posted November 06, 2011 05:12 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Um, not everyone really wants to be in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with that, contrary to what the original post implies.

Me, I feel zero interest in that and I have a Libra sun, Libra Mercury, Scorpio Venus, Capricorn Mars.

People do choose to be single by choice and for some of us, like me, that's the right choice. Wish that this was understood by more people. This whole "you must have a partner or you're a failure" concept is, frankly, ridiculous and damaging. The idea that people are "avoiding" items on the little checklist of life is problematic for me. Not all of us have the same list. Even if most people have a similar list, it doesn't make those of us with different lists bad in this case.

Romantic love makes SOME people happy. Me, though, I value friendship far more, as well as spiritual love (i.e., love of God and God loving us). Romantic love is something I enjoy watching in opera or ballet, or seeing in other people, but just not something that I would want in real life for myself. I know in my heart and soul that I've made the right choice and feel at peace with it. That's all that I need to be content that I'm on the right path.

Some people who don't want relationships don't do so out of laziness. Some honestly don't want the hassle, don't have time, or, if they're like me, they just don't feel the need or desire for that. No one needs to justify or validate their choice to be single. I genuinely am not saying any of this in a mean or hurtful tone, but I did wish to point out that it's more complicated than "married/partnered good, single bad" or "seeking relationship = worthy, single = something wrong with you".

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Regardes,

posted November 07, 2011 01:12 AM            

Um, not everyone really wants to be in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with that, contrary to what the original post implies.

Me, I feel zero interest in that and I have a Libra sun, Libra Mercury, Scorpio Venus, Capricorn Mars.

People do choose to be single by choice and for some of us, like me, that's the right choice. Wish that this was understood by more people. This whole "you must have a partner or you're a failure" concept is, frankly, ridiculous and damaging. The idea that people are "avoiding" items on the little checklist of life is problematic for me. Not all of us have the same list. Even if most people have a similar list, it doesn't make those of us with different lists bad in this case.

Romantic love makes SOME people happy. Me, though, I value friendship far more, as well as spiritual love (i.e., love of God and God loving us). Romantic love is something I enjoy watching in opera or ballet, or seeing in other people, but just not something that I would want in real life for myself. I know in my heart and soul that I've made the right choice and feel at peace with it. That's all that I need to be content that I'm on the right path.

Some people who don't want relationships don't do so out of laziness. Some honestly don't want the hassle, don't have time, or, if they're like me, they just don't feel the need or desire for that. No one needs to justify or validate their choice to be single. I genuinely am not saying any of this in a mean or hurtful tone, but I did wish to point out that it's more complicated than "married/partnered good, single bad" or "seeking relationship = worthy, single = something wrong with you".

Regardes,

You have northnode in aries and I Have noticed that people who have northnode in aries or in the first house tend to feel comfortable been single and are usually single most of their life. I think this placing means you are here to learn to not rely on others.

Hmmm.... I think that you do have a point but I am in two minds about that statement.

I have Gemini north node and I guess, with Gemini being a social sign, I am supposed to be orientated towards a more social life?

Actualy, crowds make me nervous and I prefer my own company.

But I do reading. I also write a lot. I do talk, but only to a "select" few. I find most people boring.

posted November 07, 2011 01:24 AM            

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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
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I have northnode in gemini too and I don't like crowds....I start to feel a bit claustrophobic. I need a spacious living environment.

And gemini and aqua are both pretty free spirited so I would think that both of these signs wouldn't like crowds if it means they cannot move around and if it makes them feel trapped whether to a certain extent or fully.

But I see what you are saying about not been social and having NN in gemini. I am not super social either and enjoy hanging out in the house or just going with one other person out whether to eat or go for a hike. With social settings involving more than one other person I only do sometimes, I think is bec my nn is in the 7th so is here to practice more one on one relationships than interactions involving groups.

posted November 07, 2011 06:03 AM            

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Originally posted by L0veLess:
What are aspects that can indicate someone either thinks they can go through life without romantic love or that they have a hard time liking anybody or they are too lazy to try to find someone?

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