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Topic: How to do a synastry reading
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Snake Lady Knowflake Posts: 48 From: Austin, Texas Registered: Aug 2011
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posted October 12, 2011 09:40 AM
If it's not too much of a pain to explain to me in writing, would someone please tell me how I can do a synastry reading? ------------------ ***Whatsoever desires one entertains That he definitely obtains*** ~ Guru Gita IP: Logged |
anongrl10 Knowflake Posts: 4557 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 12, 2011 09:49 AM
I would start small, look at the most obviously wanted configurations. So, I first do synastry aspects and only then do I proceed to house/sign details (assuming both TOB are accurate). If you know the type of relationship the two people have (say, on-off, or long-term, or just friends), it's easier to start with those synastry points you expect to find. Contacts to personal planets is the most obvious, and you downplay any generational outer-planet aspects esp. if they are about the same age. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 01:38 AM
My Shortcut for synastry to find patterns:1. Check the natals for the same or complimentary themes: For example: You have Moon in Pisces - he has Moon conjunct Neptune A similiar theme would be highlighted for you. A complimentary one would be if you have Moon in Pisces and he has Sun square Neptune. (I would only count conjunction, opposition, and close squares and trines here). Check for planets in sign/house/aspect Example: Sun in Sagittarius is similiar to Sun in 9th or Sun conjunct Jupiter (not exactly the same, but similiar enough) Planets in the 1st house are also emphasised, so in this case Jupiter in 1st house would give a similiar vibe as well 1b) Check the conditions of each 5th, 7th and 8th house (sign at cusp, ruler in sign and house, planets in these houses) and how they "fit" together -------------------------------------- 2. Check the synastry: see if natal themes are being repeated. Let`s say in synastry his Neptune squares your Moon that would be a highlighted theme. 3. Check (in synastry) the angles and angle rulers aspecting Sun, Moon, ASC, IC, nodal axis and angle rulers (note in which houses the planets and angles/anglerulers are placed) for romantic relationships the 7th house is of utmost importance
4. Check Venus, Mars, 5th and 8th house (for "sparks"); 7th house is more about partnership.
5. For past life interactions or deeply subconscious patterns you can check out the 12th house, planets in 12th house and the ruler of 12th house (for past lives the SN is quite revealing as well) 6. ALL waterhouses are indicative of deep emotional themes, so make a special note if in the synastric overlay significant planets (those which are involved in strong aspects) fall into or rule the waterhouses; even if the aspect is made by Saturn and Uranus, if they rule the 8th and 4th house they will ALWAYS have a strong emotional effect
notes: ° I mainly consider 1. conjunction and opposition 2. square and trine (3. solstice points/ antiscion - but the jury is still out on these)
° there should be balance: The connections involving 5th, 7th and 8th house seem to be of main importance for relationships. (the 4th house would be allimportant for a very deep emotional connection, but it`s not sexual; the 8th is actually both, deeply emotional and deeply sexual and plainly scary in terms of intensity and depth).
If only one person´s 5th, 7th and 8th house-connections (especially their ruler) aspect the other Sun, Moon, ASC, ruler of 1st or even 4th house, then we probably have a case of unrequited feelings at our hand (or at least a case where one feels more than the other). If it goes both ways, good. 7. Check especially for challenging aspects of the personal planets Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, the angles and the ruler of 1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 7th and 8th house to Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto (and maybe Chiron). These might relate to the "big issues", most likely karmic in nature and not easy to deal with, but in the end transformative. challenges involving Saturn: blockages, the "brake" Uranus: unpredictibality, sudden changes, "on and off" Neptune: dissolving, sometimes deluding others and oneself Pluto: (subconscious) powerplays, very forceful Jupiter: overindulgence (though even squares of Jupiter to Moon or Venus are usually quite joyful, you just have to keep an eye on the bankaccount now and then ).
8. Check also the harmonious aspects to the outer planets: Jupiter can be endlessly supportive and your "biggest fan". Saturn can be stabilizing and structuring (which is needed in a relationship as well - commitment!). Uranus can be liberating, inspiring and electrifying, giving you completely new ideas. Neptune can be very compassionate, and loving in an allencompassing, unconditional sense (though Neptune`s love is more spiritual than personal, which often is the problem in a Venus-Neptune-aspect.) Pluto can be intense and "rebuilding" you from the inside, baring your soul so you can strip away everything that is unreal, that is not "your truth". (it demands a bit of courage though).
9. Check for conjunctions to the nodal axis, South Node and North Node. If there are only conjunctions to the SN without some to the NN, the connection might be passing away, you might have outlived its sell-date. (not my words, I read that in a book by Blashke and also in one by Hall). if there are also conjunctions to the NN then you have a common path, no matter how long or short it will be. I guess that´s it. (Phew and that is only the short route to synastry).
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 01:41 AM
aspects involving Sun, Moon and the angles are more about a very personal interaction. aspects involving Venus, Mars, 5th and 8th house are more about "sparks"
aspects with Nodes and Vertex give a sense of purpose / turning point / fate
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anongrl10 Knowflake Posts: 4557 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 06:12 AM
quote: (Phew and that is only the short route to synastry).
Ceri, you're a hoot! IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 06:42 AM
lolWhen i wrote that, I suddenly realized that I got carried away a little. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 06:46 AM
Actually my present shortroute to synastry (could change within mere hours. lol) would be something like that: Moon - IC - 4th house: Intimacy
Saturn - MC - 10th house: Comitment (but not in the sense of emotional / romantic commitment, that probably would be more in the 7th house) Venus, Mars, DESC, 7th house, 5th house: Romance and desire (passion) (of course always in relation to Sun and ASC as well) Nodes - Vertex: fate
4th - 8th - 12th house (and consequently aspects to Moon - Neptune- Pluto): deep complex emotional experiences, "soulmates"-feelings always in relation to Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, angles and their rulers
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 07:30 AM
what I had in mind, was the triangular theory of love by R. Sternberg and how it could be translated into astrological terms. "The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In the context of interpersonal relationships, 'the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component'.[1]
Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. Passion – Which encompasses drives connected to both limerence and sexual attraction. Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other." "Nonlove 'refers simply to the absence of all three components of love. Nonlove characterizes the large majority of our personal relationships, which are simply casual interactions'.[3] Liking/friendship is 'used here in a nontrivial sense. Rather, it refers to the set of feelings one experiences in relationships that can truly be characterized as friendship. One feels closeness, bondedness, and warmth toward the other, without feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment'.[4] Infatuated love: 'infatuation results from the experiencing of passionate arousal in the absence of intimacy and decision/commitment...like Tennov's limerance'.[5] Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly. Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses' relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating 'how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship...[but] the beginning rather than the end'.[6] Romantic love 'derives from a combination of the intimate and passionate components of love...romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but are also bonded emotionally'[7] - bonded both intimately and passionately, but without sustaining commitment. Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. 'This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present'[8] but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship. Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage - 'fatuous in the sense that a commitment is made on the basis of passion without the stabilizing influence of intimate involvement'.[9] Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple.” According to Sternberg, these couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they cannot imagine themselves happier over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other.[10] However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die".[11] Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love."
Intimacy: Moon - 4th house
Commitment: Saturn - 10th house Passion: a mix of Venus - 7th house Mars - 5th house
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 07:36 AM
Liking/friendship is 'used here in a nontrivial sense. Rather, it refers to the set of feelings one experiences in relationships that can truly be characterized as friendship. One feels closeness, bondedness, and warmth toward the other, without feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment'.[4]- Moon - 4th house Infatuated love: 'infatuation results from the experiencing of passionate arousal in the absence of intimacy and decision/commitment...like Tennov's limerance'.[5] Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
- Venus - Mars - 5th house
Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses' relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating 'how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship...[but] the beginning rather than the end'.[6]
- Saturn - 10th house Romantic love 'derives from a combination of the intimate and passionate components of love...romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but are also bonded emotionally'[7] - bonded both intimately and passionately, but without sustaining commitment.
- Moon - 4th house - Venus - Mars - 5th house Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. 'This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present'[8] but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
- Moon - Saturn - 4th house - 10th house Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage - 'fatuous in the sense that a commitment is made on the basis of passion without the stabili Venus - Mars - 5th house - Saturn - 10th house (though the descripition is also Uranian in nature)
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anongrl10 Knowflake Posts: 4557 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 07:48 AM
I personally don't put much stock on houses, due to the inaccuracy of many people's birth times. That's why I always start small with personal planet contact in the synastry. You can build from there depending on how sure you are about both people's TOB. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 13, 2011 08:53 AM
The inaccuracy of birthtimes is indeed annoying. So I can understand starting with planets. And synastry "works" fairly well with using planets alone, but always on a more generalized level. It is the houses and especially angles that individualize the chart. Using planets alone is a compromise of sort, and as most compromises, it is not absolutely satisfying, but usually a "fairly good solution under the given circumstances".
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7543 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 03, 2013 07:33 AM
Sometimes I stumble over old threads and find myself thinking: Damn, I wrote this? I need to make a few adjustments to this here, though
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Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 5190 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted August 03, 2013 05:26 PM
Great thread.Ceri, you're a gem. IP: Logged |
Jkitty Knowflake Posts: 691 From: an oasis in the desert Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 03, 2013 08:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: Sometimes I stumble over old threads and find myself thinking: Damn, I wrote this?
I'm so glad you bumped this! IP: Logged | |