posted October 17, 2011 11:42 AM            

I'm an Aquarius young female,
my chart goes like this:
Sun in Aquarius
Moon in Pisces
Mercury in Aquarius
Venus in Pisces
Mars in Cancer
Jupiter in Libra
Saturn in Aquarius
Uranus in Capricorn
Neptune in Capricorn
Pluto in Scorpio
Chiron in Leo
Ceres in Pisces
Pallas in Aquarius
Juno in Cancer
Vesta in Capricorn
Node in Sagittarius
Lilith  in Pisces
Fortune in Pisces
AS Aquarius
MC Sagittarius. Minus the aspects and house postions.

I am in a relationship with a Gemini man! I was hesitant and thought he was a player ha ha but as time grew by he grew on me. Was VERY forward an persistent. I didn't believe him at all when he told me he was a Gem! he acted like a cancer and behold he has a lot of cancer placements in his chart! (moon, Venus and mercury!)

Well, last year I disappeared on him when he asked me to commit. I cant describe why... I just.. couldn't accept it. I had massive feelings for him feelings I continued to deny. I acted extremely cold and uninterested and I guess that hurt him. He reappeared 3 times since then okay I don't want to bore you guys so here's the issue:

Last night he said he loved me. We are used to just saying "I like you a lot." LOL! I sensed that he has always truthfully wished to tell me that he loves me but he is aware of my fear of heavy emotions etc so maybe he hesitated. but he just said it. We were having a good time, after we "made love" (his words not mine)" we cuddled talked and he did the typical staring into my eyes bit. He kept whispering "I Like you.. so much. I really do" And than I said something to make him laugh, and well he blurted "I love you." I said nothing.. and than "What?" he repeated himself "I Love you" and looked in my eyes. I felt caught off guard.. I didn't know what to say.. so I said "I like you. A lot too. A lot." He looked at me and smiled.

Do you think I hurt his feelings? We have only been datingfor a short time but we have known each other for quite awhile. I don't know. I might love him but that's just something I don't want to even consider thknkig about? The emotion is way too heavy and I don't do intense emotions - I am a wreck when I dive into my own emotions, it's just not me. I can't understand it I probably never will... but do you think I hurt his feelings deep down? I never probe him to tell me how he feels I let him come to me, naturally... Why would he tell me he loves me? Now I kind of feel like taking my own space from him for a bit. Not because I dislike him - I have always cared about him-

posted October 17, 2011 12:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
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posted October 17, 2011 02:05 PM            

Sometimes you can tell what sign the user/ member is just by their description of what they say, watchout for an Aries post.
Do you think you hurt his feelings? Well has he changed or is he the same person you knew him as, We can change depending on what goes around us.

Gemini Males can be vary ambiguous at times, so its hard to draw a definite conclusion. But with the Cancer in him I can see him holding back some emotions.
Unfortunately, all I can say is watch and observe if he isn't the same person then he has changed and is holding back some emotion.

On the plus side Aquarians tend to understand Gem males the best, and I don't want to admit it but can easily decide when to start or end something.

Also you both seem to understand each other.

My Aqua freind used to do this to me all the time, until I caught on it might work for you.

Try to figure out how he'll react to something and then set it up to happen.
But don't make it obvious.

By then you'll know him enought and whouldn't be worrying if you hurt his feelings.

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Capircorn Rising
Gemini Sun, 5th House
Aries Moon
Mercury in Gemini
Venus In Taurus
Mars In Cancer

posted October 17, 2011 02:52 PM            

What I am saying is that when you really like someone a lot a lot and very much, that is love, the kind you cant avoid and you feel whether you like it or not bc the two of you have real good synastry/chemistry.

posted October 17, 2011 07:12 PM            

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Originally posted by SpooL:
Not that its a bad thing, but That's vary Aquarian of you to get cold feet when he wanted to commit. Just wanted to point that out.

Sometimes you can tell what sign the user/ member is just by their description of what they say, watchout for an Aries post.
Do you think you hurt his feelings? Well has he changed or is he the same person you knew him as, We can change depending on what goes around us.

Gemini Males can be vary ambiguous at times, so its hard to draw a definite conclusion. But with the Cancer in him I can see him holding back some emotions.
Unfortunately, all I can say is watch and observe if he isn't the same person then he has changed and is holding back some emotion.

On the plus side Aquarians tend to understand Gem males the best, and I don't want to admit it but can easily decide when to start or end something.

Also you both seem to understand each other.

My Aqua freind used to do this to me all the time, until I caught on it might work for you.

Try to figure out how he'll react to something and then set it up to happen.
But don't make it obvious.

By then you'll know him enought and whouldn't be worrying if you hurt his feelings.

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posted October 17, 2011 09:33 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:

...I never probe him to tell me how he feels I let him come to me, naturally... Why would he tell me he loves me? Now I kind of feel like taking my own space from him for a bit. Not because I dislike him - I have always cared about him-

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What I mean is just do general things say make breakfast for him one day and do it another day.

You'll see either a constant in his behaviour or diffrent mood swings and get a better idea how he feels on things.

I thought it was obvious, sorry for the ambguity.

Its vary important to see how his feeling are day to day, Cancers can be mood swingers and Gems can be bipolar.

posted October 17, 2011 09:44 PM            

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Originally posted by SpooL:
What I mean is just do general things say make breakfast for him one day and do it another day.

You'll see either a constant in his behaviour or diffrent mood swings and get a better idea how he feels on things.

I thought it was obvious, sorry for the ambguity.

Its vary important to see how his feeling are day to day, Cancers can be mood swingers and Gems can be bipolar.

You'll get the answer how he feels on things.

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Oh totally. One minute he can talk to me and cling to me like no other. Then he won't text or message me at all and seem moody.

Is that normal? I give him space and whatever but I notice he doesnt message me as much. But when I physically see him he will be so affectionate and lovey dovey. Right now he seems to be hanging out with his Male friend quite a lot which i think is cool too.

But last night my friend texted me back and forth.. then he asked "Why, is he texting you at 1 am babe? Who is he?" He started reading my text message but he didn't seem mad, he was talking all innocent etc. He was asking questions like "Who is he? Does he like you? Do guys at your work still try to hit on you? Who is this guy? Why does he text you this late? What did his message mean?"

posted October 17, 2011 09:58 PM            

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Originally posted by SpooL:
Looks like he sounds alot like what amelia28 said.

Sounds like mind games, to me

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Mind games? In what sense?
Like I get that he is busy and wants his space, but he can be quite insecure which surprises me because he seems so sure of himself.

posted October 17, 2011 10:27 PM            

When in a bad mood Gemini needs something to do and kept busy. While Aquarious needs something to shift there thinking to something else.

posted October 17, 2011 10:30 PM            

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Originally posted by SpooL:
yes, Your correct some space is required.

When in a bad mood Gemini needs something to do and kept busy. While Aquarious needs something to shift there thinking to something else.

Maybe, I used the wrong word to describe its just seams a little weird.

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posted October 24, 2011 07:55 PM            

Me:
ASC - Aquarius
Sun - Aquarius House 12
Moon - Pisces House 1
Mercury - Aquarius House 1
Venus - Pisces House 1
Mars - Cancer House 6
Jupiter - Libra House 8
Saturn - Aquarius House 1
Neptune - Cap House 12
Uranus - Cap House 12
Pluto - Scorpio House 9
Chiron - Leo House 7
Ceres - Pisces House 1
Pallas - Aquarius House 12
Juni - Cancer House 5
Vesta - Cap
Node - Sag
Lilith- Pisces
FOrtune - Pisces
MC - Sag

Him
ASC - Capricorn
Sun - Gemini House 5
Moon - Cancer House 6
Mercury - Cancer House 6
Venus - Cancer House 7
Mars - Capricorn - House 1
Juputer - Pisces House 2
Saturn - Sagittarius House 10
Uranus - Sag House 11
Neptune - Capricorn House 12
Pluto - Scorpio House 9
Chiron - Gemini House 8
Ceres - Virgo House 7
Pallas - Leo House 7
Juno - Sag
Vesta - Aries
Node - Aries
MC - Scorpio

IM HAVING TROUBLE GUYS. UGH He is so hot and cold. He seems so BUSY in work and its making me feel insecure. I even asked him last night through text 'Are you cheating on me" LOL My pisces moon and venus craves the emotional attention! He todl me "no never i would never do that to you."

I dont understand, his Cap rising god he can come off as very cold like he doesn't care about me at all.. But then when I am off alone he surprises me with the "I miss you/love you" stuff. He is always at work he works at a hosptail And I miss him so much. I tell him I miss him at least two times a week it used to be everyday LOL. He says he is busy and I accept that, he tells me he will see me very soon. He wont even call me sometimes or even text me. I have to text him FIRST. And when I am off in my own world that is when he will message me. He seems to be moving extremely slow I never expected him to. I dont understand what is going on. Im used to men telling me they love/want me all the time, and this guy says this in person when we are together but when we are apart he is so remote and its just difficult talking to him. Part of me feels like he is "planning" how he wants to ineract/see me, instead of telling me how he feels through the phone he would rather do it in person.

Any insight guys?

posted October 24, 2011 08:01 PM            

I dont know do these types just like patience? I even asked him "Do you want to be in a relationship. Yes or no." I expected "No" and the opposite. He acts like he doesn't even care/want me though. It sounds silly.. Ah..

posted October 27, 2011 05:20 AM            

To be honest I'm confused just from reading your posts, so I can only imagine how the poor guy must have felt at times. Seriously, I think any distance or alleged coldness that you may sense from his side (sometimes) are just a response to the push-pull dynamic he has been getting from you. You said you've disappeared on him repeatedly, have trouble with deep emotions and showing how you feel/responding to his "I love you declaration", but then you suddenly make this leap and get worked up about minor details of his behaviour like not texting as much, not being expressive in texts etc which I actually don't find surprising behaviour. Many men aren't that verbal in texts, plus, as lots of people who have a demanding job, when he's at working he's probably concentrating on work (which I find reassuring considering he works at a hospital...) When he is with you, he concentrates on you and is very clear about his deep feelings for you. He has been persistent, he tells you he loves you and I have no doubt that he means it, he gets jealous about other guys, he even mentions marriage.......but then you ask whether YOU should be patient? I really have trouble following your logic here.

Don't get me wrong, I really don't mean to criticise, I love Aquarius. The majority of my closest friends are Aquarius, one actually is almost your astro twin chart wise, and I am very familiar with their need to distance themselves and re-claim their freedom after times of emotional closeness. My chart is a mix of mostly capricorn and cancer, moon and saturn heavy, with a bit of jupiter added. While I deal very well with strong aquarius people in friendship and feel comfortable with it, I've found it difficult to handle it in romantic attractions. The greatest attraction I've ever felt was for an aquarius man with lots of pisces/neptune in the mix. His repeated vanishing acts and distancing just made me increasingly insecure. Although I always sensed these great feelings from his side, there was this wall up. His behaviour had the effect that over time resentment started building up from my side and I inadvertently started copying his behaviour. We ended up in a kind of stalemate, both of us hiding behind this facade.

As a strongly Moon and saturn influenced person I need substance and openness to trust a person and trust to commit to someone long term. I'm also someone who can't be bothered to make emotional declarations in txts, emails etc. These are just speech bubbles. What counts is the personal contact. By the way my two best friends are also capricorn rising and they are the same.

posted October 27, 2011 05:45 AM            

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Hi,

To be honest I'm confused just from reading your posts, so I can only imagine how the poor guy must have felt at times. Seriously, I think any distance or alleged coldness that you may sense from his side (sometimes) are just a response to the push-pull dynamic he has been getting from you. You said you've disappeared on him repeatedly, have trouble with deep emotions and showing how you feel/responding to his "I love you declaration", but then you suddenly make this leap and get worked up about minor details of his behaviour like not texting as much, not being expressive in texts etc which I actually don't find surprising behaviour. Many men aren't that verbal in texts, plus, as lots of people who have a demanding job, when he's at working he's probably concentrating on work (which I find reassuring considering he works at a hospital...) When he is with you, he concentrates on you and is very clear about his deep feelings for you. He has been persistent, he tells you he loves you and I have no doubt that he means it, he gets jealous about other guys, he even mentions marriage.......but then you ask whether YOU should be patient? I really have trouble following your logic here.

Don't get me wrong, I really don't mean to criticise, I love Aquarius. The majority of my closest friends are Aquarius, one actually is almost your astro twin chart wise, and I am very familiar with their need to distance themselves and re-claim their freedom after times of emotional closeness. My chart is a mix of mostly capricorn and cancer, moon and saturn heavy, with a bit of jupiter added. While I deal very well with strong aquarius people in friendship and feel comfortable with it, I've found it difficult to handle it in romantic attractions. The greatest attraction I've ever felt was for an aquarius man with lots of pisces/neptune in the mix. His repeated vanishing acts and distancing just made me increasingly insecure. Although I always sensed these great feelings from his side, there was this wall up. His behaviour had the effect that over time resentment started building up from my side and I inadvertently started copying his behaviour. We ended up in a kind of stalemate, both of us hiding behind this facade.

As a strongly Moon and saturn influenced person I need substance and openness to trust a person and trust to commit to someone long term. I'm also someone who can't be bothered to make emotional declarations in txts, emails etc. These are just speech bubbles. What counts is the personal contact. By the way my two best friends are also capricorn rising and they are the same.

I'm not suggesting, that the same as my story with this Aquarius is hapenning with your guy, but I think you should watch out Your guy is already very, very cancerian with lots of capricorn in the mix, on top of it, his DSC ruler the moon is in cancer!! He may have a gemini sun, but judging from all the cancer and capricorn (plus mars in the 1st) in his char, there is nothing wishy-washy or half-hearted about this guy. You are very aquarian and no one is trying to force you into relationship behaviour that suffocates you. It's fine to need your freedom and it's fine not to say I love you if you are not ready. I think it's just important to explain / be more verbal about where you are coming from. I think it will only help to strengthen your connection, he clearly already likes you how you are.

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Thank You for your response/honesty! Not offended here,