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Betty Boop
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posted July 21, 2011 04:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Betty Boop     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was having a look at Lonake's thread - "he's just not that into you by sign" (in soul unions)

I'm curious about the girls on LL.. What do you do when someone likes you and you are simply not that into them? Are you straight forward and honest about it? Or do you simply try to avoid the situation or stop contacting them?

Post whatever placements you think influence your behaviour.
Since this is about dating & relationships - I'd say Venus/Mars/DC/5th house planets/5th ruler could all be important.

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RunAroundScreaming
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posted July 21, 2011 05:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RunAroundScreaming     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted July 21, 2011 05:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cupcakes     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My Sage Venus hates drama, so I avoid it. If I don't like a guy, I would stay very vague with him, hoping they'll get a hint. I don't like confronting people if it's going to hurt them. =\ If they're persistent, then I try to be friends and tell them I'm just not feeling it on my end.

If I like a guy just a little, it doesn't work for me.

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posted July 21, 2011 07:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When someone likes me and I'm not into them?
If I'm busy or preoccupied then it's just completely aloof, no words, just the chill I give off (which makes some of em come on even stronger.) No, please stay back. Another tell is if you're talking to me and my eyes glaze over that means you bore me because you're not: A)laughing at my jokes (major let down) or B)following my train of thought. It won't be too long now before I end the convo and find someone who gets me and shares similar ideas.

"Venus/Mars/DC/5th house planets/5th ruler"
-Capricorn/Libra/Aquarius/Uranus & Neptune/depends on house system, with Placidus then it's Pluto.

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love being Aries
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posted July 21, 2011 07:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for love being Aries     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Betty Boop:

Since this is about dating & relationships - I'd say Venus/Mars/DC/5th house planets/5th ruler could all be important.

I think my sun in Aries is very much responsible for being straight forward in being interested in them.
Capricorn in 5th house makes me very choosy about what i want. Mars in 5th also makes me very hyper when m having a romance.
Pisces on DC always gives me the wrong partner, i imagine them as being somebody else and they turn out to be somebody else
BUT my Venus in Gemini still persists that i should at least be friends with them if not lovers
so i try to be friends, if that doesn't work i start avoiding altogether.

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posted July 21, 2011 08:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for snarly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
One memorable instance (oh, for all the wrong reasons!) was this Leo guy that had a huge crush on me, but he was my closest friend. I told him straight up (sag asc) that he was really important to me, but ONLY as my friend. I guess I wasn't straight up enough, probably my Libra mercury, lol, because he just didn't get it. After a long time, the only way I could convince him was by sleeping with one of his friends. That was classic mars in Scorpio 10th house behaviour, and I am not proud of it at all. However, he moved on pretty quick and got married and had a kid 12 months later. Still feel awful about it, though!

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posted July 21, 2011 09:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Saraintheski     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I avoid them like the plague but will be kind and considerate although I have been a no show and walked away from a few people lol

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posted July 21, 2011 09:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for VenusDiSirius     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel very uncomfortable,and sorry for him. I stay at distance,as I could do sth misleading,out of desire not to hurt him. (if he's nice) If he's an idiot,well,Ice Queen. I all in Libra Asc,on this one. Eta: And,CancerVenus,because of compassion.

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posted July 21, 2011 09:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Chaos     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by cupcakes:
My Sage Venus hates drama, so I avoid it. If I don't like a guy, I would stay very vague with him, hoping they'll get a hint. I don't like confronting people if it's going to hurt them. =\ If they're persistent, then I try to be friends and tell them I'm just not feeling it on my end.

If I like a guy just a little, it doesn't work for me.


Sag Venus here, and I act like that too...

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posted July 21, 2011 12:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls**     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I mention other dudes I'm seeing lol

I also don't have sex with them.

Venus in Pisces (square Saturn and Uranus), Mars in Sag (trine Jupiter, sextile Sun/Mercury, Moon, opposite Chiron), DC in Sag w/ Jupiter in 11th in Aries (conjunct Saturn/Uranus, Neptune in 7th), 5th house in Libra, Venus in Pisces in 10th, Moon & Pluto in 5th.

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posted July 21, 2011 12:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquarqueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I was having a look at Lonake's thread - "he's just not that into you by sign" (in soul unions)

I'm curious about the girls on LL.. What do you do when someone likes you and you are simply not that into them? Are you straight forward and honest about it? Or do you simply try to avoid the situation or stop contacting them?

Post whatever placements you think influence your behaviour.
Since this is about dating & relationships - I'd say Venus/Mars/DC/5th house planets/5th ruler could all be important.


When im not into someone i try my best to make them not like me i will become a total diffrent person with them ill ignore phone calls text everything & if i do reply ill reply like 9 10 hours later to make them feel not wanted .

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Ami Anne
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posted July 21, 2011 12:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have learned this from reading a book on how men view woman. I will have to get it and put the name on.
I am 100% honest. I had this happen recently.I knew I was not interested .He kept saying he wanted to be friends but I knew from the book that no guy is gonna WASTE his time with you if he does not want more.
So, I was very nice but very very firm. That was respectful to him and to me.
He had no hard feelings to me cuz I was honest. He respected me,actually.It turned out really, really well!

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posted July 21, 2011 01:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RunAroundScreaming     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted July 21, 2011 07:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PiscesGirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me, I'm very straight forward and honest about it but with gentle tact. I would have to say it is my sun sign Pisces that gives me the gentleness and tact and my moon sign of Sag and Mars in Aries that gives me the direct and straight forwardness.

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posted July 21, 2011 07:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls**     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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He kept saying he wanted to be friends but I knew from the book that no guy is gonna WASTE his time with you if he does not want more.

That's not true. At all. And it's insulting to say that a woman is worth nothing if a man can't get "more." I'd throw that book away.

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posted July 21, 2011 08:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aya_and_baby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have this awful habit of giving people hope, often to my own detriment. I did it with friends who hoped, I did it with some exes... All were all the more devastated when push comes to shove and I decide it's still "no".

I just don't like to disappoint people but in the end I do stay true to myself. I won't stay in a relationship just to keep someone else happy or I won't be convinced to take things further with someone if I don't want it to evolve that way. But damn, do I have a nasty habit of giving those men hope nonetheless!

I think that stems from me wanting to be everyone's friend and for some reason I do think if you say "no" to someone, they don't want to stay friends any longer. It's a rediculous thought, I know, but it's stronger than myself to think such things. So as to not to disappoint those people, I keep on saying "maybe" until they force me to come out and make a decision.

Dsc in Gem with Moon conj, Dsc ruler Merc conj Asc, Venus in Sag conj Nept. Nothing in 5th except Eris, 5th house ruler Mars in Cap 2nd, square Pluto trine MC. I know for a fact that my sitting on the fence stems from my reluctance to disappoint people and my desire to keep people's hopes alive, which is a theme which comes back in all social contacts that I have, it's just part of who I am: I want to give people hope, not take it away. So either I have to (personally) look at my 1st house, or at any house which represents another person in one way or another. That could be pretty much nearly every other house Probably easier to look at my 1st and behold! My 7th house ruler and Venus are there! In fact, the rulers of my 3rd (neighbourhood/siblings) 4th (family/mother? ) 6th (the odd one out, unless you count it as colleagues) 7th (partner/generally the rest of the world) 10th (people that are not in contact with you? As in popularity but from the pov of someone who admires you, wouldn't that be considered MC?/father... ) 11th (why friends of course! ) are all there. It still doesn't explain why I don't want to disappoint all those people though... Unless that's a typical Sag trait, which is pretty much the only thing that connects them all.

Sorry, I'm brainstorming too much again. Hope I still made sense!

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posted July 22, 2011 12:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for blugrey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I tell them straight up and then avoid like the plague.

Gemini/Sag Moon

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posted July 24, 2011 09:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jounia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lonake:
When someone likes me and I'm not into them?
If I'm busy or preoccupied then it's just completely aloof, no words, just the chill I give off (which makes some of em come on even stronger.) No, please stay back. Another tell is if you're talking to me and my eyes glaze over that means you bore me because you're not: A)laughing at my jokes (major let down) or B)following my train of thought. It won't be too long now before I end the convo and find someone who gets me and shares similar ideas.

"Venus/Mars/DC/5th house planets/5th ruler"
-Capricorn/Libra/Aquarius/Uranus & Neptune/depends on house system, with Placidus then it's Pluto.


That's how it is with me!
"Venus/Mars/DC/5th house planets/5th ruler"
Gemini/Libra/Capricorn/Mercury (placidus)

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posted July 24, 2011 10:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AstrologicalMan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I do stuff that turns them off and makes them get away from me, so I don't have to be the jerk thinking that I am too good for them.

The person is completely into me and then I show them what I want them to see, that I know they won't like.

They think, "Oh God, nevermind, I didn't know that he was THAT type of lame person". "What a loser he is, wow, I am going to find someone better".

They don't know though that this is what I wanted them to think the whole time. haha.

I mean, who the hell would I think that I am, if I blew someone off or said, "nah, kid, I am on a higher level". This is what I find amusing about people who put others down or reject them. Who do you think that you are?

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