posted November 06, 2011 08:47 AM            

2. My boyfriend (I will post his chart below along with mine, to show the synastry) behaves the same way my best friend does. We hung out last night, it was great and then he starts sulking or pouting whatever it is called. He just puts his head into the pillow you know kind of like a little boy does so i asked "What's the matter?" and than he just stares at me which kind of made me self-conscious and then he starts saying stuff like "Don't leave me, please?" My best friend does the exact same thing. I asked "What where is this coming from?" he said "Please don't leave me, please." And I asked again "Okay I won't leave you but where is this coming from?" It sounded very painful for him to talk about but he continued with "I have very strong feelings for you and you know.. I don't want you to leave and I don't want you to hurt me so please don't ever leave me. Will you promise me that?" I thought it was the most endearing/saddest thing to hear and see it was as if I was watching a child or something beg his mom /dad not to leave, and than he muttered "I am falling in love with you" and I asked him to speak louder I wanted to be clear on what he just said and then he's like "Oh nothing." Then we continued watching the news, 2 hours later he starts his leg twitch (which to me indicates he is thinking heavily on something, or he has something he wants to talk to me about) and then he starts doing the whole "dont leave me" thing again then he starts telling me "Honestly when I first saw you I wanted to be with you" then we went on about how we first met (I did not mention his weird gift giving of the loaf of bread) but he continued with the insecurity.

I have no idea where it comes from, I don't ever say things like me threatening to leave him or anything like that. I DO think his last girlfriend did something to him even though they broke up a long time ago.. I asked him about it once (i stopped myself from probing too much because he just seemed indifferent about it i didnt know if it was cause he was hurt or what) but he didn't continue about her. But wouldn't it make sense? And then he asked me what I did on Halloween (we were supposed to do something but i cancelled early because of work) i mentioned i went to a party right after and then he asked, "with who??! You went to a party instead of hanging out with me? That really ****** me off a little. I mean you are just lucky i didn't plan anything but it still upsets me. Cause you said you were working not going out after."

Just curious about the cancer placements cause my best friend she is like him too, She randomly calls me and asks me not to stop being friends with her, is always asking me things along the lines of me promising never to end our friendship etc. Where does this come from? Maybe i behave in a way that makes them think I am not interested? I admit I can be devastatingly undemonstrative and unresponsive to certain things he does and she does, when they get personal like that I can be compared to a stone wall.. i just take awhile to process it all and sometimes he doesn't believe me when I say "i care/i like you a lot" I have to reassure him a lot. I guess cause I dont express it so openly like he does and she does. He asked me "Why are you with me?" and I said "Oh wow.." that caught me off guard i didn't really know how to respond, i just said "Well.. hmm.. i will get back to you on that." IT SOUNDS RUDE yes I know it does, but i can create a book on why I'm with him, I just do not know how feel comfortable about it, and b able to just tell someone these things on the spot..Whenever they get like this too I kind of just sit/lay there and say "oh" "okay" im a very slow reactor, i often react very late sometimes too late lol! I have to go home and ponder about it. Am I doing something to make these two think I am not interested in them? I feel a lot inside, sometimes too much but unfortunately it doesn't register on my face or on the surface. I kind of feel very reserved about it, but here's the chart i promised:

posted November 06, 2011 08:57 AM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
cancers do tend to be insecure. Need alot of attention, has a tendency to cheat bc of it.
Always seem to need alot of reassurance, to the point where it gets tiring.

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I read up on this sign but I just thought it wasn't really true. He has a sun in Gemini though and Chiron in Gemini. This is the exact reason why I couldn't believe him when he told me he was a Gemini, its because he has very strong Cancer placements. And with his Cap Mars and Cap rising in house 1, he looks like a very self-efficient person, stoic even, looks like he can take on a lot doesn't need anyone etc always assured but this is not the case. Not when you get to know him at least. Where does it come from though? I understand psychologically we are all insecure about SOMETHING, but is it telling that my best friend too with a Cancer moon behaves the same way he does?

posted November 06, 2011 09:18 AM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Well either that or they keep making comments about how you're just going to leave them for someone else etc. It's kinda annoying actually...Cos I'm a virgo sun with an aries rising, and I find that whining behaviour somewhat melodramatic and irritating.

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posted November 06, 2011 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
I have a Cancer moon and, while I never tell anyone not to leave me, I do worry about people leaving me or bothering people or like they don't *really* like me and secretly find me irritating. It takes me a LONG time to feel comfortable, stable, and secure with people, if I ever do get there.

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How are you like in relationships? Do you have other planets in CanceR? I just never understood the possessiveness/insecurity from cancers.. I know they rule to moon.. but what other explanation is there?