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From: won't_disclose
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posted November 16, 2011 05:15 PM            

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Well, I'm on this online dating site and sometimes I respond to messages people send me.
That guy, an Aqua, asked me if I like a particular song, which in all honesty I told him I find it stupid (and apologized for my directness but he asked my opinion and there it was). And I wrote a bit about my view of this type of questions (Aqua rising here), i.e. I find it almost childish to respond to such questions about my "favorite" music, my favorite book, and so on so forth. I have lots of favorites and honestly they change every week; I'm a very open-minded person and with few extreme exceptions (where I have reasons to reject before I ever try it), I will try anything once.

Other guys would have come back to write something insulting, or demeaning, or offensive. Most guys do. And I simply block them; who wants to read their sorry a**.

But this Aqua Sun, responded to my message with a message of his own and now we have a highly intellectual exchange of opinions on the topic. LOL I don't know if it's better or worse, but it's surely is typical Aqua.

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From: won't_disclose
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posted November 16, 2011 05:16 PM            

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oops typo on the title and can't edit it...
I meant to type: "fashion" (not "fasgion").

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posted November 16, 2011 05:25 PM            

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The impersonal-ness does have its advantages!

I also think it's silly to base matches on favorite movies/musical selection. How is one supposed to grow from a relationship with your carbon copy, first of all....and secondly, as you pointed out, these "favorites" are dynamic. And anyway, a lot of people seem to list every movie as their favorite so I doubt anyone cares to read through the whole thing.

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posted November 16, 2011 05:36 PM            

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Exactly, and at 41 (soon to be 42 yikes) I find it such an unappealing way for a man to approach me. Kudos to him for responding with his view instead of being the same with the rest of the crowd. But yeah what a turn-off to be asked about music like we're in High School.

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posted November 16, 2011 09:49 PM            

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I have Aquarius rising and can relate to this. Well, I have mercury in Aries so when people ask me questions that I find stupid or whatever (which happens a lot in my age group since I'm a typical young, broke college kid) I get really sarcastic, nasty or rude. That seems pretty aquarian to me though (his response...turning it into a intellectual debate).

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posted November 17, 2011 04:02 AM            

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Yes, I love how he turned it into an intellectual debate, exactly.
I even gave in and suggested a song I like, with the subtext that if he likes it too, it doesn't say much to me about him... lol
I just can't relate to this kind of small talk... I know a million other people would have no problems with this type of thing, but I just I'm not in that million I guess.
His reaction won me over though.

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posted November 18, 2011 12:14 AM            

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Sounds pretty cool

I'm pretty good at small talk, as long as it has an aim or direction and not just random pointless talk, if ya know what I mean :P

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