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Topic: How Long does a Moon/Mars in Scorpio stay mad? Should I be scared?
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astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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posted October 14, 2011 11:12 PM
  
Hello knowflakes!I was wondering if anyone has any experience/ideas about how long people with Moon and/or Mars in Scorpio tend to stay mad. Basically, I just realized that an old friend of mine who has Moon conjunct Mars in Scorpio liked me for a long time. He never communicated this to me. Problem was, I didn’t realize it “soon enough” and he lashed out at me. I'm wondering if it makes sense for me to apologize now for hurting him; but I don't know if I want to do that if what I hear about Moon/Mars in Scorpio tendencies are accurate (i.e. holding grudges and taking revenge).
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Him: Sun in Virgo, Moon in Scorpio, Mars in Scorpio, Venus in Leo
Me: Sun in Libra, Moon in Gemini, Mars in Virgo, Venus in Virgo, Ascendant Leo Thanks for any tips or experiences with Moon and/or Mars in Scorpio! IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 5722
From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 14, 2011 11:18 PM
GAH, for-freaking-ever.Lucky he has a mutable sun though, you may stand a chance! You hurt his venus-leo pride, so may have to apologize profusely. lol. Good Luck.  IP: Logged |
astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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posted October 14, 2011 11:25 PM
The first line of your response scares me even more. But, it's good to hear that the Virgo part could help things...IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 14, 2011 11:28 PM
You should definitely not be scared. Scorpio's seeking revenge is a generalization and this situation resulted from a lack of communication on the part of your friend. I had a friend with Moon/Mars conjunction in Scorpio. She could be ruthless with those that hurt her, but she had a good heart and could forgive. It took her along time to forgive though. If you manage to hurt anyone especially Scorpios on a gut level it can be pretty painful for them to forgive you. Their fixed and obsessive which is an unhealthy combination if not managed.Your friend's ego's was bruised and maybe if he hadn't allowed himself to get caught up in the intensity of his own emotions and had just been straightforward and honest with you instead of keeping it secret, the situation might have resulted differently. Some people really are a broken record. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted October 14, 2011 11:37 PM
I doubt he'd be mad with you for this reason or that he would keep a grudge.When they do get genuinely mad... it can last forever.. But if this is the only problem you guys had - that you didn't notice he liked you soon enough... he'll definitely get over it.
He might've formed the impression that you are naive though - or not a very good psychologist... because you didn't pick up on his Scorpionic signals. It's up to you to change this impression, if you want to... Nothing is lost - basically.. imo IP: Logged |
astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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posted October 14, 2011 11:42 PM
NativelyJoan and Betty Boop, these responses are good to hear. I was kind of scared, because I've heard really bad things about the Moon/Mars Scorpio conjunction.The other thing is, I kind of did do something not so nice to him because I was angry at him for being angry at me. It was really petty, and I wasn't really there to see how angry he got if at all...I guess I could just see what happens, since it doesn't seem like Scorpio Moon-Mars are across-the-board entirely unforgiving. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 5722
From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 15, 2011 01:22 AM
Have to agree with Betty, if this is the only thing you did, then he's probably just nursing a wounded ego.Both my parents have Scorpio Moons, and I have a friend that has both Scorpio Moon & Mars,
all three of them can remember word for word what someone said or did a gazillion years ago, and they are still mad about it. Literally, my mother was just telling me on facebook about a fight she had with my father 44 years ago. I said, "WHY are you telling me this, I don't want to know this!!"
I mean, they have been divorced for 42 years!
She said, "Because I'm still pi$$ed!!!" And he does the same thing.
There is an element of broken record, chewing on an old bone until the juice is sucked out of it and then some about this placement.
But that's just my experience of them. IP: Logged |
scrappydog
Knowflake Posts: 1054
From: Texas
Registered: May 2009
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posted October 15, 2011 01:49 AM
is the moon conj mars in scorpio? I knew a mars in scorp square moon in aqua that was dangerous toward women once. Eeeww he was a real dick!
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astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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posted October 15, 2011 02:18 AM
Yep, he's a moon conj mars in scorpio. It's weird because he seemed like a "nice guy" (though I have suspected him of doing done some slightly creepy stuff...) IP: Logged |
amowls**
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posted October 15, 2011 02:19 AM
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He never communicated this to me. Problem was, I didn’t realize it “soon enough” and he lashed out at me.
Sounds a little cray-cray, if you ask me. IP: Logged |
astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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posted October 15, 2011 02:44 AM
Lol, yeah that's what I had thought too, and it makes me want to stay away. But, I kind of want to get in touch to just "clear the air".IP: Logged |
prettywords
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posted October 15, 2011 03:16 AM
He's mad at you bc he didn't tell you he liked you?? That's really strange. I'd leave it alone. Let sleeping dogs lie.
Are you sure hes not a woman, I mean, you were supposed to just know what he felt without him telling you?
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lalalinda
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From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 15, 2011 03:19 AM
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anongrl10
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posted October 15, 2011 06:21 AM
There is no apology needed.
The point is: do you like him as well?
If so, tell him so!
If not, tell him again but in a kind firm unapologetic way.
He's a very proud man with this Leo and Scorpio placements but you owe nobody an apology for his fragile ego. You did nothing wrong!
Just take the ball which is in your court now and play the next move depending on how you feel about him.
IF you like him, and you come out to tell him that his feelings are mutual, he will forget all about his "hurt feelings". 
If you don't like him, tough! It's his problem, not yours. Things like these happen too often to let anyone intimidate you over it!! IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted October 15, 2011 06:29 AM
I wouldn't worry about it. You did nothing wrong! It's his own damn fault for not being straightforward about it. You're not a mind reader. These days it can be quite tricky to determine whether someone actually likes you or whether they are just flirtatious people in general. So he can't just expect you to know he likes you since it's common for people to send out a lot of mixed signals these days.
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nordicsoul
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posted October 15, 2011 07:19 AM
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Originally posted by astro-newbie:
Hello knowflakes!I was wondering if anyone has any experience/ideas about how long people with Moon and/or Mars in Scorpio tend to stay mad. Basically, I just realized that an old friend of mine who has Moon conjunct Mars in Scorpio liked me for a long time. He never communicated this to me. Problem was, I didn’t realize it “soon enough” and he lashed out at me. I'm wondering if it makes sense for me to apologize now for hurting him; but I don't know if I want to do that if what I hear about Moon/Mars in Scorpio tendencies are accurate (i.e. holding grudges and taking revenge).
If it helps;:
Him: Sun in Virgo, Moon in Scorpio, Mars in Scorpio, Venus in Leo
Me: Sun in Libra, Moon in Gemini, Mars in Virgo, Venus in Virgo, Ascendant Leo Thanks for any tips or experiences with Moon and/or Mars in Scorpio!
i can tell that moon-mars in scorpio dont let go easily. it is difficult to forgive for them. if you add that venus in leo with all the proud attached. you better try not to hurt that creature.... seriosly, i have experience with mars in scorpio and their anger is sort of intense, penetrating..but also they dont let go easily. i also have a sister with moon in scorpio and mars in cancer. being myself mars in cancer but moon in gemini, i have rages, but she nothing like her. i forgive more easily. both: mars in scorpio (a friend of mine) and my sister (moon in scorpio) both has the same way of keeping negativity inside their hearts. they just dont let it go. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
Knowflake Posts: 586
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posted October 15, 2011 07:26 AM
i would not apologize...at all.... end of the story IP: Logged |
astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted October 15, 2011 08:23 AM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello astro-newbie! Welcome to LL
Thanks for the welcome, lalalinda! quote:
Originally posted by anongrl10:
There is no apology needed.
The point is: do you like him as well?
If so, tell him so!
If not, tell him again but in a kind firm unapologetic way.
He's a very proud man with this Leo and Scorpio placements but you owe nobody an apology for his fragile ego. You did nothing wrong!
Just take the ball which is in your court now and play the next move depending on how you feel about him.
IF you like him, and you come out to tell him that his feelings are mutual, he will forget all about his "hurt feelings".
If you don't like him, tough! It's his problem, not yours. Things like these happen too often to let anyone intimidate you over it!!
anongrl0, this is a good point. I guess the Leo/Scorpio ego isn't my problem, and if I go back saying "sorry let's just be friends again" it might just make it worse quote:
Originally posted by nordicsoul:
i can tell that moon-mars in scorpio dont let go easily. it is difficult to forgive for them. if you add that venus in leo with all the proud attached. you better try not to hurt that creature....seriosly, i have experience with mars in scorpio and their anger is sort of intense, penetrating..but also they dont let go easily. i also have a sister with moon in scorpio and mars in cancer. being myself mars in cancer but moon in gemini, i have rages, but she nothing like her. i forgive more easily. both: mars in scorpio (a friend of mine) and my sister (moon in scorpio) both has the same way of keeping negativity inside their hearts. they just dont let it go.
nordicsoul, I'm starting to agree with you. My general "sense" is that he is (or was) really upset. So, perhaps the benefit of clearing things up isn't as great as the problem of "reactivating" his anger. IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 16, 2011 06:22 AM
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VenusDiSirius
Knowflake Posts: 4347
From: Surfing Kite. Seriously.
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posted October 16, 2011 06:52 AM
At the moment,my ScorpMoon friend is angry with me. He just snapped. He'll get over it 
I have this I'll-eat-u-over-breakfast attitude towards Scorpios. Really,I am no nonsense Cappy Moon; U could do the same,ur Earth placements will back it up. IP: Logged |
astro-newbie
Newflake Posts: 17
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted October 16, 2011 05:43 PM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
It really does depend on the person (and very often a person can go back and forth between using intensity for good or bad until he/she learns to control it and manage it better). Again, though, just be careful and cautious and don't let the person bully you. If the person is toxic or harming you, it might be better to have distance, but if he's a good person who is just upset right now, perhaps some patience and space might be the best way to diffuse the situation. As for the Venus in Leo, I think that he perhaps has a lot of pride in love and in relationships. So, he may be feeling embarrassed or humiliated for some reason. Virgo sun people rarely (barring unusual influences) put their hearts out on their sleeves. They take a long time (again, barring odd influences) to open up and reveal their feelings; they take a long time to make their move. It takes a lot for them to really admit and express how they feel about a person when it comes to love. So, this also may be a part of why he isn't dealing with this very well.
RegardesPlatero, thanks for this analysis. I think it shed a lot more light on the situation. This person actually did act out in a way that was harmful to me after he got mad. So, as much as I'd like to patch things up, it might be better to stay away to protect myself. The Virgo self-expression issues also make sense (since I know Virgo pretty intimately having s lot of it in my chart).
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