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posted October 09, 2011 07:30 PM            

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It will be 3 years this November we have been in a relationship. I have asked many questions about him in different LL forums. Pisces men are different. Different in wonderful ways. However, still a confusing male.

Things will be going along nicely for several months. I am careful to "go with flow" and not bring up the topics I know he gets uncomfortable about, understanding from past experiences. Then, I will not brush aside an emotion I am feeling and want to talk about it with him. It begins as an intelligent, adult conversation. Somehow it seems to me he turns it into something I did wrong and I am the bad person. I was choosing my words carefully as I did not want to place blame on him or me; basically, it is what it is. He detaches from the situation. I will give him time to himself and talk to him after he has had a break. Any advice you can give me?

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posted October 09, 2011 07:34 PM            

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It sounds like such a load of work!
Relationships are hard even when two people are super-compatible; why try to make yourself compatible to him so hard? You are better off just being yourself and if he doesn't like that, well, there are so many other wonderful men out there!

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posted October 09, 2011 08:50 PM            

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90% of the time it is easy. It is when I do not digress my feelings and want to talk about them. He empathizes with every other feeling I have about other people, though when it comes to a deep emotion I have concerning him he flaps his fin with a loud splash and swims away. Does he not want to be confrontational? Does he think he is always right? Does he feel he is doing something wrong and does not want to face it?
Sun - Pisces
Venus - Pisces
Moon - Libra
Mars - Mars
Mercury - Aquarius

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posted October 09, 2011 08:56 PM            

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These are question you ought to ask him IMO.
It doesn't sound "easy" from here since there is hardly intimacy with someone who does not let your "deep emotions" show.

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posted October 09, 2011 09:01 PM            

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Thanks, anongrl. I appreciate you taking the time to answer.

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posted October 09, 2011 09:02 PM            

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Please take care of yourself, Stellium.
I hope more people chime in for help.

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posted October 09, 2011 09:23 PM            

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I will

I have this book entitled, THE EVERYTHING SEX SIGNS, and it states that Pisces great strength and great challenge are the same: feeling.

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posted October 09, 2011 09:25 PM            

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Well if something is bothering you about the relationship, you have the right to bring it up and want to discuss it...
Sometimes timing is key....
He also has to learn to listen.. All relationships need this type of communication for it to be successful.

As for him keeping his distance, afterwards.
I can understand that...
Maybe he's thinking it all through.. and when the time is right he will come back and revisit what you had said to him..

As for him blaming you... Not much I can say about that... IDK the story.. or the cirmstances...
But at the same time, what if he is telling you whats bothering him.. (guessing.. IDK)

If both of you really talk, and listen maybe.. and put yourself in each others shoes..... just maybe you will hear something different.
But yes its easier said than done..

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posted October 09, 2011 09:38 PM            

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I just wanted to say - because of the title... As much as Pisces men can be difficult to be with in a relationship - they make great friends! I love both Pisces men & women in this regard.

It might be because I have cold/intellectual planets in Pisces -- Mercury & Jupiter -- The egoism of the Sun and the emotions of the Moon in Pisces - are sometimes too dramatic for me, in a romantic situation.

Stellium - I can't remember whether you had any planets in Pisces... Do you have any conjunctions happening with this man?

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posted October 09, 2011 09:57 PM            

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Lioness, I am going to put myself in his shoes and think about what HE said that bothered him about the conversation. Thank you!

Betty Boop, he is my best friend as well.
Please explain what you think about the egoism of the Sun in Pisces.
We do not have that many conjunctions in synastry - ASC conj. ASC, Sun conj. Eros are two of the more significant. Our synastry is mostly trines and squares. The Composite Chart is nice and sweet.

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posted October 09, 2011 10:14 PM            

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And he should do the same... IF you can convince him

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posted October 10, 2011 08:13 AM            

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What about your mercurys? What sign are they, houses aspects?
To me it seems a mercury-problem...
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posted October 10, 2011 08:52 AM            

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We talk about everything under the sun. It is when it comes to emotions/feelings. It has gotten better since the beginning.

His Mercury in Aquarius, my Sun in Aquarius; not conjunct.
My Mercury in his 7th house.
His Mercury in my 9th house. [I do have a Sagittarius Stellium.]

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posted October 10, 2011 08:57 AM            

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I agree with others, that you should be able to trust him with your feelings.

BUT I see he is v ery very Piscean plus has a Moon in Libra - maybe he is scared that something might disturb the placid flow or balance?
Emotions can sometimes have rough edges, and it seems like he avoids facing these, maybe out of fear of losing you?
Or does he want to only skim the surface?

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