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Topic: Cancerians don't stand up for themselves, makes me get angry and want to defend them
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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 1289 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 05, 2011 05:43 PM
I feel like we Cancerians idealize people we like too much, and that makes us think they really like us when they really don't.I wish us cancers would stand up for ourselves more and not put up w/ ppl's bs IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy Knowflake Posts: 497 From: Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 05, 2011 08:36 PM
quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: I feel like we Cancerians idealize people we like too much, and that makes us think they really like us when they really don't.I wish us cancers would stand up for ourselves more and not put up w/ ppl's bs
Idealization is more a Neptunian/Pisces thing than a Cancerian/Moon one. If you or someone you know does that, you need to look to see what NEPTUNE is doing in the chart. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne Knowflake Posts: 209 From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 05, 2011 09:32 PM
Sounds like a Pisces thing IMO............ I kind of don't really get the whole passive thing. Like people for example think I am passive, I know they do and they hint at it, some actually talk/behave towards me as if I am passive. Im not passive, I just take my time with most things and people, just because it looks like I am 'aprroving' doesn't mean that I do/am. i am merely taking in the patterns first before coming to a conclusion. I don't like how people co-relate "Oh wow if you are not agressive asap it just means you are weak and pathetic and no one should take you seriously." Not all of us like to just jump into things.. I don't especially with people (unless it relates to material things im very impulsive) but I like to wait it out I want to catch a PATTERN FIRST before i make my move. I need to KNOW that my suspicions are valid and can be proven by noticing a pattern. I just dont like the misconception that if you are not aggressive aka reacting quickly to things, then that must mean you are weak passive and a doormat. Sorry for ranting. But I dont think cancers dont not stand up for themselves.. They just wait it out.. not that that is bad. I have Pisces in my chart and man people think im a doormat able to fool gullible but im the exact opposite, I just don't like to COME OUT with my real intensions thoughts, I dont like to make it KNOWN that I am actually smart/calculating etc. I do think its true that you gotta watch out for the quiet types. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 1289 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 05, 2011 11:30 PM
That's true, Thanks =)IP: Logged |
Delilah Knowflake Posts: 244 From: U.K. Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 05, 2011 11:47 PM
Two of my friends dated for a while in high school. One is a Cancer (the guy) and the other is a Sagittarius. She treated him like crap and still does. He stands up for himself, but is timid. Every woman he's ever dated has bossed him around and made his life difficult. But to be fair, I think he has a whole lot of crap going on in his birth chart in regards to women.IP: Logged |
AscTaurus Knowflake Posts: 258 From: Pretoria, Gauteng,South Africa Registered: May 2009
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posted November 06, 2011 02:05 AM
I don't think it is necessarily a "sign" thing. Probably more of an aspect thing or whatever.I think I read about this once in psychology; where usually a person who plays "victim" tranfers their anger to someone else. Scenarios include an abused person who goes back to their lover, tranfers the anger they feel towards the abuser to the people she/he cries foul to. The husband/wife who endures an unhappy marriage tranfers this passivity to his/her kids and they ,in turn, attract people that repeat the experiences they had, as kids, within the marriage as adults. A kid who struggles to face up to bullying at school tranfers the anger towards the bullying party to their parents etc.
I usually walk away from such people..... IP: Logged |
Purrr Knowflake Posts: 101 From: Registered: Jun 2011
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posted November 06, 2011 02:50 AM
You should spent a week with me. I'm constantly chewing out the other Cancers in my house about nagging or teasing me. I don't take **** from anyone, really.IP: Logged |
Jounia Knowflake Posts: 290 From: United Kingdom Registered: May 2011
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posted November 06, 2011 06:10 AM
I'm cancer, and i'm known for not taking any ******** ! Although I have to admit, it does surprise me that people see me in that way IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 1289 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 06, 2011 10:02 AM
quote: Originally posted by Delilah: Two of my friends dated for a while in high school. One is a Cancer (the guy) and the other is a Sagittarius. She treated him like crap and still does. He stands up for himself, but is timid. Every woman he's ever dated has bossed him around and made his life difficult. But to be fair, I think he has a whole lot of crap going on in his birth chart in regards to women.
I know a cancer guy like that too and he attracts what he calls "crazy sagittarius women" as well.
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Delilah Knowflake Posts: 244 From: U.K. Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 06, 2011 06:50 PM
quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: I know a cancer guy like that too and he attracts what he calls "crazy sagittarius women" as well.
I don't know if they all have some Sagittarius in their charts, but the last one harassed and threatened to beat up my best friend because she thought they were messing around. She just went through his phone and, I suppose, saw our friend's number in his call log one too many times. He broke up with her for doing that, after he had already been through so much with her. He always dates the most insecure women. He's not bad looking. He's pretty cute, but has the worst taste in women. IP: Logged |