posted November 06, 2011 02:43 PM            

I don't mind when a guy is possessive. Or even clingy, I just can't stand it when it's overdone.

posted November 06, 2011 02:56 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
I use to be more possessive when I was younger because I Had a fear of betrayal (saturn in scorpio). I have confronted this fear and I am no longer jealous or possessive.

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I was always, mentally irritated by possession of some kind. Only cause it just seemed draining and I never wish to possess anyone just things. Having been with a cancer sun before, he was borderline abusive possessive. My bestf friend is a cancer sun/moon scorp venus, she goes out of her way to make any girl that tries to be my "new best friend" miserable. In grade school she was a little bit of a bully because of this habit. And now the guy I am seeing... extremely possessive, it always "what did you do today?" if I mention interaction with a human first thing he asks is "with who? man or a woman?" lol like it matters...? and then he will actually say stuff like "You're my woman only mine nobody else's no one can have you. Ever. Only me!" I dont mind it, only when it's over done and you're being paranoid checking my phone, emails etc....

You mentioned your husband with the cancer placements is he possessive?
Taurus especially wow these folks are possessive damn.

posted November 06, 2011 03:10 PM            

I feel aquarius guys I have dated have taught me about boundaries...respecting boundaries and people's freedoms and I am GRATEFUL for this lessons bc this is something I consciously knew I wanted to learn about. I respect that aquarius demands that their personal space be respected and honored. I think is not a coincidence you are his girlfriend. He has to be attracted to how free and independent you are bc he seems to lack these qualities in himself.

so don't ever let him take away your need for space, freedom or your individuality. I am telling you that is ironically why he is attracted to you!

posted November 06, 2011 04:06 PM            

Nuf said?

O, and the freaking control freak of his Cap moon doesnt help the matter...

posted November 06, 2011 04:16 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Did you mean a moon in Scorpio? Or did you mean Venus in Cancer? It's literally impossible to have a Cancer sun and Scorpio Venus; the wording here was a bit confusing for me--could you please clarify, if that's OK?

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I am a moon in Cancer and Venus in Scorpio (Libra sun and Mercury). I also have Pluto in Scorpio and Jupiter in Pisces, so yeah, my chart is heavy with water, with air and fire being the next most important elements respectively. I can definitely get jealous. I can be a little possessive, but not in the sense of thinking that someone is "mine", especially friends. I just get a little depressed (not serious/non-functioning depression, more like mild disappointment or a dull ache) sometimes because I don't feel special when I'm just one of TONS of people who are connected to someone; I hate it too when I feel like someone is a certain way with everyone because then kindness from that person seems insincere or else just how that person treats everyone and not because that person likes me. I also get frustrated when someone matters more to me than I do to them, which happens often. I tend to get aggravated that people make a difference in my life, but I probably don't matter much to them or have a big positive impact on their lives. So, I guess I'm 'possessive' in the sense of wanting to possess a special place/position. I want to posses "specialness" with people--not to be *the* most important person to someone, but to be someone who does matter and who is important/"special". I'm trying to wrap my head around the concept of a lot of people being able to be special and memorable to someone, just in different ways. I get the same frustrations with God: I struggle at times to find that relationship special because if *everyone* is special, who's REALLY special? I tend to see "special" as "exclusiveness" or "rarity", so I'm trying to open my mind to different concepts of what "special" can mean.

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You sound so NN in the 5th ........I want you to stop thinking you are not special and people don't notice you. The day you retrain your brain to have thoughts that are different from the ones you have now you will notice that you energy will change and this in turn will attract that special attention you seek. The key is changing your thinking and this will change your energy and what you attract.

Hubby has northnode and venus in leo and I have venus and mars in leo so we both are a bit high maintenance in wanting attention from our significant other which we give to each other plenty. However I notice that socially he has this need to shine and my venus and mars in leo has had to step back to let him shine more since he is here for that reason..I need to nourish and respect this need he has if I want him to grow as a person.

Let yourself transform into a butterfly regardes!

posted November 06, 2011 05:27 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
You are an aquarius woman. Your boyfriend is going to HAVE to learn to be less possessive or he will lose you. I don't see how you are going to to put up with this longterm. He may be getting away with it now but only for so long.

I feel aquarius guys I have dated have taught me about boundaries...respecting boundaries and people's freedoms and I am GRATEFUL for this lessons bc this is something I consciously knew I wanted to learn about. I respect that aquarius demands that their personal space be respected and honored. I think is not a coincidence you are his girlfriend. He has to be attracted to how free and independent you are bc he seems to lack these qualities in himself.

so don't ever let him take away your need for space, freedom or your individuality. I am telling you that is ironically why he is attracted to you!

Teach him about boundaries and make it clear that he does not own you and that you want a relationship were he trusts you and gives your space or is not going to work longterm.

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posted November 06, 2011 06:43 PM            

When I confronted him though, he said "I don't wanna say because you should know why I reacted that way!"

He never hesitates to ask who guys are in my phone list, but if it's a girl he won't ask. He tries to act like he isn't possessive but he is. Once he even told a girl/friend of mine off when she took me home when I got drunk. He snapped and told her "you are an outsider, I am her boyfriend, you are not her family or someone close to her so you won't understand (why I'm mad)"

It's ok, I like possessiveness

posted November 06, 2011 07:14 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
yeah hubby is possessive and is bc of his mars in scorpio in the 7th and his moon in cancer. This balances out a bit with his venus square uranus and his uranus in the 7th luckily.

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woah in houses dealing with marriage/partnership

posted November 06, 2011 09:32 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Did you mean a moon in Scorpio? Or did you mean Venus in Cancer? It's literally impossible to have a Cancer sun and Scorpio Venus; the wording here was a bit confusing for me--could you please clarify, if that's OK?

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I am a moon in Cancer and Venus in Scorpio (Libra sun and Mercury). I also have Pluto in Scorpio and Jupiter in Pisces, so yeah, my chart is heavy with water, with air and fire being the next most important elements respectively. I can definitely get jealous. I can be a little possessive, but not in the sense of thinking that someone is "mine", especially friends. I just get a little depressed (not serious/non-functioning depression, more like mild disappointment or a dull ache) sometimes because I don't feel special when I'm just one of TONS of people who are connected to someone; I hate it too when I feel like someone is a certain way with everyone because then kindness from that person seems insincere or else just how that person treats everyone and not because that person likes me. I also get frustrated when someone matters more to me than I do to them, which happens often. I tend to get aggravated that people make a difference in my life, but I probably don't matter much to them or have a big positive impact on their lives. So, I guess I'm 'possessive' in the sense of wanting to possess a special place/position. I want to posses "specialness" with people--not to be *the* most important person to someone, but to be someone who does matter and who is important/"special". I'm trying to wrap my head around the concept of a lot of people being able to be special and memorable to someone, just in different ways. I get the same frustrations with God: I struggle at times to find that relationship special because if *everyone* is special, who's REALLY special? I tend to see "special" as "exclusiveness" or "rarity", so I'm trying to open my mind to different concepts of what "special" can mean.

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posted November 07, 2011 06:13 AM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
From exp it seems to be cancer and people with cancer in personal planets. Taurus, and Scorpio too... While Aquarius wants to mentally possess you, it seems that cancer Scorpio and Taurus are all about physical possessions.. Cancer is very possessive once they want/have you they literally believe you belong to them for life.. same with Scorpios lol! They are both water signs too once they pinch into you they won't ever let go. Ever.

I don't mind when a guy is possessive. Or even clingy, I just can't stand it when it's overdone.

In your exp what signs have been extremely posessive (or not)? Did you like it? are YOU possessive? you can list planets in signs as well !

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To me it's a toss up between Taurus and Scorpio.

posted November 07, 2011 01:10 PM            

But that's just me. If the other person is supah faithful and likes to be possessed, then sure, I'll do that for them.

posted November 08, 2011 09:41 AM            

Naturally I exhibit aggression and some jealousy, but it is subdued by all the Capricorn I have in my chart as well. As an Aqua sun I feel like I have to pull the optimism out of my inner cage But pertaining to possessivenes it boils underneath because the Aquarian detachment still reigns externally when I make the conscious effort to tame emotions.