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Topic: Scorpio drama king
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Choc
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posted October 03, 2011 08:20 AM
  
Well, I am in a long-distance relationship with this Scorpio guy who is full of drama. Overreacting or not reacting at all, talking about everything or not talking at all...It's getting a bit annoying.
It's only been two months since we got together and he's already caused heartache twice. First time around, I was tolerant and super understanding of his situation but now.. At 6 am he texted me that he wants to break up with me because he can't handle the pressure and he wants to be alone. That honestly came out of left field. I was... How are you pressured? We only talk once or twice a day, I have never pressured him into making trips to come and see me and I try and be supportive with his studying schedule [he's a Uni student]. I forgave him for getting nostalgic about his ex [even though admittedly from both their sides it was all only a matter of ego] because I frigging understand how it feels... How on earth is he pressured?
In the beginning he had told me he wanted to get to know me, have an affair with me but with a more relaxed approach since getting all hot and bothered from the get go had only caused him trouble in the past. I said I wanted the same thing, manily because I can not be crazy passionate person unless I've gotten to know my partner extremely well. Two days ago he texted me saying he's in love.
WTF
PS. He's into anti-anxiety pills that are messing with his sleep patterns but the therapy will be over in about 6 months.
PS2. He called and said he had a major fight with his folks..too bad I couldn't talk on the phone for too long cuz I was working.
PS3. My dad who's a scorpio too, seemed a bit depressed to day as well. What's going on in the universe anyway?
My chart http://i54.tinypic.com/2lbm5n8.gif
His chart http://i51.tinypic.com/24qitsx.gif Our synastry
 Our composite
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Choc
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posted October 03, 2011 11:33 AM
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NativelyJoan
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posted October 03, 2011 11:46 AM
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Originally posted by Choc:
Anyone?
This guy clearly isn't balanced. It looks like his Mars is in Gemini which is an uncomfortable position for someone with a stellium in Scorpio. He needs to learn how to properly manage his energies, and because he can't your paying the price for his instability and erraticism. It might be best for you to discuss the situation with him like a mature adult, ask him directly what he wants out of the relationship and consider what you want out of the relationship and move forward, together or apart. The composite chart makes this seem like an intense relationship that takes a lot of energy out of you and can be draining. Again it's important to discuss what you want out of the relationship and if you discover that your not getting much out of the relationship, it's time to call it quits. IP: Logged |
Choc
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posted October 04, 2011 05:06 PM
Well we talked and he said he was super duper upset because he got into a huge, verbally abusive argument with his parents and he was all torn inside.. Apparently he meant his feelings for me but he is afraid that he might be wasting my time cuz he wants to dedicate himself to his studies because he's being quite irresponsible in this department in the past. I said I will support him in his future plans.. come on, that's exactly what I want for him, of course I would..
I also said [been saying that from the very first moment] that if he ever becomes a nuisance or If I ever feel like is causing me trouble [especially for my business since we live in a very small place and people can be mean and gossipy], he will be the very first to know.I'd like to get some feedback on the composite/synastry IP: Logged |
RedScorp
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posted October 04, 2011 08:32 PM
I was going to comment about the Mars in Gemini thingy, but I guess NativelyJoan got ta that.  IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted October 04, 2011 09:14 PM
I know a serious drama-KING and he is Scorpio sun, mars, and mercury. He has Gemini moon to boot. Scorpio feels a lot of tension with Air signs, especially within its own chart.RUNNNNNNNN IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted October 04, 2011 09:26 PM
It sounds to me like he is trying to rouse drama out of you. It does not sound like he is striving for a balanced, happy, mature, loving correspondence with you. He's, probably unconsciously, trying to dig up an emotional response from you because unevolved Scorpios feed off that energy from others.IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted October 04, 2011 09:29 PM
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Originally posted by frankie2912:
I know a serious drama-KING and he is Scorpio sun, mars, and mercury. He has Gemini moon to boot. Scorpio feels a lot of tension with Air signs, especially within its own chart.RUNNNNNNNN
Sure doesn't look like he has a Gemini moon. It looks more like a Leo moon to me. With his moon squaring his sun, he could have a bad relationship with his parents, though that's not always what that means. He is definitely having a struggle between his emotions and his thoughts. IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted October 04, 2011 10:20 PM
the person i was describing was NOT the person in the original post. i was clearly stating something about another Scorpio-stellium person with Gemini influence (as the original post asks about a person with a Scorpio stellium and GEMINI mars)IP: Logged |
Choc
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posted October 09, 2011 07:04 PM
Things had gotten great... and then wrong again.We were doing great until I texted him "I want huggles" and he replied" I want a lot of things too but but I can't have them! Why give to anyone if you don't get anything in return?" I asked him if I had done something wrong and he said no, he was just thinking things.. WTF was that about again. He was supposed to call me back but he hasn't so just to p i s s him off I must've called him back 20 times.. IP: Logged |
britterfly
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posted October 09, 2011 07:07 PM
If you choose to stay with him, that is just something you are going to have to put up with. At this point, you know what he's like. You won't be able to change him, nor should you enter in to a relationship with someone with the intent to change them. So either accept that he is a whiny little b*tch, or dump him. But don't be surprised by him.IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 09, 2011 07:28 PM
That's a good synastry (his Moon conj your Sun; his Mars conj your Venus) but clearly he needs to grow up. I was looking for some karmic connections and all I can see is your Saturn in his Scorpio stellium. Perhaps that's the "pressure" he feels. This Moon-Sun conjunction may make him feel "at home" with you; so you see the good as well as the bad aspects of him because as a Scorpio he wants to be accepted 100%. His Mars in Gem is really problematic for him but you have Venus there so you get entangled in his lack of balance. It's a shame to meet someone compatible or with whom you feel great attraction when the person is not ready/mature for a relationship. Right now, he's just acting out. Perhaps if you meet again a few years down the road he might have outgrown some of his natal imbalance. It's a pity. Now it's up to you; you decide if it's worth it to put up with all this. Remember, you're a lot more mature than him (not only age-wise) but also in terms of emotional equilibrium. He's all over the place. He will be acting out until he becomes an adult (sorry but he's too young for a serious relationship given his behavior and you seem a lore more mature than him in that respect).
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Choc
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posted October 10, 2011 06:23 AM
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Choc
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posted October 10, 2011 06:23 AM
We finally talked and he explained me that he was angry because it seems like a very close friend has betrayed his trust and he got it out on me.
I am just being patient until his exams are over. I might pay him a visit. I wanna see something more from him.. If things don't work out after that.. I'm outta there, no matter how I feel. To be quite honest, I'm already kinda more open to things and people..I don't really wanna change him, I know he's been through a rough patch and has some issues left to deal with. He's afraid he might get dependent on his meds. Apparently, things will be better once he's over with his exams. *shrugs* Not gonna lie, I like drama. But it has to be other people's drama. PS. Before me, he was in a 2-year relationship IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 10, 2011 08:38 AM
Choc, you sound strong and seem to know what you want. Keep this attitude up! It's the right way to deal with "other people's drama".
About his 2yr-long "relationship", do you know any details? I bet that was not exactly drama-free either!  quote:
Originally posted by Choc:
We finally talked and he explained me that he was angry because it seems like a very close friend has betrayed his trust and he got it out on me.
I am just being patient until his exams are over. I might pay him a visit. I wanna see something more from him.. If things don't work out after that.. I'm outta there, no matter how I feel. To be quite honest, I'm already kinda more open to things and people..I don't really wanna change him, I know he's been through a rough patch and has some issues left to deal with. He's afraid he might get dependent on his meds. Apparently, things will be better once he's over with his exams. *shrugs* Not gonna lie, I like drama. But it has to be other people's drama. PS. Before me, he was in a 2-year relationship
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Choc
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posted October 10, 2011 01:07 PM
Oh no, not drama free at all!! He'd actually pull similar kind of sh** with her too. Their cr@p was taken straight out of a soap opera. *yuck*
She was a Sun/Merc/Mars/Asc in Scorpio and Moon in Cancer chick. One of the reasons why they broke up was that they were too much alike and he got sick of it.
I just wanna know what it's in store for me.
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anongrl10
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posted October 10, 2011 01:53 PM
dup's
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anongrl10
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posted October 10, 2011 01:55 PM
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anongrl10
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posted October 10, 2011 02:18 PM
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Originally posted by Choc:
I just wanna know what it's in store for me.
You have already answered this question yourself!
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Choc
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posted October 10, 2011 03:33 PM
Don't know.. my Libra asc makes me wanna fight for this love *insert cheesy song*IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 10, 2011 03:46 PM
In the end, it's YOUR decision, but be honest to yourself since you know what this guy is like. I say enjoy it for however long it lasts. quote:
Originally posted by Choc:
Don't know.. my Libra asc makes me wanna fight for this love *insert cheesy song*
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tuxedoMask
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posted November 09, 2011 03:10 PM
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Originally posted by Choc:
PS. I just found out he has blocked me from seeing anything about him on Facebook. classy move. That effing c^#t. Haven't stopped crying. What the f--- did I do to him?.....I just can't.....
sweetheart, in his defense.. he told u from the get-go what it was that he was going to do to you.... ask yourself now what it is that u wanted to believe because u believed something other than what was said which is why i think u went through with it. IP: Logged |
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