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Topic: How Do tell a "Cancer" Our timing is wrong:(
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PrettyPisces
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Cambria heights,NY
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted October 04, 2011 09:20 PM
  
So here's the story:::
Ive been really closed with this guy (he is a Cancer) Im a Pisces btw. We hit it off really well( weve known each other est childhood)...two years ago feelings started to appear. 1year and half ago he asked for us to be exclusive BUT I decline being that I was leaving for college and most importantly i didnt wanna ruin a great friendship. RECENTLY he has brought up this issue about us dating he stated" We have a great understanding and a great friendship that could lead else where" then he texted me later saying""It's never about me or you, it's always about us and I respect that about you.Speak so that you may be heard, and at the end of each day, we learn from each other!"I asked on here advice regarding dating someone thats basically your "bestfriend"
I came to the conclusion that if The question pops up again I will accept  BUT::: I found out today he still communications with his ex/ first love a girl that left him a couple years back and had a child with someone else, and also he communications a female that he dated years ago that feels she needs a second chance and hasnt moved on. But the girl has wrote facebook notes saying he said he didnt want to date her he is involved with someone. My bestfriend who is also a cancer said maybe 1) maybe he doesnt he said that because he doesnt want to date her 2) maybe he is seeing someone 3.) maybe he reserve that girlfriend spot for me... I dont know what to think maybe hes just reconnecting himself to his past...but should I be concerned? Btw Idk its my place to ask why he talks to them we're not official and it makes me look insecure....GIVE ME SOME FEEDBACK!
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violet7887
Knowflake Posts: 273
From: maya
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 09, 2011 11:25 AM
I believe if you've ever loved or cared for anyone you can change the relationship but never the bond.Him talking to people he has cared for and loved in the past could just mean hes there for them when they need him. This doesnt have to mean hes intimate with them(shows he's human imo). If your heart tells you your friend cares for you and loves you in that way than trust him and his love for you. This is my opinion of coarse and you should be a better judge of your own situation. ------------------
Out of myself, but wanting to go beyond that wanting what I see in your eyes, not power, but to kiss the ground with the dawn breeze for company, wearing white pilgrim cloth. I have certain knowing. Now I want Sight.
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amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 215
From: dumont, CO
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted October 09, 2011 09:59 PM
Sounds like a sensitive and smart guy, good catch it seems. The fact that two other girls from his past want to be with him just shows he is a good catch but should not intimidate you. It seems he is into you and you should move forward with this relationship and with confidence as you have rivals. IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Cambria heights,NY
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted October 10, 2011 04:38 AM
I really do care about him and he shows A LOT of reassurance ( a lot of the times Unexpected) Quick Example:: I write Extensive amount of Poetry. One day he asked me can he read it. I hesitated about letting him see. THEN he asked again and Said I'm interested I emailed him 5 poems, 2 were about him (After he did the whole Cancer Disappear act) I was hurt because I let him see a different side to me yet he didn't give me feedback. He came back into the picture saying he felt people are too disengaged and being that he hasn't been around for so long he barely has anything to say and its sad sometimes. Est then I've been keeping it Light BUT also still showing Love and Appreciation. I sense he has felt my energy and he's been REALLY EXTRA sweet, LOTS of reassurance, As much as he gives me deep BUT ambiguous hints I'm still hesitate about letting him know How I feel especially est I fear him disappearing( which was his first time doing that) BUT he has been mentioning the whole relationship thing lately So I know I'm going to have to say something. IP: Logged |
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