posted August 30, 2011 02:47 AM            

--we actually spent very very little time together, like a month or so back in 2008. after that we have never met in person, only in touch on phone.

--back in 2009, i did say somethings to him, about the fondness i have for him, and he clearly rejected me, yes he did.

--we have a common Aries guy-friend. this Aries guy wrote some very intimate things on my Facebook which this saggi read. I confronted the Aries guy why he wrote all that in public, he said i was joking and all. this saggi guy had a very very weird reaction about this incident whenever i put the topic up. just yesterday i encountered him about his weird reactions over this.he said he was mad at Aries because of what he said. i asked are you mad at him because he offended your friend in public? he said no, but because of this possessiveness i feel as a friend...

now that was something that got me off guard, may be its too far-fetched, but who is possessive about a girl he met in 2008 and talks to on phone like once in a month?

i'm just looking forward to further twists when i put this topic with him next time...

August 29: so we are still friend and we talk once in a while, he texts me,(not everyday) and its all going just fine. He texts me in morning to ask me if m awake and i reply yes. no text after that. in evening this conversation happend

me: so u text me just to check if m awake
Sag: no, not at all. you are always moaning about you being busy so i thought i will not keep you busy with me texts
me: i have so much on my plate already, what harm would a text do?
Sag: so why don't you say that you wait for my texts?
me: well yes i do anticipate a text after a "hi" or "awake?"
....
....(other random things)

me; ok m going off to sleep now
sag: no you are not allowed to sleep i have few questions to ask
me; ok ask then, whatever i say after this point will not be conscious effort anyways
sag: ok thats even better. so what you think about me?
(I gave his typical archer traits)
sag: what you like about me? what you hate about me?
me: (still telling everything truthfully)
sag: do you find me physically attractive?
me: Yes
sag: this is all i wanted to know
sag: at any point in our friendship, did you ever feel like you are in love with me?
me: wtf
sag: if you didnt, simply say no
me: i guess we are too much at an emotional distance for that to happen for us.and even if i offer you to take a step towards me, something stops you. you never tell me
sag: so if you have a chance to ask me one thing, what will that be? i wil honestly answer
me; do i hold a special place in your life, like not like a special girl or something, just a place where its just me and i don't share that place with anyone else from your life?
sag: lets be straight, you want to know if i love you and would like to marry you?
me: no, i want to know if there is atleast one person to whom m so much important and i don't have to share it with anyone else
sag: ok you have that place and no one can take your place in my life

so random talks after that.......

end:
sag: if you were in front of me i would have taken you in my arms and held on so tight and never let you go...

(and there were other romantic texts too)

posted August 30, 2011 04:58 AM            

This platonic friend I mentioned has Neptune conjunct Venus in Sag, and I heard him speaking on the phone with his boss in a way that everyone would think that she was his gf. But no, she wasnt. Not to mention how he behaved with me.

posted August 30, 2011 05:17 AM            

LOL hey i'm possessive with my internet friends iv never met! i am never romantic tho because that's just unrealistic for me. i do flirt back sometimes out of boredom or because there's video chat LOL. i think i'm interested more in their personality if you can believe that. like why do i click with this person, what are her signs, mbti, enneagram lol basically everything i know and can use to type someone to zero in on someone similar. the ones i talk to are taken and so am i. works better-ish i think that way so you can stay genuine friends across the screen.

posted August 30, 2011 09:16 AM            

I am not exactly proud of my actions but to be honest,this Arain is incouragable.He can be a little too much at times.

I often say that when a guy wants someone(regardless of sun-sign and no matter how shy they are) they'll simply make that known. If not to the person they have feelings for , then probably to their closest friends.

But Sagittarius is not the type to wear their hearts on their sleeves, or "take a chance" and leap on the arms of love, as we are the least romantic but one of the most idealistic(if you can get that paradox, you'll be off to a good start to understanding us).

Now Aries are braver in basically expressing how they feel(even if it sounds unpolished or crasp) , infact, in many ways ,Aries is just simply more likely to take a leap of (proverbial) faith, when it comes to love.

Now with Aries being earnest and all, you'd think that Sagittarius would also be willing to come to the table(especially since we claim to like "honesty and straightforwardness" so much) , don't be fooled.

Sagittarius is most likely to resist, the more that Aries persists. So what is the solution? Simply put "let go".

Often times Sagittarius realizes too late that something/ someone was actually good for them;often dismissing them as friends or whatever at the start than having those feelings creep up on them unexpectedly-especially if the person grows more and more interesting by life experience or the distance betwen them grows wider and wider(or both).

Take for instance, Winston Churchill and his feisty Arian wife -Clementine.
He wrote the most "mushy" letters to her, usualy when he was a great distance from her.

Telling her, in detail, his troubles and personal thoughts, his dilemmas etc. Indeed, these letters seemed to express the love and passion that he felt for his wife(who at the time was many miles away).

So I guess to most Sag's, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

And so before things get to that point, the best way to catch their attention seems paradoxical(be available only on your terms and not on his).

So the next time he calls and asks you about him(which can sometimes happen as we Sagittarians-as I learned from my Aquarian friend-can be just as self-centred and egotistical as Leos at times), just tell him that you are currently unavailable and only talk to him when you feel emotionally confident(and keep the conversations short and always in your control).

Sagittarians have a way of loving people passionately(from a distance) and professing their devotion , only when the person is not within reach.

Let him make the first move(which I know that for an Aries , is quite difficult), but don't let him think that you'll always be availbale for him whenever he wants.

Sorround yourself with intersting male friends(this is likely to get him to be jealous).

posted August 30, 2011 03:06 PM            

Saggie woman here who was involved with Aries guy. I have libra mars and venus so forever confuse love and friendship but I think it is also a saggie thing. I often think some guy is a friend but might develop feelings later on.

Aries: Definitely be interested in other things, act as is you are too busy and he'll come running. This happened before my aries ex and i broke up. He even commented that I seemed reslly chill and calm and he'd miss me. Since we broke up I have not spoken to him but am sure he'll contact me at some point.

I like the Aries/Sag vibe together, it is exciting and fiery. I have a very good aries girlie friend but she has many pisces planets so is softer than usual.

As a Saggie, I like my freedom in love but also like to feel the man i love is strong and able to be firm if needed. I do not like wishy washy men...

posted August 30, 2011 11:59 PM            

actually 2yrs ago when i proposed him, he said he was with somebody else. after few months he told me he was single and that he broke up with his gf. yesterday when he said that "hug you tight" and "sweet long kiss for you" after that he said "you know that m committed to someone else , i told you long ago" and i said to him "you said you broke up, now you're lying on top" then he replied "oh i broke up for a while and all is good now"... what does this all mean? he was just trying to have part-time fun or what

because many a times he said i love you to me, and i didn't take seriously (thanks god) but if this is his level of commitment then m so glad he never committed anything towards me. I thought he was honest and straight-forward, but no he was just one of these people, and I seriously doubt my ability to judge people. and guess what he asked me after all this

"Does it matter now?"

i mean are you serious? you are talking to an aries you dumb a** you cheated, you were being dishonest and you believe an Aries will accept that

posted August 31, 2011 07:31 AM            

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Originally posted by love being Aries:
thank you guys for sharing your experiences

actually 2yrs ago when i proposed him, he said he was with somebody else. after few months he told me he was single and that he broke up with his gf. yesterday when he said that "hug you tight" and "sweet long kiss for you" after that he said "you know that m committed to someone else , i told you long ago" and i said to him "you said you broke up, now you're lying on top" then he replied "oh i broke up for a while and all is good now"... what does this all mean? he was just trying to have part-time fun or what

because many a times he said i love you to me, and i didn't take seriously (thanks god) but if this is his level of commitment then m so glad he never committed anything towards me. I thought he was honest and straight-forward, but no he was just one of these people, and I seriously doubt my ability to judge people. and guess what he asked me after all this

"Does it matter now?"

i mean are you serious? you are talking to an aries you dumb a** you cheated, you were being dishonest and you believe an Aries will accept that

I have no intention to talk to him again, I even deleted him from my FB and I hope he finds it out ASAP, and I will wait when he realizes what he has lost!!

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posted August 31, 2011 08:01 AM            

Been burned myself 2 weeks ago with a Sag male. Now he's terminally ill, next day he's not, but the relationship is over.