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posted August 07, 2011 06:02 PM            

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I feel like the privacy of my relationship has been compromised by some events that happened last night with my SO and I am unsure that I want to continue my relationship with him. Like we had this idealized relationship which has been somewhat been tainted. Neptune has been transiting over my venus for far too long, which is now retrograde. Is this one of the effects?

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posted August 08, 2011 09:37 PM            

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it can be...neptune in relationship to venus can cause illusions in love. I have venus oppose neptune natally..I wished I knew more information tho to help you out.

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posted August 08, 2011 09:56 PM            

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Gosh seeleah- its so complicated but to minimize a long story we were hanging out with some friends at his opening for his new club. He allowed this girl who I am no longer friends with(another long story & too much drama) to have her birthday party there & she brought his ex girlfriend- who had no idea we are together. I kept my cool- no reason to be mad but the environment felt very antagonistic to me. Bottom line is that a lot of drama could've ensued if I allowed myself to stoop to their level....I was cool,calm & collected. Both girls are extreme drama queens, ones a leo & the other has leo planets. It just made me look at him differently because he at one point had/has these people in his life and it just didn't fit the idealization I had of him. I thought of him to be of caliber (for a lack of something better to say). Do you understand how I'm feeling? its complicated & hard to explain....once I found out the girl had morals & standards not aligned with mine, I stopped being friends with her. When I say that, I mean that she's a backstabbing conniving snake & I like to live drama free.

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posted August 08, 2011 10:55 PM            

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Yep. Sure is

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posted August 09, 2011 01:54 AM            

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Some people are just bad judges of character. One of my friends is dating THE WORST person I have ever met, but I don't think he's a bad person because of it.

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posted August 09, 2011 10:47 AM            

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Its not that I think he's a bad person because of lack judgement of character. He knows what kind of people they are but will still adapt to the environment. I on the other hand, cannot adjust to that. I'm like a psychic sponge & it almost took me two days of just complete silence & not taking his calls to feel somewhat recovered. I hate to be in an environment of negative people...it sucks the energy out of me.

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posted August 09, 2011 11:08 AM            

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I would just tell him not to invite them around when he knows you're going to be there.

Does he have any Libra in his chart? JW.

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posted August 09, 2011 11:20 AM            

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I caught myself taking one for the team...lol. I told him I didn't want to be there around those people but he wanted me there to be supportive of him during his grand opening. I told him from now on, during events he has to never invite me if they are going to be around. But its a bar also- so if I'm they're to enjoy a casual environment there's no telling if they wouldn't come either.

He has a pluto libra in 7th house but he's a cap with pisces rising.

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posted August 09, 2011 11:56 PM            

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Difficult one, I can really relate to that feeling though! Maybe its my Cap mars or... Do you have many Scorpio placments?

Also, Pisces energy can be very adaptive and like to keep the peace, at least in a social setting. It doesn't necessarily mean that they will still think/act that way in private (if you know what I mean?)

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posted August 09, 2011 11:57 PM            

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Difficult one, I can really relate to that feeling though! Maybe its my Cap mars or... Do you have many Scorpio placments?

Also, Pisces energy can be very adaptive and like to keep the peace, at least in a social setting. It doesn't necessarily mean that they will still think/act that way in private (if you know what I mean?)

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posted August 09, 2011 11:58 PM            

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Difficult one, I can really relate to that feeling though! Maybe its my Cap mars or... Do you have many Scorpio placments?

Also, Pisces energy can be very adaptive and like to keep the peace, at least in a social setting. It doesn't necessarily mean that they will still think/act that way in private (if you know what I mean?)

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posted August 10, 2011 12:57 AM            

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I don't have any scorpio placements except my scorpio descendant but I also have a capricorn mars in my 8th house. I find him always wanting to keep the peace in social settings but to what detriment I wonder? I on the other hand cannot fake it no matter how hard I try & I have gemini moon & aquarius venus. I don't like it, its written all over my face-unintentionally.

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posted August 11, 2011 12:40 AM            

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
I don't have any scorpio placements except my scorpio descendant but I also have a capricorn mars in my 8th house. I find him always wanting to keep the peace in social settings but to what detriment I wonder? I on the other hand cannot fake it no matter how hard I try & I have gemini moon & aquarius venus. I don't like it, its written all over my face-unintentionally.

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Apologies for the triple post earlier!

I'm not sure if Pisces rising do actually fake it, 'in the moment'. Its like they dont see the other persons flaws, I guess they see the best in people, which is a good trait. But then it can make you wonder how special you are to them in comparison with other people. At least it can do with me at times (I have pisces descendant plus Scorpio sun + venus so i'm probably too possessive!)

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posted August 11, 2011 01:35 AM            

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I mean that she's a backstabbing conniving snake & I like to live drama free.

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I know exactly what you mean.. But - girls who behave this way towards other women - are usually nice to men.
They don't act this way towards a guy... They act this way to GET a guy (getting rid of competition)
In fact, men/sex (which they often confuse with love) are the centre of their universe.

So he wouldn't have experienced or seen this side of her - first hand --- as you have (from a female perspective).

Also, I doubt he had any idea she would bring his ex gf to this party.. That was just her - probably to annoy you (since you stopped being friends with her).

The fact that the ex doesn't know he's moved on is not unusual because he probably did not speak to her. And this other girl - would have avoided telling her intentionally - to cause more drama..

So I mean, I don't think he's too blame.. at this point.

The thing is, with most men - you have to reallllllly explain these things (it's not just him!) .
They don't see through the conniving snake 'type' of woman.. Scorpio Mars men seem more savvy to me, but even they stuff up sometimes.

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posted August 11, 2011 12:40 PM            

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No problem acousticbob!! Pisces seems so under the current you just never know what they are feeling or doing. I know I mean more to him than most but it just irked me so bad that night. The biggest issue I have is that I'm a psychic sponge & I had to keep away from all of them so I wouldn't feel there negative energy. It took me 2 days to what I felt like was recovery.

Betty boop- I think you're on point for a lot of things. Because she is such a snake, I know that I could never be friends with her again. She helped to ruin my last relationship with the lies & tales and I feel like I'm in hypermode to preserve this one. He knows what kind of person she is but since he's been best friends with her husband since childhood, I guess its a loyalty factor. Just an ackward situation i'd rather not be in but I have to be supportive of his endeavors as he is of mine.

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