when this young pup I wanted to date me and I told a couple of my female co-workers about it, the next day one of them asked me (without knowing that he had just come through a doorway and was standing there) "so are you officially a cougar?" His reaction was a very loud "WHAT?" And the look on his face was priceless. He then got his composure and started questioning me about it. I was not interested in the other guy, as I truly only have eyes for my Cancer man.

Another time we were talking and I ended up telling him about the child abuse I survived. His reaction was quite strong and he was clearly very upset that I had to go through that. He was really hypersensitive about it for lack of a better word.

Last month I discreetly gave him a birthday card and carefully thought out gift that showed I really knew him. I was a bit nervous about giving it to him, not knowing how he would react or possibly pull back (he can really do that at times--that dang crab dance of his). He was deeply touched and it resulted in a hug.

At times when he walks by me he intentionally brushes his arm into me etc... Always giving me glances when he doesn't know I can see etc... And about a month ago he began to tease me quite a bit.

The problem is that he won't ask me out and also at other times he is very quit and seems like he'll talk to everyone else but me. I am learning to ignore that and him when he does that and act like it doesn't bother me.

My question is this: does this sound like this cancer man likes me and is there any chance his wall will come down enough to ask me out.

posted July 20, 2011 03:14 PM            

Mars in Cancer- Men with mars in Cancer have one thing in common from what i've seen, they need to have a deep emotional connection with you and to do this they take their time in getting to know you first. They dont want to make a move before they can be sure that they like the person that you are. So basically, this takes time. If he asks you personal questions about yourself then yes he's most likely romatically interested in you. He could also be a bit shy so when ever you get a chance try to talk to him and see where it goes. i also have a moon and mars in cancer. I dont know if this one aspect helps but i've noticed this in men with mars in cancer.

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Out of myself, but wanting to go beyond that wanting what I see in your eyes, not power, but to kiss the ground with the dawn breeze for company, wearing white pilgrim cloth.

posted July 20, 2011 03:15 PM            

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Originally posted by violet7887:
I will only comment on one position which i can be sure about from experience:

Mars in Cancer- Men with mars in Cancer have one thing in common from what i've seen, they need to have a deep emotional connection with you and to do this they take their time in getting to know you first. They dont want to make a move before they can be sure that they like the person that you are. So basically, this takes time. If he asks you personal questions about yourself then yes he's most likely romatically interested in you. He could also be a bit shy so when ever you get a chance try to talk to him and see where it goes. i also have a moon and mars in cancer. I dont know if this one aspect helps but i've noticed this in men with mars in cancer.

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I am a female with Mars in Cancer.I am this way

posted July 20, 2011 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a female with Mars in Cancer.I am this way

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As am I Ami, nice to see you here

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Out of myself, but wanting to go beyond that wanting what I see in your eyes, not power, but to kiss the ground with the dawn breeze for company, wearing white pilgrim cloth.

posted July 20, 2011 11:18 PM            

We talk every chance we get also he tends to hang around me when his job in my section is done just to talk to me. That was one of the things my co-worker (who has worked with him for almost 3 years) noted. She said if he didn't like you he would do his business and just leave but instead he hangs around you a lot.

posted July 21, 2011 08:24 PM            

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Originally posted by PiscesGirl:
Thank you for the replies.

We talk every chance we get also he tends to hang around me when his job in my section is done just to talk to me. That was one of the things my co-worker (who has worked with him for almost 3 years) noted. She said if he didn't like you he would do his business and just leave but instead he hangs around you a lot.

Yes our conversations often end up quite personal, when no one is there. He also shares a lot of personal details about himself with me and I take this as a good sign. He seems to trust me. And as I said he seems hypersensitive about me at times and I have read that when Cancers have feelings for me they can be hypersensitive about that person. (I gave a few examples of his showing this in my OP.)

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i'd say he likes you. I would not spend extra time with somebody when i didnt have too!Especially if he shares personal info with you. As you know cancers are VERYY protective of themselves and the ones they care about. So the fact that hes sharing with you and being a bit protective is a very good sign. My brother is Cancer and with him when he likes you he really likes you but when he doesnt you dont want to tick him off! lol. And he forgives really easy but never forgets.

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Out of myself, but wanting to go beyond that wanting what I see in your eyes, not power, but to kiss the ground with the dawn breeze for company, wearing white pilgrim cloth.

posted July 21, 2011 08:28 PM            

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Originally posted by violet7887:
i'd say he likes you. I would not spend extra time with somebody when i didnt have too!Especially if he shares personal info with you. As you know cancers are VERYY protective of themselves and the ones they care about. So the fact that hes sharing with you and being a bit protective is a very good sign. My brother is Cancer and with him when he likes you he really likes you but when he doesnt you dont want to tick him off! lol. And he forgives really easy but never forgets.

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oh also if you do hit it off, he might have emotional mood swings but will take care of you and love you like a mother which will add up for it! If you like that kinda thing that is.

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Out of myself, but wanting to go beyond that wanting what I see in your eyes, not power, but to kiss the ground with the dawn breeze for company, wearing white pilgrim cloth.

posted July 21, 2011 11:05 PM            

This morning I found myself thinking about all that had to take place to meet him and the fact that my cards over and over again tell me of destined love with a friend met at work.

For us to meet I had to leave a very secure job in another state. Yes I was burned out on it. I loved where I was living but loved here as well. I began returning here a few years back a couple a times a year on vacation and was longing to move back. When I moved back it was a very rough start and I had trouble finding work, burning through my savings. I couldn't even get several jobs that I was over qualified for. I posted an ad on Craigslist and was contacted by my current employer and hired on the spot. If not for all this we wouldn't have met.

I realize a lot had to occur for us to meet and it is very much like fate that brought us together. This morning I came to the conclusion that if it is fated to be it will bring us all the way. Not just part of the way and then drop it like a cold potato. So I am now trying to relax about it and let it flow and not push (probably a bad move with a cancer man anyway). I don't believe all things are fate, but I do believe that when something is fate it finds a way no matter what. So I will relax with it.

posted July 22, 2011 03:38 PM            

He was a gemini with mars in cancer and my friend is an aquarius. Long story short, they both were very subtle in their interest and I guess I was one of the first people who even sensed there was a serious attraction between them. Chances are with your aquarius influence he might not be sure whether you are just being friends or there is more. With my friend certainly I could see why the guy was wondering for a loooooooonnnnng time. Anyway, early on one of the first things that gave an indication he was interested were his multiple stop-overs at her desk on his way to the fax machine .... :-) Good luck!