posted October 06, 2011 12:03 PM            

I must be honest, I've had about 10% of luck in the love department. I started dating again after 3 years of being single about a year ago and already I am tired and just wanting to give up...but there is a little, tiny woman inside of me telling me not give up. I've dated mostly fire signs and earth signs, but to no avail, none of them worked out.

Can someone please tell me when Tauruses can finally be happy in love again? I'm itching to find out.

posted October 06, 2011 12:40 PM            

For my observations pisces people are very unlucky nowadays maybe it will get better when neptune enters pisces. But still it is not about signs, it is about themselves. Maybe you should check your own transits and natal chart. For example if you have natally venus/neptune or moon/neptune hard aspect, you should definitely stop being optimistic and searching the one.

posted October 06, 2011 03:06 PM            

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Originally posted by MertSerimer:
For example if you have natally venus/neptune or moon/neptune hard aspect, you should definitely stop being optimistic and searching the one.

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You can NOT be serious.

posted October 06, 2011 04:07 PM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
You can NOT be serious.

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Yes i am and by doing so i am suggesting something good (Searching the "one" is shame anyway in my opinion) . So they will not waste their life by searching impossible. At least people with easy aspects of venus&moon/neptune is less open to deception and a little bit more aware of the situation(just comparing aspects).

posted October 06, 2011 04:17 PM            

I'm going to be honest: there is NO guarantee whatsoever about anything in life, and nothing can (or should) be taken for granted. You may not ever find the one. Then again, you might. It's really impossible to know for sure. Even if you do find the right person, it could be at a bad time or else something else could happen.

I feel that it's really important to love oneself and that one's happiness comes from within, not from things that can be taken away without a moment's notice (or else things that may never come at all). That's not to say that you shouldn't pursue your goals--you should, of course--just that it's important to not place your entire happiness on something that is unpredictable and uncertain and that it's to find inner sources of joy that can stay with you no matter what happens (or doesn't happen).

I hope that whatever happens with you and your love life/search for love is what is best for you.

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As for what you've posted, I notice that you've dated mostly earth and fire signs. This might be a good time to try water signs and air signs and to try a new type of person (as long as that person is good, of course--I'm definitely not suggesting to seek unsavory types of people, such as liars, manipulators, abusers, cheaters, etc.). Even if you've had bad experiences in the past, maybe a more evolved air or water person might surprise you in positive ways.

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*I use the whole sign system*

Libra Sun, Mercury
Scorpio Venus
Capricorn Mars
Cancer Moon

posted October 06, 2011 04:42 PM            

part of the happiness of moon/nep or ven/nep comes from being able to imagine that one day they will find the one so to suggest they stop being themselves is absolute idiocy.

It's no different to telling all the miserable but content married people that their love is not worth anything because they're only staying out of duty.

Personally, I've got no intentions of "settling down" with someone "comfortable" and neither do I care if I never find "the one" but I sure aren't going to put myself through soul death just to satisfy those who have chosen to place their values elsewhere.

Ultimately it comes down to love and if it's not genuine then I don't want it. Til death do us part? I think probably not but if I can't start something out with optimism that it'll go the distance then that is not a good sign.

posted October 06, 2011 06:48 PM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
You can NOT be serious.

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posted October 06, 2011 07:20 PM            

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Originally posted by britterfly:
LOL! That's what I thought too. Astrology works and all, but it's not like you should give up all hope in love if you have some squares natally. Whatever! lol!

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natally afflicted people are more prone to DO USELESS SH*TS(like what for example? )... so;

There is nothing or noone called "one".

Continue searching and then when you get older and turn back your past you will REGRET for the moments you have wasted .

If you are so sure it will happen, it is your decision to make, why care posts ?

I have to say it; i feel pity for them. Human lives once and people should live it not waste it.. if your terms say "my carpe diem is searching the one", then i wonder which crap placement or aspect can give an urge like this crap ?

-Neptune in 7th?
-Venus/Neptune hard aspects? or also easy ones?
-Moon/neptune?
-Neptune in 9th?

posted October 06, 2011 09:02 PM            

I agreed with the “giving up the ideals…happen when you least, or don’t expect it” thing because, well yeah. This society places too much emphasis on finding “the One” and we get down on ourselves if we don’t. It fills plenty of theater seats and sells a bunch of books but real life is really, really different. There are no bills to pay in media, everyone can pack up and leave to go wherever, whenever, everyone lives in a spacious apartment (in NYC too, that kills me), everyone is educated and has a rewarding career, everyone has good credit, kids are always precocious and fun. I mean seriously, how many people in real life have a Cinderella story?

I am a nosy person (investigative, I like to say) and I ask couples who are married and who are dating how they met, what their relationships are like. I think maybe 2 or 3 people out of hundreds have said “I knew as soon as I opened the door/turned the corner/fell in his lap/etc…” – even then who knows if this feeling is just one sided? That is not to say that those other people are completely without passionate and romantical feelings about who they are with, it is just that it is not as theatrical as we’d like to believe. I say that as an idealistic Leo w/Aqua rising too. I think my Venus sesquiquadrate Neptune play a part as well - I have learned from it but I haven’t blocked it out completely. Actually I think this aspect make me idealistic about everyone that I date, they have all been “The One” (it’s not that often, believe me)! That is not such a bad thing either, as long as I keep getting dates (and I seem to, whenever the timing is right for that) and I eventually end up with the guy whose “time” is in sync with my “time”. Just meaning, they didn’t just leave their job and I didn’t just move or I didn’t just go back to school while they just decided to do freelance work. I think it is all about timing, not ideals.

And seriously, I hate it when people use aspects against others, especially when it is a single aspect without knowing anything about the full chart.

…And another thing…

posted October 07, 2011 06:32 AM            

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And seriously, I hate it when people use aspects against others, especially when it is a single aspect without knowing anything about the full chart.

…And another thing…

I agree with Donna Cunningham when she says that you can’t really tell if someone will find a relationship or get married by their chart. Let’s not forget about environment, psychology, free will and choice.

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--Using aspects/planets in signs against people is one of my astrological pet peeves. I can understand preferring some positions over others, but to hate someone because of an astrological position, especially without really spending time with that person first to get a feeling for that person's character, is really unfair. Just because someone has a "good" position doesn't mean that he/she will use that position in positive ways, and just because someone has a "bad" position doesn't mean that he/she will automatically give in to the darker side. No placement, in my opinion, is either all-bad or all-good. Even the more challenging placements always offer a fork in the road. As I've said before, astrology represents tendencies--what we're given. What we do with what we're given is our choice. Plus, not a single person has any say at all in choosing their chart positions; we all take whatever chart we're given. The only thing that we can choose is how we use what we're given.

--I also agree with what you said about not being able to know if people will end up together based on charts. For one thing, just looking at a chart and not the people involved can't tell you certain things that are important, such as how a person uses the positions in his/her chart, whether or not the relationship would be very highly inappropriate (e.g., incest, adultery, someone in a position of trust abusing that trust, etc). Plus, even people with really compatible charts can screw things up, and people with really incompatible charts can choose to become understanding and to use their love as a motivator to make their relationship stronger rather than to just simply let it deteriorate. Trines can lead to great compatibility, but can also cause complacency and laziness in a relationship. Squares can cause a lot of tension, but they can also force people to really work on themselves and the relationship. As you said, free will, psychology, environment, and choice are all really important.

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Libra Sun, Mercury
Scorpio Venus
Capricorn Mars
Cancer Moon

posted October 07, 2011 10:15 AM            

In another divination technique, it showed we also have a very strong romantic/spiritual/psychic bond from past lives, and some intense, deep unfinished business.

I personally could feel this energy between us so acutely that I was a jibbering mess in his company.

Well, the meeting was nothing short of disasterous!

After the whole encounter fell through in the most humiliating and violent of ways, I walked away wondering, well, okay, NOW what!? I finally found him and totally fluffed it up in the most irreparable way. I still wanted true love, of course, but I had to let go of my "ideal", because my ideal had done come and gone!

Looking back on it now, I realize that if something solid had transpired between us, I would have been deeply disappointed in him, deeply hurt (in many more ways than one), and it just would have been a bad deal all around.

I realize my business with him was to emotionally and spiritually tie up that loose end in my subconscious. I won't go in to my next life looking for him and yearning for him.

posted October 07, 2011 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by britterfly:
I can't speak for what goes on in other peoples' minds, so I will just speak for myself. Since I was very young, I held on to an idea of who my love would be. I held that it was a very specific person, and we would find each other, and it would be a torrent of passion and turbulent romance. Well, I did meet this person who I dreamed of all my life. My Venus and Mars conjunct his South Node, and we have a few other "fateful" aspects between our charts.

In another divination technique, it showed we also have a very strong romantic/spiritual/psychic bond from past lives, and some intense, deep unfinished business.

I personally could feel this energy between us so acutely that I was a jibbering mess in his company.

Well, the meeting was nothing short of disasterous!

After the whole encounter fell through in the most humiliating and violent of ways, I walked away wondering, well, okay, NOW what!? I finally found him and totally fluffed it up in the most irreparable way. I still wanted true love, of course, but I had to let go of my "ideal", because my ideal had done come and gone!

Looking back on it now, I realize that if something solid had transpired between us, I would have been deeply disappointed in him, deeply hurt (in many more ways than one), and it just would have been a bad deal all around.

I realize my business with him was to emotionally and spiritually tie up that loose end in my subconscious. I won't go in to my next life looking for him and yearning for him.

My ACTUAL true love is nothing like what I ever imagined he would be like. He's not dark and fiery and tempestuous like this other fella. He's a solid, good, logical guy that loves me better than anyone ever has. God totally hooked me up. I left the choice of my husband up to God, and I knew it was him the first day I met him. The little birdy in my head told me so. lol

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posted October 07, 2011 05:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Still_Hopeful:
Hi
Can I chime and give my 2 cents?
I kinda agree with MertSerimer, However I do not nessesary agree with his/her wording. Myself, I have Sun/Venus squire Neptine (wide:-9 and -5)
In my opinion, what MertSerimer tried to say is STOP looking for unannatable and stop being optimistic about finding THE one. You will never find it. (especially with this planetary position)There is no " THE ONE", there are multiple "Ones" because each person we are involved with can offer something to us. and it is up to us if we are willing to accept it or not. If we accept well we can have a more or less healthy relationships if not we just simply move on to another rel. in hopes of finding the "TRUE" love.

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