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Topic: Taurus men - why do they think possessiveness is healthy?
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lindisfarne
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posted November 13, 2011 10:54 PM
  
Ok, I'm friends with a guy and his girlfriend is my close friend. He's a Taurus, she's a Scorpio. We went out to celebrate her birthday tonight and.... well. This is what happened. We were at this bar and grill all of her Friends etc and he wanted to come later. I texted him to come by now, and my Scorpio friend asked him to bring her MacBook while he is on his way. (No idea who wants to bring a MacBook into a bar lol) And then he texts back "Did she get my message?" I said "no her phone died, come by now." He texted back "..ok" I knew he was upset for some reason by his reply. So 20 minutes later he walks in and doesn't look at her. Instead he quickly says hi to everyone and doesnt smile. I knew he was ****** off, all he said was "Sup britt." And then he throws his girlfriends (my scorpio friend) MacBook on the table and storms out. I said "Damn what happened just now?" you could literally feel the tension when he walked in.. and she chases after him. She returns livid, I asked if she was alright and she said she was. But she obviously wasn't as she was very quiet and seemed upset the entire night. Her mood went down and I knew something big happened, as an Aquarian I kind of overstepped her boundaries by asking her what happened even though she clearly didn't wanna talk.. I couldn't help myself I was too curious.. And then he texts me "Tell her it's over." I said "What!?!" and then he calls her, they start yelling. And than she tells me how he has been snooping on her computer and saw some guy write to her on skype "Please love me. like I do" and apparently this was a joke between them? he confronted her at the party and pushed her off of him and yelled "I hate a fkng liar! You're cheating on me! F you, f this, you've been doing this sht awhile now and I'm finally trusting you and then you go talk to some guy? f you!" My friend opened her laptop and saw that he purposely left windows open, her Facebook messages, email inbox, he even google "how to uncover deleted messages from face book." My Taurus friend, has openly told me he doesn't trust his girlfriend. Her whole birthday was ruined because of it. But I was told more about the story. My Scorpio friend had a habit of "talking" to guys and my Taurus friend is extremely jealous and possessive he would flip out like have this rages about it. The time he found out she was skyping guys (yes I had a talk with her about doing this so he undertands why it looks bad) he flipped his lid. He constantly tells me "I do not trust Megan. Not at all." I asked "Why you with her?" "I love her but I don't trust her. She talks to guys and doesn't get it." Are Taurus men THIS possessive? I've spoken to him and he even tries to dictate MY relationship! He says "Posesssiveness is normal and healthy, and if I was your boyfriend I wouldn't trust you. You talk to guys, just like Megan. Good thing you're not my gf." We even got into an argument. I told him "I'm allowed to have male friends. I'm a loyal lover, just because I have friends doesn't mean I'm going to cheat." he told me "That's wrong you shouldn't be talking to any guys when you have a boyfriend. Why do you need to anyway? you have a boyfriend." He doesn't understand why I go out sometimes and hang out with guys (yes women are there too but I'm a guy-girl I get along Better with men then women. doesn't mean we are going to fornicate.) and thinks I will give my boyfriend trust issues. See he likes to dictate my own relationships! He thinks snooping is normal too... He thinks in a relationship he should have access to everything, EVERYTHING. I've heard of the Taurus population being posessive but my friend tonight seems extreme. He snoops through her phone computer looks through everything just to make sure she's not doing anything. Is that even healthy? IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 13, 2011 11:07 PM
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I wouldn't trust you. You talk to guys, just like Megan.
There's a nice little community of people somewhere in Africa.. where there are social rules about men and women communicating -- and in fact men and women *never* talk to each other. I can't remember what their tribe was called. I'll look it up! I think he should consider moving there. :edit: Well I looked this up and I can't find this particular tribe.. but it seems this is also the case in some Islamic countries and parts of Mexico. More great places for him to relocate to! I think you should suggest this next time! IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 13, 2011 11:13 PM
You see Lindisfarne... the thing about some home sapiens is - it seems as though they have a "brain", biologically-speaking... but this is actually an illusion.. because in many ways their brain is "missing".
So, of course if someone is unable to use their intellectual faculties and detach from their own penis.. it will be very difficult for such a person to understand that *others* can and do. It's much like other animals.. with lower IQ levels.. They are born to reproduce and die. In a sense - so are we... but we (as a species) have a much more complex system of social interaction and a rich/varied psychological life. Nonetheless --- there are those unfortunate cases (sometimes due to lack of education) who have not evolved enough to be at this level. IP: Logged |
Malena
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posted November 13, 2011 11:39 PM
Some signs are more possessive than others... but that particular dude is straight up nuts.My former boss was a Taurus Sun who PROUDLY told us "I don't let my wife use Facebook." He literally forbid her to sign up for it because, according to him, she would get too obsessed with it. However, HE was on Facebook, and so was the 24-year-old girl in our office he was brazenly having an affair with. Why do you think he REALLY kept his wife off Facebook? So she wouldn't friend him and see all the messages he was exchanging with the other woman. That way his Taurus need for security wouldn't be upset by a pesky divorce. He was actually a pretty nice guy in a lot of ways, but definitely acted controlling toward his wife in order to get what he wanted. I felt bad for her. Edit: I'm not saying all Taurus guys are like this. I think whenever an individual feels insecure, they will often act out the dark side of their sign. In Taurus' case, that can include possessive/controlling behavior toward loved ones. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 13, 2011 11:54 PM
What about Taurus ASC?IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted November 14, 2011 12:30 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
He snoops through her phone computer looks through everything just to make sure she's not doing anything. Is that even healthy?
Automatic dump.IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 14, 2011 12:44 AM
Did this incident happen on the full moon?IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 14, 2011 01:00 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I think he should consider moving there.
LMAO...........!!!!
I second her sentiment  .
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amelia28
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posted November 14, 2011 01:06 AM
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Originally posted by Malena:
Some signs are more possessive than others... but that particular dude is straight up nuts.My former boss was a Taurus Sun who PROUDLY told us "I don't let my wife use Facebook." He literally forbid her to sign up for it because, according to him, she would get too obsessed with it. However, HE was on Facebook, and so was the 24-year-old girl in our office he was brazenly having an affair with. Why do you think he REALLY kept his wife off Facebook? So she wouldn't friend him and see all the messages he was exchanging with the other woman. That way his Taurus need for security wouldn't be upset by a pesky divorce. He was actually a pretty nice guy in a lot of ways, but definitely acted controlling toward his wife in order to get what he wanted. I felt bad for her. Edit: I'm not saying all Taurus guys are like this. I think whenever an individual feels insecure, they will often act out the dark side of their sign. In Taurus' case, that can include possessive/controlling behavior toward loved ones.
I have met some Tauras guys who are really nice, loyal and would make good husbands but have also met through friends (never dated one myself) quite a handful who have double standards about cheating. One of them had a cancer girlfriend who caught him (taurus) making out with a stripper at his house and she beat up the stripper and stayed with him. This guy cheats repeatedly on her and she stays with him but if she were to cheat on him it would be unaccaptable ofcourse (double standards).
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lindisfarne
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posted November 14, 2011 01:43 AM
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Originally posted by Lonake:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by lindisfarne:
[b]He snoops through her phone computer looks through everything just to make sure she's not doing anything. Is that even healthy?
Automatic dump.[/B][/QUOTE]Lol that's what I said! Wow I feel bad cause i never knew he was THAT insecure!! If a guy snooped through my things like my email especially wow it's over! IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 14, 2011 01:47 AM
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Originally posted by Malena:
Some signs are more possessive than others... but that particular dude is straight up nuts.My former boss was a Taurus Sun who PROUDLY told us "I don't let my wife use Facebook." He literally forbid her to sign up for it because, according to him, she would get too obsessed with it. However, HE was on Facebook, and so was the 24-year-old girl in our office he was brazenly having an affair with. Why do you think he REALLY kept his wife off Facebook? So she wouldn't friend him and see all the messages he was exchanging with the other woman. That way his Taurus need for security wouldn't be upset by a pesky divorce. He was actually a pretty nice guy in a lot of ways, but definitely acted controlling toward his wife in order to get what he wanted. I felt bad for her. Edit: I'm not saying all Taurus guys are like this. I think whenever an individual feels insecure, they will often act out the dark side of their sign. In Taurus' case, that can include possessive/controlling behavior toward loved ones.
WOW what an asssshole!! Poor woman. Does she know at all?
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Delilah
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posted November 14, 2011 01:51 AM
*Shudders* I had problems with a Taurus guy I wasn't even dating (he will officially be out of my life after this week. I hope the door smacks him hard where the good Lord split him). He was just a crush until he became a vampire, sucking happiness out of me and completely destroying my days. I actually thought he was a psychopath until I found out his birth date. Whenever he saw me talking to someone else, he would give me this look like I had no right to talk to anyone but him. Whether I was talking to a man or woman, it didn't matter. I don't think he liked me, but was just possessive by nature. He has a short temper that is famous. The smallest thing sets him off and you never want to be around when it happens. He doesn't yell, but gets off on pointing out other people's mistakes. He'll use every word in the dictionary to call someone stupid or lazy without using those exact words. Oh! The snooping prick once brought up something in conversation that he could not have known without looking at my file. Another time he asked me questions about my life that I knew he already knew. He denied knowing it, but what he asked was so specific. I'm starting to think that maybe Taurus is Venus's dark sign. I'd rather deal with Scorpio's intensity than this. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted November 14, 2011 01:58 AM
^ At least she knows what she's dealing with. To think there are people like that who do it in secret. Shudder.
A few (which is to say all) of the Taurus Moons I have dated, exactly the same to varying degrees. Holds me closer when a guy walks by who is checking me out, my reaction to the insecurity 'gtfo', another not keen like that one on me having male friends, not keen on me not calling for 2 days cos that means I'm cheating. Enough. Not even the Scorps I dated were like that. Sheesh.IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 14, 2011 02:15 AM
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Originally posted by Lonake:
^ At least she knows what she's dealing with. To think there are people like that who do it in secret. Shudder.
A few (which is to say all) of the Taurus Moons I have dated, exactly the same to varying degrees. Holds me closer when a guy walks by who is checking me out, my reaction to the insecurity 'gtfo', another not keen like that one on me having male friends, not keen on me not calling for 2 days cos that means I'm cheating. Enough. Not even the Scorps I dated were like that. Sheesh.
Lol@ the "holdin me closer when a guy walks by"
wow my guy does that sometimes but he has earthy cap in his chart. You know I don't know why Scorpios are infamous for obsessiveness, possessiveness behavior it kind of leans more on Taurus placements... the fact that my friend thinks its healthy/normal is what shocks me. I understand a mans need to not want anyone around his woman. It's normal, evolution. But he snoops! He looks for things!that's just wrong.. no privacy!!! now I won't even bother texting my friend specific things because he will probably go and read them...
I can NEVER date anyone like him!!!!!!!
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Lonake
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posted November 14, 2011 02:20 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
now I won't even bother texting my friend specific things because he will probably go and read them...
Eww he's a controlling b!tch. If she's still with him it must be the sex or her low self esteem (sorry). Then again there are people who luv it when their partner is possessive like that........... Maybe the Scorp risings 
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Intense_Aquavixen
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posted November 14, 2011 02:32 AM
I feel so bad for your gf...He didn't give a d*** about saving that argument for later, just flew off in rage and ruined her birthday.I dated one Taurus who scared me enough to not want to even deal with another one. No way... IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 14, 2011 02:53 AM
My ex husband married a woman (I use the term loosely) she is a Scorp sun Taurus moon. We have a 12 year old together, he met this woman when our daughter was 4. He is no longer in my daughters life. That's because my daughter lives with me, his ex. And for him to see his daughter would mean that he would have to communicate with me. So theyr'e estranged. He is also banned from speaking with his mother, brother, 2 sisters and any of his mates from his childhood. AND she moved him 6 hours away where no one can touch him. He is a shadow of his former self, he looks like hell, so miserable. She also convinced him to declare himself bankrupt so that he pretty much cannot leave her. She is all he has.IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 14, 2011 03:02 AM
And needless to say, he doesn't pay me a cent.IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 14, 2011 03:43 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Ok, I'm friends with a guy and his girlfriend is my close friend. He's a Taurus, she's a Scorpio. We went out to celebrate her birthday tonight and.... well. This is what happened. We were at this bar and grill all of her Friends etc and he wanted to come later. I texted him to come by now, and my Scorpio friend asked him to bring her MacBook while he is on his way. (No idea who wants to bring a MacBook into a bar lol) And then he texts back "Did she get my message?" I said "no her phone died, come by now." He texted back "..ok" I knew he was upset for some reason by his reply. So 20 minutes later he walks in and doesn't look at her. Instead he quickly says hi to everyone and doesnt smile. I knew he was ****** off, all he said was "Sup britt." And then he throws his girlfriends (my scorpio friend) MacBook on the table and storms out. I said "Damn what happened just now?" you could literally feel the tension when he walked in.. and she chases after him. She returns livid, I asked if she was alright and she said she was. But she obviously wasn't as she was very quiet and seemed upset the entire night. Her mood went down and I knew something big happened, as an Aquarian I kind of overstepped her boundaries by asking her what happened even though she clearly didn't wanna talk.. I couldn't help myself I was too curious.. And then he texts me "Tell her it's over." I said "What!?!" and then he calls her, they start yelling. And than she tells me how he has been snooping on her computer and saw some guy write to her on skype "Please love me. like I do" and apparently this was a joke between them? he confronted her at the party and pushed her off of him and yelled "I hate a fkng liar! You're cheating on me! F you, f this, you've been doing this sht awhile now and I'm finally trusting you and then you go talk to some guy? f you!" My friend opened her laptop and saw that he purposely left windows open, her Facebook messages, email inbox, he even google "how to uncover deleted messages from face book." My Taurus friend, has openly told me he doesn't trust his girlfriend. Her whole birthday was ruined because of it. But I was told more about the story. My Scorpio friend had a habit of "talking" to guys and my Taurus friend is extremely jealous and possessive he would flip out like have this rages about it. The time he found out she was skyping guys (yes I had a talk with her about doing this so he undertands why it looks bad) he flipped his lid. He constantly tells me "I do not trust Megan. Not at all." I asked "Why you with her?" "I love her but I don't trust her. She talks to guys and doesn't get it." Are Taurus men THIS possessive? I've spoken to him and he even tries to dictate MY relationship! He says "Posesssiveness is normal and healthy, and if I was your boyfriend I wouldn't trust you. You talk to guys, just like Megan. Good thing you're not my gf." We even got into an argument. I told him "I'm allowed to have male friends. I'm a loyal lover, just because I have friends doesn't mean I'm going to cheat." he told me "That's wrong you shouldn't be talking to any guys when you have a boyfriend. Why do you need to anyway? you have a boyfriend." He doesn't understand why I go out sometimes and hang out with guys (yes women are there too but I'm a guy-girl I get along Better with men then women. doesn't mean we are going to fornicate.) and thinks I will give my boyfriend trust issues. See he likes to dictate my own relationships! He thinks snooping is normal too... He thinks in a relationship he should have access to everything, EVERYTHING. I've heard of the Taurus population being posessive but my friend tonight seems extreme. He snoops through her phone computer looks through everything just to make sure she's not doing anything. Is that even healthy?
That's not typical. He's just bat5h1t crazy. IP: Logged |
Delilah
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posted November 14, 2011 10:05 AM
Oh, forgot to mention that he was quite rude to one of my friends after he saw us talking one day. He didn't know that we were friends and they got along quite well until one day he started speaking to her like she was an idiot. She was really hurt by it and didn't understand why he just flipped like that. I still say that he's crazy and his behavior doesn't/didn't help with the generalizations of Taurus.IP: Logged |
skegeegirl
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posted November 14, 2011 06:45 PM
The Taurus in my life is acting like nut job to a degree. And I'm not liking it!  IP: Logged |
Malena
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posted November 14, 2011 09:30 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
WOW what an asssshole!! Poor woman. Does she know at all?
Unfortunately I don't know, because once I left that job I pretty much fell out of contact (I didn't "cut them off" directly but I was really, really, really glad to be away from the drama and didn't want to poke the crazy again). The last I heard, the guy's wife hadn't found out. :/ IP: Logged |
sand
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posted November 15, 2011 03:06 AM
ack ima taurus sun with scorp rising. *hides* i can only be detached with someone i am not into. though i don't snoop around or get jealous. must be the leo moon or something else.IP: Logged |
Xiiro
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posted November 15, 2011 09:45 AM
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Originally posted by sand:
ack ima taurus sun with scorp rising. *hides* i can only be detached with someone i am not into. though i don't snoop around or get jealous. must be the leo moon or something else.
My last relationship-thing was with a Taurus Sun - Scorpio ASC. He was super possessive like the OP's Taurus, but he never expressed any of it outwardly. He would just brood and expect me to pick up on his signals. I guess it worked for so long, because I am good at picking up on people's signals LOL. One day he just blew up and started spouting off all this crap that he never communicated, but expected me to just know. I was offended that we had been together for so long and all that time he was doing crap like "agreeing to suggestions I made (that completely took him out of his comfort zone), because he thought that was romantic". It would have all been well and good if he had just sat down and talked with me about it, but he decided to freak out and accuse me of doing stuff I had no clue I was doing. Super unhealthy relationship, though I am positive that was due to a lot more than his Sun and ASC. =D IP: Logged |
sand
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posted November 16, 2011 04:46 AM
^LOL i do brood a lil bit. guilty hehe! also no air. maybe that's why i've relied on sun- moon connections for most of my relationships. like taurus sun to taurus moon or my leo moon to her leo sun. IP: Logged |
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