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Moonfish
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posted November 04, 2011 02:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When it comes to love, is age just number or do you have a limit?
What is the biggest leap you would be willing to take in order to find true love?
What aspects cause this?


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BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 04, 2011 03:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BelligerentPygmy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a limit when it comes to younger than me. Older than? I've been involved with guys 15,20+ years older than me. At the time I didn't mind but now that I've been around guys closer to my own age, that's where I want to be. I like having that bond of having grown up in the same generation, having the same sensibilities, and feeling like you're on the same page at at the same point in your lives.

Exactly what astrologically would account for any of this I don't know, although I've read interpretations of Mercury in the 7th house before that said it means your spouse will be younger than you...I read that like, "Yeah right."

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posted November 04, 2011 03:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Betty Boop     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I thought I had a limit, but then I fell in love with a man who is 19 yrs older than me
So - yes - I do see age as a number now.

Sun trine Saturn, Cap Moon, Cap DC, Cap Mars... (it was bound to happen, hey?)

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posted November 04, 2011 03:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for amelia28     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Moonfish:
When it comes to love, is age just number or do you have a limit?
What is the biggest leap you would be willing to take in order to find true love?

(Optional: Usually the taboo in relationships is if the female is older than the male. girls, would you date a guy younger than you - how young? guys, would you date a girl older than you - how old?)

list whatever aspects/placements you think makes you feel this way.


I can go either way younger or older and I am girl. I have dated younger guys and attract younger guys (juno in the 5th). I would have a limit either way. I can go up to 5 years younger is my feeling and up to 10 years older.

I have met a women who was married to a much older guy who was not rich so she was not a gold digger and really gave me the impression she really loved her husband sooo after that experience I don't think age is a big deal as long as everyone involved is an adult but personally I have my limits.

Men are increasingly more and more pursuing women who are older than them and well the bigger the age gap the less likely it will last long term but I dont have a problem with it at all and power to you if you find a younger man or woman who loves you whom you end up having a lasting relationship with .

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NativelyJoan
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posted November 04, 2011 11:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
I didn't mind but now that I've been around guys closer to my own age, that's where I want to be. I like having that bond of having grown up in the same generation, having the same sensibilities, and feeling like you're on the same page at at the same point in your lives.

I concur. When I was younger and in college I would date guys 5 to 15 years older than me. It was never intentional it would just happen. But now I really do prefer men my age, + or - a couple years. The generational thing is very important and in general astrologically everything really matches up with people around your age/date of birth. I prefer it, I think it's fun, I feel like I can be myself and I like the idea of growing and changing together. I really like men my age.

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posted November 04, 2011 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Shankara     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I always wanted to date a guy my age or just a couple of years older, but it never happened. My two serious relationships were with guys 12 years and 15 years older than me. I was scared to get involved with them b/c of the age difference, but the attraction was there and it was easy to talk to them. It wouldn't seem like there was an age difference when we were together, but sometimes I'd think to myself "OMG, when I'm ____, he'll be ____!" And it was worse b/c women tend to live longer. When I broke up with both guys I thought to myself "never again." I wanted someone close to my age, because although in the moment it worked fine, overall there are issues.

Growing up and never thought I'd date a guy even a year younger. Then as I got older I'd think that maybe I'd dat someone 2-3 years younger. But now I've found myself really being interested in 2 guys, one 3.5 - 4 years younger and the other just over 5 years younger, which is really freaking me out!

But really the age difference there is nothing compared to my last relationship. It's funny b/c both guys are way more mature than the two who were so much older. There is also the feeling with the younger guys that we are part of the same generation, which I didn't feel with the older men.

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posted November 04, 2011 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for downtomars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am with NativelyJoan and BelligerentPygmy –

I used to date older men (16 years was the oldest) when I was in my late teens/early 20s now I like men around my age but still just a touch older (5-10 years). My last boyfriend was 9 years older and we had that nice NN-SN conjunction that happens every 9 years and his Uranus was early enough in Libra to sextile my personal planets in Leo in the 7th house and his Neptune was in late Scorpio so it trined my Venus at 0 deg Leo, so it was kind of nice and exciting. I did 5 years older and his Uranus was right on top of my Moon, and we were half long distance, on and off, and it wasn’t fun. I need to find someone whose outer planets don’t mess with my inner ones so much.

As for younger – I dated a guy who was one year younger (Scorpio) and it felt like 10 years younger. I am not into the younger man thing at all. Even though Mercury is in my 7th and Gemini rules my 5th, I can’t see myself going there unless I am widowed at age 90 and the 80 year old down the hall is into me.

I have Venus on the DC, Sun, Mercury, Jupiter all in Leo and (last but not least) Saturn in Virgo in the 7th…

(Although, I had a reading some time ago and the astrologer said that I could have an affair with a younger man that could lead to divorce, all because of my 5th and 8th house ruler Mercury in the 7th square Uranus in the 9th conjunct the MC…I am the most faithful person ever, but sure, okay…)

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posted November 04, 2011 11:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moonfish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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NativelyJoan
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posted November 04, 2011 12:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just wanted to add my aspects. I'm not sure what exactly it could be but maybe Venus in the 7th, I want equality in relationships including age. I also have Venus opposite Ascendant which also adds to the balancing aspects.

My parents are divorced but they we born in the same year two months apart, they were married for 26 years. An Aries Mother and an Aquarius Father, their marriage didn't work out but surprisingly to me included considering I'm estranged from my father, they're still friends, I think it has to do with the generational compatibilities.

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posted November 04, 2011 12:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anongrl10     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The older I've gone out with was 12yrs older than me (although I used to be attracted to guys even 20yrs older than me when I was much younger; but dating and feeling attracted is not the same). Now that I'm in my early 40s I don't really feel like dating anyone over his mid- to late-40s lol. Men rarely look after themselves so they start getting yucky after a certain age IMO. I'd open to any exceptions of course!! I wouldn't mind dating younger and I've been known to attract younger men (Merc rules the 5th) but I don't take them seriously as in partners with prospects. Again, I'm open to any exceptions. In general, age IS really a number in my mind. I've met people a lot more mature than their age and a lot more immature than their age, so it doesn't really matter in that respect. I much rather go for the personality.

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posted November 04, 2011 02:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CosmicKarma360     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
I have a limit when it comes to younger than me. Older than? I've been involved with guys 15,20+ years older than me. At the time I didn't mind but now that I've been around guys closer to my own age, that's where I want to be. I like having that bond of having grown up in the same generation, having the same sensibilities, and feeling like you're on the same page at at the same point in your lives.


Excellent! Could't agree with you more. I feel exactly the same way, and you expressed it beautifully.

When I was in my early 20's, I went out with someone in his late 30's. It was a 19 year age difference. At age 36, I went out with someone in his early 20's. 13 year age gap. Neither one worked out, and frankly, it wasn't worth it. By far the best relationships I've personally had are with guys in and around my own age.

I saw a list of statistics once that only 17% of May-Dec romances last 10+ years or more. That's only the ones that marry. Most never make it that far. Over half that do marry, end within a few months, to one year.

In my case, not sure about the younger guy, but met the older one right smack when t. Saturn was conjunct on my DEC. Guess it was some kind of Karmic lesson.

The whole age gap thing is really individual, but at my age, 47, I do think most middle-age guys are going through their mid-life crisis when they date someone younger. Never believed in that, but now that I'm there, yup! I see and hear about it all the time.

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