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Topic: pisces girl libra man
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freeswim
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posted September 10, 2011 06:42 PM
  
I met a libra guy online we talked for two weeks I met him in the second week but in the second week he got sick and wasn`t feeling well so I was just texting him everyday hoping that he would feel well. I am a bigger girl and he said that he usually doesn`t date women like me but he knows that im working on myself and that he really loves my personality...the day we were suppose to meet up he tried to cancel and i got upset ...that evening I went over we hungout and he said he would text me later but never did I told him I wanted to come over he said he was busy the next day I texted and he was being really short with me. In the beginning he was all over me telling me that he wanted me to be his wife and that i shouldnt go online anymore because hes the one for me and I fell for it. Anyhow that sunday i asked what he thought of me and he was like that hes not attracted to me anymore because I call and text to much and that he was focused on work when I actually saw him back online the same day. Then he told me to stop texting him and I was like i still want to be friends and hangout and he was he doesn;t know that he will let me know. Why cant I let go of this? IP: Logged |
Nothingbutaname
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From: New York
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 10, 2011 07:14 PM
Hi there Freeswim, Apologies for the dilemma that you are going through. But sadly, It sort of to be expected between a water sign and an air sign, I'm currently dating a libra, though I'm a Scorpio, I find that they don't like intensity much at-least not to the degree that a scorpio or a pisces would. I think it was good t hat he was direct with you and said not to text him, it would be better than lying to you and leading you on. My best advice would be to 'slowly' try to move on, but stay cautious of course, and well try to find someone whom understands your need for being close, and if it helps, I've noticed that libras tend to be in love with the idea of love, but the actual dynamics of a relationship is rather different. If you think that it can work with this guy, and if he is willing to listen, try being honest completely, let him know your feelings and if he still doesn't want to date you, then well it's his loss, not yours. remember that, you certainly shouldn't let it get you down. IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 10, 2011 08:51 PM
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Originally posted by Nothingbutaname:
Hi there Freeswim, Apologies for the dilemma that you are going through. But sadly, It sort of to be expected between a water sign and an air sign, I'm currently dating a libra, though I'm a Scorpio, I find that they don't like intensity much at-least not to the degree that a scorpio or a pisces would. I think it was good t hat he was direct with you and said not to text him, it would be better than lying to you and leading you on. My best advice would be to 'slowly' try to move on, but stay cautious of course, and well try to find someone whom understands your need for being close, and if it helps, I've noticed that libras tend to be in love with the idea of love, but the actual dynamics of a relationship is rather different. If you think that it can work with this guy, and if he is willing to listen, try being honest completely, let him know your feelings and if he still doesn't want to date you, then well it's his loss, not yours. remember that, you certainly shouldn't let it get you down.
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mintgirl123
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posted September 10, 2011 09:07 PM
You were much too eager and forward, and he got turned off. You shouldn't be so clingy and needy, and text him so much. Guys get turned off with girls like that. Hell I hate clingy guys myself. Meet a guy offline, and next time don't bombard him with attention, show him HE should be vying for YOUR time, NOT the other way around =/I've got my moon, venus and mercury in libra, my 7th house is in libra too... so I know that for me personally... I'm attracted to people who are confident and have things they are getting on with. Somebody who instantly clings on to me and doesn't give me space is a huge turn off. Libra's like intellectual connection, and somebody who's refined and classy. Space is a necessity. Libras are all for partnership, but even then, we all need our own little bubble to breathe haha. So work on your tendency to act needy... Most guys don't like this. Unless they're insecure and clingy themselves =/ IP: Logged |
Nothingbutaname
Knowflake Posts: 33
From: New York
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 10, 2011 09:18 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
You were much too eager and forward, and he got turned off. You shouldn't be so clingy and needy, and text him so much. Guys get turned off with girls like that. Hell I hate clingy guys myself. Meet a guy offline, and next time don't bombard him with attention, show him HE should be vying for YOUR time, NOT the other way around =/I've got my moon, venus and mercury in libra, my 7th house is in libra too... so I know that for me personally... I'm attracted to people who are confident and have things they are getting on with. Somebody who instantly clings on to me and doesn't give me space is a huge turn off. Libra's like intellectual connection, and somebody who's refined and classy. Space is a necessity. Libras are all for partnership, but even then, we all need our own little bubble to breathe haha. So work on your tendency to act needy... Most guys don't like this. Unless they're insecure and clingy themselves =/
I'd disagree with you there, Her eagerness and being forward showed an intent to make things work and develop a authentic relationship, if anything the guy who said he'd want to marry her was being too clingy. As a guy, I see nothing wrong with her actions, and I'm certainly not insecure, she wanted an intimate relationship, it seems that he did not. Yes, it is a given that people need space, but some people, myself included, thrive off of being close with someone they care for, it shows that they care, it doesn't negate the need for space nor privacy, just an alternative way of showing affection. But again, I'm an Scorp Sun, Moon Cappy, Venus Libra, so maybe it's just me. I would suggest she find someone more compatible, clearly this Libra guy wasn't right for her.
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mintgirl123
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posted September 10, 2011 09:44 PM
She's known him for a short while, and is coming on wayy too strong. Sure she wants to spend time with him, but she should have backed off alittle and let the guy come to her instead of texting him everyday, and asking to come over, and STILL continue to ask to hang out even though he was clearly trying to distance himself.This is from my experiences and from people I see around me. Being too eager is a big nono. You CAN want to spend time with someone, but to bombard them with attention is not good at all (esp at the getting to know you stages). OP, you need to work on that. Trust me, if you don't, you're only going to push more guys away. Lol and the guy saying he wanted to marry her? I know what kind of guy he is LOL. The types that say things they don't mean. The OP shouldn't have taken things like that seriously.
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freeswim
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posted September 10, 2011 10:08 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
She's known him for a short while, and is coming on wayy too strong. Sure she wants to spend time with him, but she should have backed off alittle and let the guy come to her instead of texting him everyday, and asking to come over, and STILL continue to ask to hang out even though he was clearly trying to distance himself.This is from my experiences and from people I see around me. Being too eager is a big nono. You CAN want to spend time with someone, but to bombard them with attention is not good at all (esp at the getting to know you stages). OP, you need to work on that. Trust me, if you don't, you're only going to push more guys away. Lol and the guy saying he wanted to marry her? I know what kind of guy he is LOL. The types that say things they don't mean. The OP shouldn't have taken things like that seriously.
Yes I know that I made a mistake with rushing things but I was just going off all the things that he was saying and my response to him was genuine. I didn task him to come over first he asked me like 3 times and then I said yes. I tried to not rush but he was on this whole other level and for me I purposely havent been in a relationship for over 2 years so I might have gotten overwhelmed by the attention and also like my fellow water sign said some Libras are in love with idea of love. All i know is on my part I was being authentic for me its another lesson learned and slowly but surely I am in the process of moving on. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted September 10, 2011 10:14 PM
When was he born? Maybe then I might have an idea of what kind of person he is =) since there's still the rising, moon, venus, mercury and mars.
Libra men can be pretty flirty. In terms of in love with love, libra planets do want romance, but I think libra men are somewhat wishy washy sometimes and aren't as grounded as some other signs.I'm very heavy in Libra, and I got alot of asteriods in libra (in 7th house too) so I act quite libran, but I've got virgo tendencies too, and an aries rising =). When I was younger (16-18), I went through a couple of experiences where the guy and I had mutual interest (but in the end I pushed them away bc I acted alittle clingy. So yeah ... Learnt from that) So let the guy text you =) and if you text them first that's okay, but if he doesn't reply... Just leave it. Don't continue to contact them. There's a reason they're not replying, so texting them again won't help things. If the guy cancels, be fine with it, don't freak out. You can make plans again, but if they flake out again... Let it go and move on. Actions speak louder than words. IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 10, 2011 10:21 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
When was he born? Maybe then I might have an idea of what kind of person he is =) since there's still the rising, moon, venus, mercury and mars.
Libra men can be pretty flirty. In terms of in love with love, libra planets do want romance, but I think libra men are somewhat wishy washy sometimes and aren't as grounded as some other signs.I'm very heavy in Libra, and I got alot of asteriods in libra (in 7th house too) so I act quite libran, but I've got virgo tendencies too, and an aries rising =). When I was younger (16-18), I went through a couple of experiences where the guy and I had mutual interest (but in the end I pushed them away bc I acted alittle clingy. So yeah ... Learnt from that) So let the guy text you =) and if you text them first that's okay, but if he doesn't reply... Just leave it. Don't continue to contact them. There's a reason they're not replying, so texting them again won't help things. If the guy cancels, be fine with it, don't freak out. You can make plans again, but if they flake out again... Let it go and move on. Actions speak louder than words.
He was born October 10 1985 IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted September 10, 2011 10:40 PM
Not sure about moon, but this guy has his venus and mars in virgo. Which is great cos I have my sun and mars in virgo so I will know how he works lol.Means he's picky and has high standards (adding this to his libra sun, he'll be pretty darn selective), likes girls that are intelligent and keeps busy with their own lives. Doesn't like girls that are too forward and aggressive, likes girls to be tidy and well presented. Moves slowww, does not like to rush things. He doesn't like girls that are clingy. IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 10, 2011 10:53 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Not sure about moon, but this guy has his venus and mars in virgo. Which is great cos I have my sun and mars in virgo so I will know how he works lol.Means he's picky and has high standards (adding this to his libra sun, he'll be pretty darn selective), likes girls that are intelligent and keeps busy with their own lives. Doesn't like girls that are too forward and aggressive, likes girls to be tidy and well presented. Moves slowww, does not like to rush things. He doesn't like girls that are clingy.
His moon is in leo Were probably just not compatible
My signs are: Sun Pisces 14.33 Ascendant Gemini 5.32
Moon Taurus 24.07 II Cancer 0.44
Mercury Pisces 2.47 R III Cancer 24.23
Venus Aquarius 2.45 IV Leo 20.14
Mars Taurus 8.59 V Virgo 21.22
Jupiter Aries 0.42 VI Libra 28.13
Saturn Sagittarius 20.38 VII Sagittarius 5.32
Uranus Sagittarius 26.25 VIII Capricorn 0.44
Neptune Capricorn 7.40 IX Capricorn 24.23
Pluto Scorpio 9.50 R Midheaven Aquarius 20.14
Lilith Cancer 11.27 XI Pisces 21.22
Asc node Aries 11.48 XII Aries 28.13 IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 10, 2011 11:18 PM
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Originally posted by freeswim:
His moon is in leo Were probably just not compatible
My signs are: Sun Pisces 14.33 Ascendant Gemini 5.32
Moon Taurus 24.07 II Cancer 0.44
Mercury Pisces 2.47 R III Cancer 24.23
Venus Aquarius 2.45 IV Leo 20.14
Mars Taurus 8.59 V Virgo 21.22
Jupiter Aries 0.42 VI Libra 28.13
Saturn Sagittarius 20.38 VII Sagittarius 5.32
Uranus Sagittarius 26.25 VIII Capricorn 0.44
Neptune Capricorn 7.40 IX Capricorn 24.23
Pluto Scorpio 9.50 R Midheaven Aquarius 20.14
Lilith Cancer 11.27 XI Pisces 21.22
Asc node Aries 11.48 XII Aries 28.13
What i really want is the feeling of hope to go away. The idea that if I stop texting him he will eventually reach out for me because I honestly felt like we had a real connection and that I messed up with the clingy thing. IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 12, 2011 04:26 PM
So i tried talking to him and telling him how I feel and that im interested in being friends and getting to know him and that if he had any ounce of human in him he would talk to me and all he said was "watching football"...I don't even know what that means.IP: Logged |
violet7887
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted September 12, 2011 04:46 PM
freeswim,I am so sorry about your situation. Dont take this the wrong way as I am just trying to give my opinion on the situation and you are still entitled to follow yours first. I do not think this guy is worth your time. When things fall into place they just do. This guy is either not intrested or just likes to play mind games. Either way,I'm sure a lovely person like yourself can find better things and people to do wth your time, he is not worth it at all Pisces and Libra has nothing to do with it IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 12, 2011 04:50 PM
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freeswim,I am so sorry about your situation. Dont take this the wrong way as I am just trying to give my opinion on the situation and you are still entitled to follow yours first. I do not think this guy is worth your time. When things fall into place they just do. This guy is either not intrested or just likes to play mind games. Either way,I'm sure a lovely person like yourself can find better things and people to do wth your time, he is not worth it at all Pisces and Libra has nothing to do with it
Thanks violet I really appreciate your opinion IP: Logged |
Beatific
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From: Athens,Georgia,United States
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted September 12, 2011 08:07 PM
I am a male Sept 28th Libra and take it from me and one of best friends who is a male Oct Libra,this guy is a DOUCHEBAG.Only a Douche would say he might want marry you that quickly and then treat like trash later like that.If he was mature he would say to slow down and ask to go out as friends or something like thatIP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted September 12, 2011 10:53 PM
I agree with the above post. Dont let anyone call u clingy. Clingy is just an excuse for "i dont want to get close to you, get away from me, i dont even like you."IP: Logged |
AscTaurus
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posted September 13, 2011 08:17 AM
I don't see anything clingy about your actions at all and have to agree that they were within reason-because you were interested in the guy.I , however, do find fault with you for accepting his remark when he said that he usually doesn't date girls like you , but since you are "working on yourself" ...blah blah blah. Does that mean he got interested in you because of his "charitable heart"? PLEASE. With Venus and Mars conjuct in Virgo, together with a Libra sun, I doubt that anything less than "perfect" will do for him. I say, he simply was not that well matched for you . The relationship was one-sided and judging by your interaction with him, he seems vain and insecure.....
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Delilah
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posted September 13, 2011 06:25 PM
I'm a Libra Sun with Venus and Mars conjunct in Virgo. Do we want perfection? Not exactly. Everyone has their type and this guy definitely has his. He seems a bit like a parasite to be honest. Just the feeling that I'm getting. You should never tell anyone that you're working on yourself, especially after they've told you that you're not their type on an aesthetic level. He just told you that even if there ever was something between you, he will never appreciate you for who you really are. You could end up wasting your time on him when someone else who would love you unconditonally is trying to get your attention. Let him go. Don't even bother with another text. I can tell you from my own humiliating experience how this is being played on his end. IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 14, 2011 01:47 AM
I just wanted him to be honest and tell me the truth about the situation but he won't. I reached out to him for the last time telling him how I felt about the situation and he just told me that im crazy alon with trying to apologize for leading me on. I explained or at least tried to explain that my actions are a reflection of me not being emotionally prepared for the outcome of him just dropping me. In the end it didn't mean a thing he just said don't call or text him unless he calls me or he will block me. I guess his perspective is all that matters. Thank you everyone for your advice and opinions I really do appreciate all your honesty.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted September 14, 2011 02:14 AM
You really shouldn't have continued to contact him. It puts you in a bad light. He's an ass, but you got way too attached way too soon. Read why men love btches by sherry argov. It's a great book. IP: Logged |
freeswim
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posted September 14, 2011 02:22 AM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
You really shouldn't have continued to contact him. It puts you in a bad light. He's an ass, but you got way too attached way too soon. Read why men love btches by sherry argov. It's a great book.
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Delilah
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posted September 14, 2011 05:05 AM
Freeswim, I know how you feel and I can understand where he's coming from as well. This is the type of guy who needs mind games. You didn't give him the chase and now he has the upper-hand in telling you not to contact him unless he contacts you. This is how you win: shut the effing door on him. He will lead you around like a dog if given the chance. He's not even a quarter worthy of what you can give him.IP: Logged | |
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