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Topic: Is it normal for Cardinal signs be say strange stuff like this?
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lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 02:14 PM
  
First of all, my boyfriend started sulking when I didn't buy him food...Second of all what's with the passive aggressive wishy washiness?
I couldn't help who decides to message me/email me. Last night at 1-3 am my best friend (He's a libra sun Leo ASC) texted me and emailed me. I of course replied back. This was all happening while my boyfriend was looking for movies to watch I was on his lap and than I saw his jaw tense. I asked if he was okay and than he got silent. I got off his lap because my Libra friend phoned me the call was 3 minutes. I got back and my boyfriend was on the bed sulking. I curled up to him and saw him twitching his leg then he starts asking "Do I make you happy? Are you happy with me?" I said "Yes where is this coming from?" he said "Who is texting you at this hour who just called you?" He looked at my phone and asked "Michael? who is that! what does he want from you at this hour? Babe seriously.." I told him "Michael is my best friend. He just wanted to ask me something, What's the big deal? Why are you getting like this?" He said "Nothing. It's cool." We dropped it than he said "I'm going to bed. You can continue to talk to Michael." (sulking) I said "What's wrong? I'm not doing anything wrong" He says "Babe, why is he talking to you now? Why can't he talk in the morning? Do you see me talking to my friends infront of you in bed like that? No. Because I respect you. If I did it you would be asking who I'm talking to" - actually I wouldn't ask because I don't care and I trust him... the he starts getting upset "Becareful and don't do something you will regret." I aske "Ok do you have a problem? Do you want me to stop talking to guys?" he said "No babe. It's cool. I want you to be comfortable in this relationship" and than he said "Just sometimes I think I should insert a tracking device inside of you, maybe your butt that way if a guy is anywhere near you, flirting with you or trying to have sex with you, I will know" I didn't laugh and he laughed and said he was joking Honestly what's up with that? I read that Geminis are not jealous and protective/possessive. But he is slowly showing that side of him. It's not bad per se I just don't see why he has to act like a baby? And sulk. Clearly have a problem but when asked about it, he will say "nothing." Here is chart;
ASC - cap
sun - Gemini
mercury - cancer
Venus - cancer
moon - cancer
mars - cap
Jupiter - pisces
Saturn - sag
Uranus - cap
Neptune - cap my chart:
ASC - aqua
sun - aqua
moon - pisces
mercury - aqua
Venus - pisces
jupiter - libra
saturn - aqua
Uranus and Neptune in cap
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maira
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posted October 28, 2011 02:34 PM
You left our your mars, but the sulking is a Cancer thing not a cardinal one. And you seem to bode well together (at a quick glance, orbs must be taken into consideration).IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 02:51 PM
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Originally posted by maira:
You left our your mars, but the sulking is a Cancer thing not a cardinal one. And you seem to bode well together (at a quick glance, orbs must be taken into consideration).
I have MArs in cancer. I used to be passive aggressive
not anymore. ya he has a lot of cancer placements not to mention his descendant. how do I resolve his passive aggressive behavior? when I confront him sometimes he will act like nothing is wrong or nothing when clearly there is something since he will continue to sulk and act like a baby sometimes lol IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted October 28, 2011 04:07 PM
I think he has a point. Anyone would be jealous in his position lol....Guy best friends would make any boyfriend jealous just like girl best friends would a girlfriend. And he has a point, out of respect to him, you can reply to your best friend at another time.I know it sounds...um, well, at very least, very inconvenient for you since you're best friends and it's tough. But, at least try to be sensitive to your boyfriend's feelings. Most people I've talked to about this have told me that it's not right to have a best friend of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship. You're lucky your boyfriend is nice enough to let you be best friends with him, just try to do the things he asks out of respect for him because it hurts his feelings and you care about his feelings, you know? You wouldn't want him to feel tortured, would you? IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted October 28, 2011 04:18 PM
That's a Cancer Moon guy. That's all. Typical of water signs to react emotionally like that. Hid pride won't let him admit he is bothered. But sulking is a Cancer thing. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted October 28, 2011 05:25 PM
When I was reading this I instantly thought he sounds like a cancer lol and then WOW hahaha he does have a stellium in it.He's being alittle whingy BUT it is kinda ehh... that your best friend texted at such a late hour. Seeing that he's a guy and all.
I can kinda understand why the bf's feeling alittle =/ IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted October 28, 2011 06:33 PM
yeah, having opposite sex friends and besties can make some s.o. paranoid.he is probably sulky cause calling that late... usually when a guy hits up a girl around that time...that usually means the guy is trying to booty call a girl. but if this guy is your best friend...it shouldn't matter what time he is calling you, and its up to you if you want to respond or not. ...I'm a girl and all my best friends have been girls. I will admit I get insecure when a guy says he is good friends with a straight girl...especially a single straight girl. lol...even if the girl is ugly. I always find it suspicious. Maybe I would be more secure if my straight guy friends never ever put moves on me. Or if I never ever put the moves on them. This is why I want to get to know the guy a while first before I commit...because then I can feel out him and the other people in his life...and figure out if I trust him. But I realize that if I guy says he is friends with a straight single girl, It will bring negativity in the relationship if I show I don't trust him...and vise versa And it's not fair if he only gets to hang out with single girls and I don't hang out with single guys even if they hit on me sometimes...but then the guy friends I hang out with can also respect my boundaries that I set. My friend has a guy best friend...and he openly admitted to a bunch of people that he wants to sleep with her. (he just got out of a relationship) And she's all like "nooooh, we have been friends for so long...I can't mess that up" I know that when I'm in a relationship...I will have to find a way to be mature about this. I have
Gemini Rising
Aries Sun
Scorpio Moon and Pluto
Taurus Mercury
Pisces Venus
Aquarius Mars
Capricorn Saturn, Neptune, Uranus
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Astra
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posted October 28, 2011 06:44 PM
Yes, it's tough having a best friend of the opposite sex while you're in a relationship, but NEVER give up your friends just because you have a boyfriend.What you should do is set some boundaries with your friend, however. Unless it was an emergency, it was inappropriate for your friend to be calling you at that hour. He should've called earlier or waited until the next day. When my male friends are in relationships, I'm always careful about when I call them. I never call past 9pm out of respect for their girlfriends. Anyway, your boyfriend has a lot of cancer in his chart, which would definitely make him passive aggressive, possessive, jealous and clingy. If you don't set boundaries with your friend, you will have to deal with some major drama with your boyfriend later on. Just keep that in mind. Good luck, girl! IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 07:34 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
I think he has a point. Anyone would be jealous in his position lol....Guy best friends would make any boyfriend jealous just like girl best friends would a girlfriend. And he has a point, out of respect to him, you can reply to your best friend at another time.I know it sounds...um, well, at very least, very inconvenient for you since you're best friends and it's tough. But, at least try to be sensitive to your boyfriend's feelings. Most people I've talked to about this have told me that it's not right to have a best friend of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship. You're lucky your boyfriend is nice enough to let you be best friends with him, just try to do the things he asks out of respect for him because it hurts his feelings and you care about his feelings, you know? You wouldn't want him to feel tortured, would you?
Not at all.
I didn't think of it like that. I didnt like I needed to really change my other relationships. Because those people are literally just friends. My boyfriend is my friend and my lover combined.I do think he was being childish though. But you make a good point.. I just wish he would just be upfront and tell me "Yes, Yes I have a problem with you and your supposed friendship with this guy." Me and this guy have been best friends for 3 years.. add to the fact that he is bisexual and mostly into men..
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lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 07:40 PM
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Originally posted by Astra:
Yes, it's tough having a best friend of the opposite sex while you're in a relationship, but NEVER give up your friends just because you have a boyfriend.What you should do is set some boundaries with your friend, however. Unless it was an emergency, it was inappropriate for your friend to be calling you at that hour. He should've called earlier or waited until the next day. When my male friends are in relationships, I'm always careful about when I call them. I never call past 9pm out of respect for their girlfriends. Anyway, your boyfriend has a lot of cancer in his chart, which would definitely make him passive aggressive, possessive, jealous and clingy. If you don't set boundaries with your friend, you will have to deal with some major drama with your boyfriend later on. Just keep that in mind. Good luck, girl!
He also has Moon/Mercury Opposite Neptune which scares me.He wont just come outright with it. He just dilly dallies about it. I honestly wasn't aware it hurt his feelings. I am willing to hear him out and compromise.. I had no idea this bothered guys.
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amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 08:12 PM
I told you at another thread you started that he has tauras rising and venus and mars in the 2nd house. 2nd house is ruled by Taurus and rules possessions. He is possessive because of all the taurus influence and the fact that he has scorpio in the 7th house. Also his venus and mars square his moon and since the 2nd house is involved which rules possession and self worth and moon rules relationship with mother and women he possibly didn't feel unconditionally loved by his mother and as a result is insecure and likes to accumulate possessions to feel secure and prove to this mother and women that he is worth a lot.IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 08:15 PM
He is been clear and telling you that you can have guy friends but that he doesn't like it if you get text messages at 3 in the morning bc it comes off as a booty call the fact that he is texting you that late. Even if he has a point about the hour your friend is texting you how he reacts to this shows he is very insecure and needs to work on his self worth.IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 08:21 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
I told you at another thread you started that he has tauras rising and venus and mars in the 2nd house. 2nd house is ruled by Taurus and rules possessions. He is possessive because of all the taurus influence and the fact that he has scorpio in the 7th house. Also his venus and mars square his moon and since the 2nd house is involved which rules possession and self worth and moon rules relationship with mother and women he possibly didn't feel unconditionally loved by his mother and as a result is insecure and likes to accumulate possessions to feel secure and prove to this mother and women that he is worth a lot.
he doesnt have ataurus rising he has a cap rising and he doesnt have those placements.
he has venus in house 7, mars in house 1 cap rising,or are we talking about someone different
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amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 08:22 PM
man we must be talking about someone different. My bad. Disregard then.IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 08:35 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
man we must be talking about someone different. My bad. Disregard then.
Hehe no problem!! IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 08:42 PM
OK so the possessiveness, insecurity and controlling nature, and paranoia is the venus and mars in cancer. Cancers are high maintenance and get suspicious and paranoid easily so your friend calling at 3 the in morning will get someone with strong cancer influence really suspicious and feeling insecure  .My sis is a cancer with moon in scorpio and venus in cancer and she is paranoid and suspicious although sweet and warm. My BF from high school is also a cancer with moon in scorpio and venus in cancer and was possessive and suspicious, she would not feel comfortable with her boyfriend going out clubbing with friends without her. She was always on the guard....both are always on the guard LOOKING for something wrong in the partner, almost like they want an excuse to dump them bc partner is not giving them the complete surrender they seek. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted October 28, 2011 09:24 PM
I had a guy interested in me, a Cap, with Gemini moon, Cap venus and Leo Mars. We had one date before he apparently 'owned' me. I was waiting for him to break into my home in the middle of the night and kill me after I told him he was way too controlling waayyyyyyy to controlling, demanding, pushy, omg it was unbelievable. When he couldn't push me around he then sulked, for one month, the silent treatment, meanwhile I moved on, forgot all about him, now he is back and demanding I dump my new interest and be with him instead because he "really likes me" never mind what I want. I'm not exaggerating here.IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 09:31 PM
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Originally posted by Libreo:
I had a guy interested in me, a Cap, with Gemini moon, Cap venus and Leo Mars. We had one date before he apparently 'owned' me. I was waiting for him to break into my home in the middle of the night and kill me after I told him he was way too controlling waayyyyyyy to controlling, demanding, pushy, omg it was unbelievable. When he couldn't push me around he then sulked, for one month, the silent treatment, meanwhile I moved on, forgot all about him, now he is back and demanding I dump my new interest and be with him instead because he "really likes me" never mind what I want. I'm not exaggerating here.
LMAO.....what rising sign was he? IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 10:09 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
OK so the possessiveness, insecurity and controlling nature, and paranoia is the venus and mars in cancer. Cancers are high maintenance and get suspicious and paranoid easily so your friend calling at 3 the in morning will get someone with strong cancer influence really suspicious and feeling insecure .My sis is a cancer with moon in scorpio and venus in cancer and she is paranoid and suspicious although sweet and warm. My BF from high school is also a cancer with moon in scorpio and venus in cancer and was possessive and suspicious, she would not feel comfortable with her boyfriend going out clubbing with friends without her. She was always on the guard....both are always on the guard LOOKING for something wrong in the partner, almost like they want an excuse to dump them bc partner is not giving them the complete surrender they seek.
Sorry he has mars in capricorn house 1. Sorry foe the confusion. Oh dear I read that scorpios do this in relationships... for some reason. Maybe the always looking for a problem is related to scorpio influences? IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted October 28, 2011 10:12 PM
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Originally posted by Libreo:
I had a guy interested in me, a Cap, with Gemini moon, Cap venus and Leo Mars. We had one date before he apparently 'owned' me. I was waiting for him to break into my home in the middle of the night and kill me after I told him he was way too controlling waayyyyyyy to controlling, demanding, pushy, omg it was unbelievable. When he couldn't push me around he then sulked, for one month, the silent treatment, meanwhile I moved on, forgot all about him, now he is back and demanding I dump my new interest and be with him instead because he "really likes me" never mind what I want. I'm not exaggerating here.
Eeek! Maybe it is the capricorn placements...
Wow I am so sorry.. how did you deal with that?
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amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 10:21 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Sorry he has mars in capricorn house 1. Sorry foe the confusion.Oh dear I read that scorpios do this in relationships... for some reason. Maybe the always looking for a problem is related to scorpio influences?
I think its the sun in cancer or venus in cancer or both that yields someone always on the look out to find a reason to dump boyfriend bc boyfriend is not giving them as much of their heart as they expect (ofcourse they are not aware of the self sabotage). My first boyfriend was an aqua with moon in scorpio and he was nothing like sister or best friend so I dont think is the scorpio. I think is more the cancer in venus and sun. I have dated a lot of sun scorpios and they were not like that at all either.
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amelia28
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posted October 28, 2011 10:26 PM
My grandma was a cancer and the sweetest person I have ever met but she needed a loooooot of attention and reassurance. She wanted me to assure her she was my favorite grandmother which she was bc I loved how nurturing she was but I didn't like how insecure she was and how much attention and reassurance she needed .Cancer is intuitively protective too..he has three personal planets in cancer... IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted October 28, 2011 11:20 PM
Eeek! Maybe it is the capricorn placements...
Wow I am so sorry.. how did you deal with that?[/B][/QUOTE]
I am still dealing with it, by just not answering him. I have tried being tactful and diplomatic but he is like "No! No one rejects me, I will not have it, it is unacceptable" so yeah, I just don't answer messages (they seem to be easing off) and sleep with a baseball bat. He knows where I live.
amelia28 I don't know I never found out, I would be very interested to know though.IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted October 28, 2011 11:22 PM
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I think its the sun in cancer or venus in cancer or both that yields someone always on the look out to find a reason to dump boyfriend bc boyfriend is not giving them as much of their heart as they expect (ofcourse they are not aware of the self sabotage).
Yess...that is soo true. I'm a cancer sun. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted October 28, 2011 11:24 PM
lindisfarne, I have found a very interesting website that's worth checking out, the guy in my replies on this thread came up as having 'severe psychological problems' according to this website so therefore, in my opinion, it's accurate. Here's the link. http://www.cosmitec-astrological-compatibility-advice.com/individual-sex-horoscopes.html IP: Logged |
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