posted November 04, 2011 03:48 AM            

When I met him, it was in a creative writing class in college, and the attraction was instant. He sat across the room and I'd spend the whole class sneaking glances at him and catching him look back. It went on for months before we ever talked to each other. Really smouldering chemistry, kind of mysterious and hard to define.

Once we got together, there was lots of raw, primal attraction in the beginning. Particularly with the placement in Leo, it creates sexual and creative energy. In my case, over time, I found his cockiness a turn-off, and we would have lots of fights where he basically refused to believe I wasn't in love with him. With the Leo planets we were both rather proud and stubborn so the conflicts were hard to resolve. It took me many months of trying to break up with him before we finally split for good, because the attraction from his end was so strong, he couldn't understand that my feelings had changed.

posted November 05, 2011 02:04 AM            

Finally, five months later, he told me he was back in our hometown and asked if I wanted to go to his friend's birthday party with him. He never called it a date, but we ended up skipping the party and crashing back at my apartment, where we played Scrabble and watched movies all night long. The sexual tension was crazy, but we were both too shy to make a move. The only thing that happened was he put his arm on the couch behind my shoulder at one point (during which I was screaming in my head, "Kiss me you fool!"). We passed out on my bed at about 5 in the morning, as the sun was starting to rise... still totally platonic, but I REALLY wanted to make out with him. Haha. Honestly, I couldn't read him at all and had no idea if he liked me just as a friend or what.

When we were hanging out a second time, still not calling it a date, we went on a short hike into a lava tube/cave out in the woods. Just us, a giant hole in the ground, and flashlights. It was my idea. I figured if anything was going to happen between us, it would happen when we were alone in the dark.

When we got to the end of the cave, we sat down on some rocks, soaking in the silence and total blackness. A really strange experience, almost like you're buried in a tomb. All of a sudden he grabbed my legs and scooted them over his lap so I was sort of sitting on him, leaned me backwards, and we WHAM, we were making out. We were ALL over each other. It was pretty fun.

So to answer your question... I guess neither of us really asked the other person out officially, but he technically initiated everything by inviting me to that party. He told me later he'd wanted it to be a date, but had been too nervous to make a move. We both admitted (after we were officially in a relationship) that we'd been insanely attracted to each other since day 1 of that writing class, but again, just too shy to ask each other out.