posted September 01, 2011 06:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Xiiro:
My best friend is Leo Sun/Scorpio Moon. Her flirtation style is a bit wonky. If she is comfortable, she is touchy-feely but will never express her interest verbally. If she feels uncomfortable or out of her element, she will tease, challenge, shoot down, or hide from guys she is interested in.

The guy has to persist in a respectful, flirtatious, and dominant (but not dominating) attitude until she feels comfortable and then he has to get through the touchy-feely stage, eventually professing his love. Needless to say, she doesn't often date LOL.

Any Scorpi-esque courting ritual is similar to how actual scorpions mate. It's a dance requiring a bit of vulnerability mixed with a lot of circling the goal. Male scorpions actually give the females little stings throughout the mating dance, so they will be too doped up to kill the male once the deed is done.

As for Scorpio Moons, My experience with them has been fairly straightforward. In order to feel secure, they require a deep and genuine willingness to be vulnerable. They need to feel safe and will do whatever they can to protect their personal space and those they accept into that space (even stand in harm's way). They can come off as severe, harsh, or private on occasion. The truth is, they are a serious emotional force to interact with.

Imagine you are being chased by bad people and you find a dark cave to hide in. As you run deeper into the cave, you realize you are very lost and have forgotten where the mouth of the tunnel is. Fear overcomes you as your feelings become the only force which differentiates you from the darkness. After several minutes, your eyes begin to notice light which was not noticeable before. You see you are alone in the cave and you no longer feel scared once you get an idea of the shape of your environment. Soon the voices of your pursuers can be heard close by, a shot of fear overcomes you again as you witness three dark figures approaching. Suddenly you realize the figures are stumbling blind. You can see them, but they are completely vulnerable and clueless of your presence. You are now very safe and the situation has tilted in your favor. - Connecting with any intense Pluto person can be a bit like running into a dark cave to discover you are a bit lost and very vulnerable. Once you learn to really see the light in the depths and embrace the conditions which make you vulnerable, you step into a position of inner-power. When you first approach a Plutonian person, you are like a formless figure groping around in the dark. They must use their feelings to assess you first and may even hide in the shadows or make scary noises in the hopes that you will not violate their vulnerable space. It's the people who stick around through the hiding and the spooky noises who stand out to the Plutonian. Being willing to endure the initial fear and pursue a space of trust and vulnerability is the ultimate goal.

Additionally, there are cases where a Scorpio type person may feel their cave is much more dark or scary than it may appear to you. Being sensitive to their insecurity and responding to their positive gestures is a great way to earn trust. How does one know if a Scorpio type person is interested? Usually if you get a feeling of intense attraction toward them and they respond to your flirtation, you are on the right track. The key is to be your self, Scorpio can see right through you (or more appropriately, they can see your emotional environment). If you act like your self and the Scorpio rejects you, move on. If they don't like you, you are not terribly likely to change their mind.

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I have noticed in this, and in other posts you have made, that you have a gift in explaining complex things with words.

posted September 01, 2011 06:47 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:

btw, are you going to keep staring at someone when they decided to stare back at you even though you don't like them? cause i wanna look at my situation in different angles.....what if he just stared at me bacause i stared back? or is there any other reason why you would stare back at someone??

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posted September 01, 2011 07:20 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
when you said "mirrored" your behaviour, do you mean like when he becomes a little friendly with me then i should approach him and become all friendly at him too the next day? or like if he ignores me today, i should ignore him tomorrow? idk...give an idea preeettty pleeeaaase, with a cherry on top!

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posted September 01, 2011 07:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Taineberry:

When he is friendly, mirror his style. Laugh (but don't squeak or squeal too much) and act lively if he is arseing around.

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i gotchaaa!, luckily i don't squeak nor squeal! thanks Taineberry!!! it was really helpful no wonder why he would talk to me seriously or happily sometimes, he's prolly testing me if i'll reciprocate what he's doing but in different scenarios hehehehe

and oh! i found something on the other site that i've been through before saying something like:

"when i like someone, (coming from a scorpio mooner) i am painfully aware of their every little actions no matter how i act all unattached on the outside."

posted September 01, 2011 07:55 AM            

How can I ever love another Moon more than this subtle one? It's exactly what I'm looking for in a mate

posted September 01, 2011 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:

"when i like someone, (coming from a scorpio mooner) i am painfully aware of their every little actions no matter how i act all unattached on the outside."

is that true for you?

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posted September 01, 2011 10:07 AM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:

"when i like someone, (coming from a scorpio mooner) i am painfully aware of their every little actions no matter how i act all unattached on the outside."

is that true for you?

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posted September 02, 2011 02:14 AM            

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Originally posted by bethcarliseh:
Who flirts? What is the point? Don't you know what you want? Make up your mind. Don't tease people. Flirting is for pre teens who think riding in a car without a seat belt on is hardcore and rebellious. When I see something that I want, I take it. When I don't want something I ignore it and they can't break in.

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Flirting is not teasing or being false - it is an age old and natural way of guaging whether attraction is mutual - whether there is potential to develop a relationship. It doesn't even have to be sexual - it can even be used to indicate intent to connect in a warm friendship. Think of flirting as an art form we use to indicate interest and attraction in a risk-free way - a kind of social lubricant so we don't go charging at people like a bull in a chinashop.

posted September 15, 2011 10:31 PM            

Born on an exact New Moon in Scorpio conj Pluto and IC with Mercury a few degrees away.

When I'm interested, you WILL know because then, you will have my complete attention because I will be scrutinising you, sizing you up, looking for subtle and not so subtle clues in your words, your body language, your movements and how you interact with other people to see if you are worth my salt. I treat everyone with respect as a basic human right and my instincts make me protect the weak but I will never, ever look upto someone I consider "weak". Strength of character is the way to go. Please leave your phoniness, your insincerity and superficial charm at the door. Talk to me, but be intense, every subject from life to death and beyond is fascinating. I admire knowledge, crave it and I shall hear you when you speak. I can rationalise my feelings and although I appear distant, aloof even cold, I am a minefield of emotions, a veritable volcano, simmering under the surface.

Vulnerability intrigues me because I rarely let my Self show but if you would be in a relationship with me, I would rather you drop your mask off at the door. I am proud but the years teach me to be objective regarding my flaws. My temper is never apparent, I can seem innocent but I'm not naive. I can retaliate and it is like lightning from a clear sky. I am fiercely protective, loyal and faithful but if you betray me, I shall cut all ties from you and shall erase you as if you were never there.

All or none. That is me. Take it or leave.

Questions???

posted September 16, 2011 04:31 AM            

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I am fiercely protective, loyal and faithful but if you betray me, I shall cut all ties from you and shall erase you as if you were never there.

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The synonym is "amputate"

posted September 18, 2011 08:05 PM            

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omg! very insightful Frozen Queen! thank youuuu! yes, i do have some questions if you wouldn't mind answering them

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If I did mind, I wouldn't offer now, would I

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are you most likely to do the first move when you like someone? or do you like it when the other person makes the first move?

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Being the pursuer and being pursued are two aspects of the same coin and both are welcome to experience. For men, I prefer to let them do the chasing, dropping hints about my interest, because allowing someone to think they caught you is so much fun when you know it was you let them catch you in the first place. [Speaking from a complete objective Scorpio view].

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how would you feel if someone told you that they like you? are you gonna run away, or tell them staightout what you also feel for them? is it going to scare you away? (i'm planning to tell mr. scorpio moon that i admire him soo much, just dont know if this is the right thing to do and i dont even know how to do it!, any advice? )

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Depends on how I perceive the other person. Do I like them and want to pursue a relationship with them? Even more, do I admire them? Remember, we test you in different ways and for me to want a relationship with you, I'd have to admire you in the first place, see you as worth my time.

posted September 18, 2011 08:06 PM            

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Do you, scorpio mooners don't mind if people know that you cry? like if you tell someone that you cried over something, do you just choose whom to tell about it? I had a friend (my crush who is a scorpio mooner) told me that he cried the night after our test because he thinks he'll fail it, he is a very "study" oriented person so he takes his studies seriously. His two other friends who are both guys kinda laughed a bit because about the fact that he cried and i tried to defend him by saying that it is normal for guys to cry....i just tried my best to show that i care about him...

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Ideally, no. Crying in our society implies weakness, even if it is the exact opposite. I would never want someone to consider me weak unless I intended it that way so mostly no. If however, I'm into you romantically and trust you, I wouldn't mind showing this side of me. This is a great step forward. Showing you my vulnerability is my way of communicating that I trust you enough to let my guard down.

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Another question, when you say " I will be scrutinising you, sizing you up, looking for subtle and not so subtle clues in your words, your body language, your movements and how you interact with other people to see if you are worth my salt. " do you mean that you actually try and watch their every move if you have the chance? i mean, i only caught my crush staring at me just once and i stared back at him... i guess he's just trying to hide it (he is a lil bit shyyyy u know) because i can see him from the corner of my eye casually glancing at me when we seat near each other...i find it really cute but then again, i'm not sure if this means he likes me :/

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posted September 18, 2011 08:07 PM            

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sometimes when we get the chance to talk just by ourselves, we talk heaps! and everything just feels so comfortable...but then the next day he'll be all distant from me which makes me wonder why the hell is he talking to me yesterday and we're all loud and laughing and now, he's trying to distance himself from me....is that your way of testing someone? distant yourself to see if they'll come to you?

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This might have to do with some other aspect in his chart but it also details that he is still unsure of his feelings about you or where he stands with you as either friend or lover so he may feel the need to take a break to see if he can rationalise his emotions.

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and when you feel unloved/ignored, what do you do? my crush, sometimes when his bestfriend and him fight, he always explains to me what happened and asks me who is right (and i guess, expecting me to be at his side?) Do you go to someone who you know will understand you? because after they fight, i heard him tell his bestfriend that I can understand him (he thought i can't hear him)....does that even mean anything to you when you scorpio mooners say that? since you mentioned that "I am a minefield of emotions, a veritable volcano, simmering under the surface"

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posted September 18, 2011 08:07 PM            

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sometimes, he'll try to talk to me, he'll come up to me and try to start a convo, but other times he'll ignore me....or is it just out of your shyness?

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While you can't call a Scorpio of any kind shy, reserved is the word you're looking for, we aren't too keen on letting our vulnerabilities show so we tend to take our time. It's not solely because we're testing you, we also test ourselves so that we can see that what emotions we feel for others are real and not just idle infatuations.

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i am sooooo sorry if i asked soo many qustions, i just wanna try and clear things out...everything's just soo complicated in my situation right now.....but really thank you for answering!!! and oh, gotta agree, i'll never forget a scorpio!

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Like I said, I wouldn't ask for questions if I was not going to bother answering them. Baiting people is not my style and feel free to ask more )

posted September 18, 2011 08:10 PM            

I apologise for not trying this out sooner but I am broiledd in much offline intrigue and don't spend much time on this site as I used to on previous occasions. Still, I'm sorry to have kept you on tenterhooks