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Topic: What would you do???
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Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 03:37 PM
  
I went out last night and I met this man (Aries)
He was all tattooed out and WOW had a nice body... His face was OK looking...He came across shy, and didnt really know what to say to me.. He told me, hey I want to be honest.. (because I am who I am) I said OK..
He told me he has spent 17 years of us life in prison, not at once but on 4 different times... (non-violent offenses)
(ok so he had the hot prison body..lol) He told me Im done with that life,and now Im like a kid fresh out of the house and starting my life..
He said he's working and going to school, and he's completely disconnected him self from any and all people that are still in that life style.
He said no-one can convenience me to go back to that life style. (we were talking about peer pressure) He's been out for over 3 years and he's done nothing but positive things.. He was really genuine and sincere while talking to me.. Very soft spoken.. He told me, I just dont really know what to say to women.... I said just say what ever comes to your mind... I really respected his honesty and I gotta give him a high five for changing his life around and starting new..
For me I dont really see him as anything long term... But at the least I made a friend..
I have friends from all walks of life,so his past doesnt bother me as a "friend" but it would bother me as a relationship... So what would you do?
Be afraid cuz he was in prison for so long?
Be friends?
Just go with it, and see what happens? Is this one of those moral questions...lol IP: Logged |
tuxedoMask
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posted August 14, 2011 03:47 PM
did u check his ankle first for any bracelets? i wouldn't necessarily be afraid of him because he's been in prison, but i would take to google asap and try to confirm all of what he said to see if he was telling the truth.. also, i'd ask about the offense..was it for identity theft?
money laundering?
possesion of marijuana or cocaine? some of those things are excusable but not the identity theft... i don't know many people who have been with someone who'd freshly gotten out of prison.. but i did meet someone once while i was in the hospital for a drunken ass event and the person had been to jail plenty of times! attractive, yes... charming, flirty, all the good things.. then i became a little concerned once i found out they were in the hospital too for 3rd degree sun burns they had for being out in the sun 3 days straight with no protection under a drugged out haze.. the story then elaborated.. they went from being harmless, cute and sweet in my eyes, to holy hell, wtf? they stuck up a city bus after having snorted cocaine along with some heroin and smoked their friends bag of pot while they watched and masturbated as the friend and his girlfriend got it on in their restroom... so, they stuck up the city bus, told it to drive, by the time it got to it's destination, the police jumped on and did what they did... they get out of jail, they do the same thing, sort of.. get money, get high as fc*ck, then they walked around partying for 3 days straight with their back exposed because of no shirt and suffered literally 3rd degree burs from just the sun... i was torn, obviously.. should i have, or shouldn't i have given them my phone number? the answer is, that i did. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 04:04 PM
OO For sure I did ask about his crimes.... He said stealing and dealing.. for the money.. The last time he went down was for his ex because she had kids, and he would have rather done the time, then have her do it. So he took the fall. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 04:10 PM
Also I believe everyone comes into our life for a reason.... Its weird, because I was home alone, I left my house and went to the bank... Then I thought to my self I want to have a drink.. So I stopped by this one bar by myself and went in for one drink.... He got there the exact same time I did.. I noticed his body when he got out of the car... LOL...
He came with a couple (male,female) the couple sat next to me at the bar... So he was a third wheel and I was alone.. LOL
I started talking to the 3 of them, we all played pool for a bit... IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 14, 2011 04:17 PM
Interesting...I don't know what to say here, exactly. I think it's wonderful that he managed to turn his life around. I'm a firm believer in rehabilitation, though I am aware not every person can be rehabilitated, mostly because they have no desire for that. But it doesn't seem to be the case for your friend.
May I ask something here? You said his past would bother you from a relationship perspective. What exactly would bother you? Not trusting him completely or the judgements that might come from your surrounding?
I say go with your gut feeling. You will know if he's telling the truth and whether or not you can trust him. And since you asked what I would do... Well, I guess I have too much Capricorn influence, so I wouldn't be able to trust him, and social status is important for me, so I would kill any attempt at a relationship from the beginning. That and the fact that I live in a country where people who come out of jail are rarely, if ever, willing to rehabilitate themselves.
I'd keep him as a friend, though, with some reserves, indeed. The fact that he was in jail repeatedly is a sign of repetitive bad behaviour, so I'd doubt I'd be able to trust him. Trust is build in time. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 04:30 PM
I believe in rehabilitation, but ONLY if the person wants to... They have to do it on their own, and have the strong desire to change... The reason, why it would bother me in a relationship perspective, is because you just never know, and he could at some point have a "stress-er" that sends him back into that life style. My gut says he's very genuine and sincere on wanting to change his life around. But its not an easy road... There are a lot of people in the world that would bring you down, and not give a person like this a chance.
Some people cant handle that.. I would never myself get involved in illegal activity.. I wouldnt surround myself with people that are involved...
Im ok with "use to" but not now.. So yeah Im a little leary but I really really felt his sincerity..
I admired that A LOT! He's really super shy... His friend asked me for my number for him.. (ahwww) I ended up talking to him until 4am.. At the end of the night he just grabbed me and hugged me.. He gave me a light kiss. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted August 14, 2011 04:38 PM
Wow, the man has integrity.
I believe him, Aries is basically upfront and honest.
Consider this, Saturn is in Libra making an opposition to his Sun so this is a major turning point in his life and he sounds hopeful and sincere.Make him your friend,
not your lover. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 04:45 PM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Wow, the man has integrity.
I believe him, Aries is basically upfront and honest.
Consider this, Saturn is in Libra making an opposition to his Sun so this is a major turning point in his life and he sounds hopeful and sincere.Make him your friend,
not your lover.
Your right I didnt think of that...
I did get his info... (ok so I wanna know..lol) except for his birth time.. Here's his planets
Sun = 9 Ares
Merc = 12 Aries (opps T.Saturn)
Venus= 24 Taur
Mars = 1 Gem
Sat= 2 Gem
Moon = 8 Libra (well depends on time) We are only a few months a part so, the generational planets are the same as mine.
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tuxedoMask
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posted August 14, 2011 04:53 PM
look to your twelfth house!i don't know how all of them play out in the twelfth, but an aries man (my father) did try talking to me about making changes in his life and his connection with god (he's not at all in a similar situation as the op's encountered date) only to then a mishap of communication happen and i received an email from him that was meant for somebody else where he's a totally completely different person talking sh_t.. so if his mercury is in ur twelfth, i wouldn't believe him... and no matter how better they wanna get, sometimes (i'm sure you've seen it in the movies) they just can't or seem to not wanna get away from that mess and they feel out of control.. it's a long battle for some depending on what their demons are but if you're getting involved, prep yourself because along with what they share, some people also like to share demons, so make sure you're equipped.. i heard ghost busters went out of business! damn recession! IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 04:57 PM
My 12th is empty.. Well I have eros in H12.. But its right on my Asc.. Other than that nothing... Aqua rules H12.. Uranus is in H7.. His mercury is in my 1st.. Probably why he was straight out and direct... IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted August 14, 2011 08:32 PM
First off he wouldn't be for me cos I go for face over body if we're talking just physical.Regarding his past, I'd have my guard up and use my intuition. If you have to have sex with him then go for it, play it by ear like you said. IP: Logged |
Aya_and_baby
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posted August 14, 2011 08:47 PM
Well, this case sounds pretty clear to me. He was honest, has no intention to go back to his old life... I'd be friends with him at least. Sure I'd be a bit apprehensive seeing as he spent time in jail and might have picked some subconscious behaviour there purely out of self defence, behaviour which we are unlikely to understand, but in the end if he is both showing and saying that he has changed, proving it well enough, I just think who are we to not give him a chance and treat him as any other human being?In the romance department, I don't know. I don't like the idea of being with someone who is covered in tattoos, but that's personal opinion, not a question of morale  ------------------
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Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 09:06 PM
Yeah Im just gonna do the friend thing, and just play it by ear...
I really feel he needs positive people in his life..
I cant really see myself in a relationship, but we do have a tight venus sq mars.. 
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Lonake
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posted August 14, 2011 09:10 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
I really feel he needs positive people in his life..
That is so sweet 
It is so easy to fall back into prison life, it's like another world and some people purposely get caught so that they can go back cos that's their home more than the 'outside'. Crazy.IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 09:24 PM
Thanks... My over all impression was he's a gentle soul, that's made some huge mistakes.. but Im not naive either, I know he has a dark side.. The thing that grabbed my attention the most, was the way he hugged me.. It was different.. It was like an appreciation to be hugging someone.. Ive never felt that before... With well an underlying sexual urges.... (cause boy could I feel his urges)LOL... (not physically feel)lol
Guess thats the pisces in me... hahhaha IP: Logged |
love being Aries
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posted August 14, 2011 09:38 PM
he is an Aries and he wouldn't lie to you, but i would say he might get fed up of the monotony of being good one day and would want some adventure again. since he has already done that once, he is aware of the risks (and rewards).shyness i guess is coming from ASC, i have a virgo ASC and people tell me I appear shy in first meeting.My only concern is that he will not be able to put up with a life with no adventure for long. and for me, it would not bother me to be friends with him because i will never judge him from his past, even in a relationship. Source: Pure Aries instinct  IP: Logged |
love being Aries
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posted August 14, 2011 09:39 PM
and yes I remember reading it here on LL somewhereHow to attract a Leo?
someone replied :" by having a sun in Aries" I don't know why but I remembered this one IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 09:53 PM
OMG!!!! See I dont know how or WHY I get caught up in these types of issues... Remember I said his friend asked me for my number for him.. WELLLLLL....
His friend just called me, and asked if he could come to my house??? Seriously??? I said nahh.. not a good idea... He said ok, but for the record the girl I was with last night is not my GF.. she's just a friend so if you ever wanna hang out.. Give me a call..
I didnt know what to say.. I was shocked.. I said oooo.. ok... He said ok bye.. I said bye...
Seriously!!! Come on..... OMG! like noooo way! WTF is that!
This crap ****** me off, and now I feel like Im on the spot... IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted August 14, 2011 09:58 PM
"Remember I said his friend asked me for my number for him."
---Omg, never, lol, I didn't see this in the thread before!
O wow, I would never. He has to be his own man and ask for it himself.Lioness sweets you still stand as The Great Attractor (!) lol IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted August 14, 2011 10:03 PM
The Aries guy left his phone at a friends house.. and the other guy asked for my number right in front of him and the girl...
So I really didnt think THAT! wow did that catch me off guard... I did get Aries number though.. He said here take my number..
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Lioness sweets you still stand as The Great Attractor (!) lol
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Sighhhhhhhhhhh
Damn my Jupiter is on that thing! then opps my venus..
trines my Mars... See why men suck! Maybe its my Pluto sq Venus...
or Eros conjunct Asc.
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