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featherlightly
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posted August 22, 2011 08:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What aspects have you had that you'll avoid like the plague from now on?

For me, I REALLY hated:

-Mars square Saturn (stubborn clash of wills)
-Mercury square/opposition Mars or Saturn (constant bickering, getting on each other's nerves all the time)
-Moon square moon (hard getting close to the other person/letting them in, even when you're really compatible)
-Saturn conjunct ascendant (feels like the Saturn person always has the upper hand and is 'wiser' than you or intimidating)

What about you?

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posted August 22, 2011 08:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for northernlad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Anything in Libra

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posted August 22, 2011 08:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mintgirl123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well for aspects I haven't had any that were horrible, but I would expect a tight mercury square mars, or Mercury square moon to be quite annoying.

Anything involving a square to mercury, moon etc will probably get irritating very quickly.


Saturn conjunct Desc or Asc?
Mars square uranus (tight?)

I don't want a guy with cancer planets, gem planets lol or Pisces.


Mars square mars (tight?)-- probably good for attraction, but I hate conflict so yeah.

^ and HEY lol. I've got a Libra stellium. What's wrong with libra planets? o_O

I'm a virgo sun, but I got a stellium in libra and an aries rising, so I've found that Cappies aren't for me. =/

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posted August 22, 2011 08:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Beyonce & Jay-Z have Mars square Saturn (1 deg) along w/ Moon square Mars (1 deg) and they make a great couple :]

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posted August 22, 2011 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by northernlad:
Anything in Libra

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posted August 22, 2011 09:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mintgirl, I love Libra stellium people I got my ascendant there and my south node. My first three boyfriends were all Libras.

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posted August 22, 2011 09:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For me
Virgo Venus
Venus in Aries
Most Virgo placements
Most Libra Placements
Aqua Sun
Aqua moon
Libra moon
Scorpio Moon

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posted August 22, 2011 09:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for featherlightly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moonfish, that's interesting about Beyonce and Jay-Z. Do you know if their synastry chart is posted anywhere? I actually think (from looking at probably close to 1000 charts in the past 12 years) that hard Mars/Saturn aspects are the most common thing in long term relationships. That or Saturn/Sun. And always the hard aspects -- square in particular. It must create some sort of combination of glue-like energy to keep the relationship going.

I have trouble with hard aspects to my Mars because it's opposition to my Saturn and Uranus in my natal chart... so any hard Mars aspects are also triggering those planets. Yuck.

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posted August 22, 2011 09:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for northernlad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:

^ and HEY lol. I've got a Libra stellium. What's wrong with libra planets? o_O

And I've got a Cancer stellium. Nyah.

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posted August 22, 2011 09:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by featherlightly:
Moonfish, that's interesting about Beyonce and Jay-Z. Do you know if their synastry chart is posted anywhere? I actually think (from looking at probably close to 1000 charts in the past 12 years) that hard Mars/Saturn aspects are the most common thing in long term relationships. That or Saturn/Sun. And always the hard aspects -- square in particular. It must create some sort of combination of glue-like energy to keep the relationship going.

I have trouble with hard aspects to my Mars because it's opposition to my Saturn and Uranus in my natal chart... so any hard Mars aspects are also triggering those planets. Yuck.


Yea I noticed that too & no I looked it up myself, here's there chart:

(jay-z birthtime unknown, & beyonce's birthtime is 12 pm. His Mars squares her Moon - not shown in the chart.)
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f?d1day=4&d1 month=12&d1year=1969&d2day=4&d2month=9&d2year=1981

In my current relationship my Saturn squares his Venus & opposites his NN. His Saturn semi-square my Sun, inconjunct my Moon, & square my NN

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posted August 22, 2011 09:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Born on the 1st, 10th, or 19. There will be power struggles. Born on the 16th. 7 lifepath.

Born on the 5th, or 14th. Not a deal breaker, but I could never get close to them. I find they don't trust me, oddly.

Sun in Aquarius - instantly puts me on guard.
Sun & Mars in Capricorn

Their Mars conjunct my Moon.
Moon in Gemini opp my Moon in Sagittarius.

Venus conjunct Mars. This is not a romantic aspect, it's a sexual one. I will not pursue a relationship where this was the only/major aspect because I know things will descent in to warfare.

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posted August 22, 2011 10:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mars square Mercury
Mercury conj Saturn
There are others.

"Saturn conjunct ascendant (feels like the Saturn person always has the upper hand and is 'wiser' than you or intimidating)"
---Or more like you throw the Saturn person off balance and they do all they can to retain a feeling of being in control. I've had it & I have it with 2 of my family members now, I'm the Asc in both.

"Mars square Saturn (stubborn clash of wills)"
---Had this. Yes.

"Mercury square/opposition Mars or Saturn (constant bickering, getting on each other's nerves all the time)"
---I have a DW Mars/Saturn to Mercury with someone. My Mercury opposes their Mars/Saturn. Their Mercury squares my Mars/Saturn. Just give me a break (!) Gtf off and let me breathe (!)

"Mercury square moon to be quite annoying."
---Had this. No kidding. Mercury always said the wrong thing at the wrong time.

"Saturn conjunct Desc"
---Had this. Again, let a poor woman breathe.

"Mars square uranus (tight?)"
---Had this. Arguments took a while to get to that place but once they did Mars spared no expense in trying to ignite Uranus (me) into something that Mars couldn't handle (!) Oh, and the Mars person had natal Mars conj Merc (also sq my Uranus), did not help matters.

"Beyonce & Jay-Z have Mars square Saturn (1 deg) along w/ Moon square Mars (1 deg) and they make a great couple :]"
---Do they air their dirty laundry? Moon/Mars is nice for sex.

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posted August 22, 2011 10:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mintgirl123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by northernlad:
And I've got a Cancer stellium. Nyah.


LOL guessing you're moody and clingy ahahha and manipulative (had an ex with cancer sun, scorpy moon + gem merc and venus -_-)
I like my libra planets. Makes me understanding, creative, romantic and I'm a great listener. I guess my virgo sun and mars helps with stabilising any flighty tendencies haha.

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posted August 22, 2011 10:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for northernlad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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LOL guessing you're moody and clingy ahahha and manipulative (had an ex with cancer sun, scorpy moon + gem merc and venus -_-)
I like my libra planets. Makes me understanding, creative, romantic and I'm a great listener. I guess my virgo sun and mars helps with stabilising any flighty tendencies haha.

Moody, yes, but they come as fast as they go. Clingy? Not so much. I need my space and generally freak out when people are clingy with me. Manipulative? Not as bad as most Cancers get a rap for. I've got Sun, Merc and mars in cancer, Venus in Taurus and Virgo Moon.

Libras are way too flaky for me. I went on a date a month ago with a Virgo Sun, Libra Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Pluto. He invited his friends to our date. WHO DOES THAT? WE'RE ON A BLOODY DATE. Then he invited me to go do something a week later and when the day came I never heard from him so I dropped him like a bad habit.

I also had a little relationship with another Libra years ago and it was just a pain in the ass. I've sworn them off. Love them as friends, though.

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posted August 22, 2011 11:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mintgirl123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe he didn't think you were on a date? Lol?
I have my pluto in scorpy, but lol my moon, venus and mercury are in libra (along with juno, vertex + many other asteriods). Maybe libra moon girls aren't as flighty.

But yeah, wouldn't have worked out anyway, you guys have too many squares by sign.
Stick with water and earth signs <3

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posted August 22, 2011 11:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for northernlad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh no, he was well aware, because his co-worker lives in my neighborhood and has been spreading news of this "date" like wildfire. So, he was clearly interested, and yet flaked out. No thank you ma'am.

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posted August 23, 2011 06:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dreamy_AriesGirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
-personal planets in hard aspect to neptune
-too much pluto - veeery obsessive
-and if its long term, then lack of strong contact between saturn and personal planets/axis

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posted August 23, 2011 07:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for allouette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
do you find Saturn cj DC that bad? Do you have any examples when it did work?

I have it with someone I really like, I am Saturn

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posted August 23, 2011 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a Sagittarius stellium: Sun,Neptune,Jupiter, Uranus and South Node.

So far I don't have a particular aspect that I am "against".

However, since I already have a T-square Moon, Mercury, Mars aspect, I reckon it wouldn't be a good idea to agrivate it by dating someone with close aspects to it i.e Libra, Capricorn , Cancer or Aries.

But hey, what the use of living if you can't feel alive?

The results, in my personality, are mixed

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posted August 23, 2011 08:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Betty Boop     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hehehehehehe
northern


Ok, My deal breaker aspects:

When their Mars is conj. my Venus/NN and opposite my Pluto. They get on my nerves. I find them superficial and rebellious for the sake of being rebellious (with no actual/logical reason)

Having *zero* Mercury aspects is sooooo mind numbingly boring.

Having crappy Mercury aspects - less boring but still annoying.

Venus retrograde generally isn't my 'type', because I don't find them sincere.. but there are exceptions.

Mercury in Aries (when square my Cap Moon) can upset me.
I feel like a mom who has to deal with a screaming/bratty kid in the middle of a crowded supermarket on a Saturday morning - (grocery shopping). While it may look funny to onlookers who find Mr Aries Mercury's antics "cute" -- it's not so much fun for me, since I have to put up with it ad nauseum.

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posted August 23, 2011 03:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DayandNight21     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
saturn square pluto either way a big no-no
pluto opp sun - not nice after 3 months
agree on the mercury - need aspects preferably positive ones
sat square sun = bit fat dampener no thanks


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posted August 23, 2011 06:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for carl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, I don't think a single thing has been mentioned that is in my chart.

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posted August 23, 2011 07:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for maira     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
hehehehehehe
northern



Perfect picture for Cancer

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Beyonce & Jay-Z have Mars square Saturn (1 deg) along w/ Moon square Mars (1 deg) and they make a great couple :]

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