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Topic: Copy-Cat Syndrome
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nove731
Knowflake Posts: 49
From: Strasbourg, France
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted July 25, 2011 01:27 AM
  
Is there a particular placement or aspect in a chart (or between charts???) that leads to copy-cat tendencies? I have one friend, who although I quite like, has taken to copying just about everything that I do...Especially my fashion sense (rather a preppy look, which until recently he always derided as boring and ridiculous), but also he seems to display a conscious effort to pick up certain habits and/or hobbies of mine (ie, waiting until the last minute to finish things, sudden interest in learning French [my major], deciding to pick up a concentration in public health [my other major], deciding to begin cycling rather than metro-ing through the city, wanting to join the Peace Corps or do a Work and Holiday visa in Australia, etc). In essence, it's begun to feel that every time I decide that I am interested in something, he immediately declares a similar interest. I've taken to cultivating an interest in/taste for things (at least on the surface) that I know he won't like only to have him declare a change of heart! I'm beginning to become frustrated with this...I just want something for myself (which, though it sounds selfish, perhaps, I don't think is selfish...I just need some me-time/activities!)!For comparison, I'm posting both of our charts (as well as a synastry and a composite): Me:
 Him:
 Synastry:
 Composite:
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Moonfish
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: phoenix, arizona, usa
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 25, 2011 02:17 AM
One important thing I see in your Synastry is his Saturn squaring your Sun, a common factor for long-term friendships/relations. But the Saturn person often has a hold on the Sun, almost like a strict parent has on their child. When its a square most times its very uncomfortable and heavy for the Sun person to deal with. You also have Moon square Saturn in composite meaning that no matter how much fun you have together at the same time its often a burden. Luckily, I see a lot of good aspects between Mercury. You guys have good communication and understanding, so you should be able to tell your friend how you feel without offending him. IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
Knowflake Posts: 339
From: Brickenton
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted July 25, 2011 05:28 AM
Yeah.......but who do YOU copy your habits from? Your preppy style has been done before, you are copying someone else as well. You are also copying the other things that you mentioned from other models. So, now that you realize this, why is it an issue for you? Why make this an issue for your friend, when you do the same thing?IP: Logged |
sand
Knowflake Posts: 664
From:
Registered: May 2011
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posted July 25, 2011 06:06 AM
^bingo! there's that quote too about imitation and flattery.. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
Knowflake Posts: 1362
From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 25, 2011 07:47 AM
You might just be similar people, which is why you became friends in the first place. You both have some Pisces & Aquarius happening (so humanitarian goals is no surprise) PLUS the generational Capricorn stuff, which can give you a desire to help anyone less fortunate in a practical/financial way. It's very possible that the things you are doing are things that he has already thought of doing or considered - and the fact that you are doing them has inspired him to actually take action (he is not as fiery as you - so he might take longer to get going). When a person lacks an element, they crave it. I don't know how else to put this (I'm sure it will sound corny) but your fire can be very healing and helpful for this person.
You can show him that the things he dreams about are *possible* if he acts on them.
Of course - you can also be a jerk, stomp on your feet and yell: "Mommy!!!! He's playing with my playstation!!!" (An understandable impulse for any Aries ^.. I should know!) It's your call. IP: Logged |
nove731
Knowflake Posts: 49
From: Strasbourg, France
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted July 25, 2011 10:28 AM
Well, AstrologicalMan, this is where you and I differ. Copy? I've been wearing more or less the same style of clothing my entire life. And although, yes, my "style has been done," I don't necessarily agree that I copied it from someone else. In terms of the way I clothe myself, it's not about "copying", it's about the way that one has been brought up...both of us have parents that tried more or less to bring us up as such...I went with it, he rejected it. In any case, it isn't so much that he does it, but that he has no interest in it until I do. Nor would it bother me either if he had not spent the roughly two years prior constantly deriding what I do as boring or stupid.Betty Boop, it isn't that I want his taking an interest in things that I'm interested in or things that I do is bad, per se...On some level it's nice, as when I first met him, I would sometimes be a little frustrated or embarrassed with his attitudes toward certain things. I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that a.) I just don't understand the sudden about-face on many of these issues, and b.) it just makes me feel smothered! I can't explain why, but I feel like I can't have any time or any thing to myself! Not only does he seem to very suddenly like or want to do the things that I enjoy, he also wants to talk about them all the time! I can't stand to spend another hour talking about a JCrew sweater... IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
Knowflake Posts: 339
From: Brickenton
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted July 25, 2011 01:10 PM
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Originally posted by nove731:
Well, AstrologicalMan, this is where you and I differ. Copy? I've been wearing more or less the same style of clothing my entire life. And although, yes, my "style has been done," I don't necessarily agree that I copied it from someone else. In terms of the way I clothe myself, it's not about "copying", it's about the way that one has been brought up...both of us have parents that tried more or less to bring us up as such...I went with it, he rejected it. In any case, it isn't so much that he does it, but that he has no interest in it until I do. Nor would it bother me either if he had not spent the roughly two years prior constantly deriding what I do as boring or stupid.Betty Boop, it isn't that I want his taking an interest in things that I'm interested in or things that I do is bad, per se...On some level it's nice, as when I first met him, I would sometimes be a little frustrated or embarrassed with his attitudes toward certain things. I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that a.) I just don't understand the sudden about-face on many of these issues, and b.) it just makes me feel smothered! I can't explain why, but I feel like I can't have any time or any thing to myself! Not only does he seem to very suddenly like or want to do the things that I enjoy, he also wants to talk about them all the time! I can't stand to spend another hour talking about a JCrew sweater...
You should be flattered that someone is looking up to you. You chose to incarnate here having him mirror you and now you don't want to take on the responsibility? Also, if you just wear what was given to you, then not only are you copying someone else but you are just accepting whatever anyone wants to make out of you. IP: Logged | |
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