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Topic: Relationships & Venus Placements
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cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 12:51 PM
  
I have venus in aquarius:A person who has the Venus Sign Aquarius oftentimes finds that he or she would rather have a meaningful friendship than to become involved in a flowery relationship. while I find that to be true, in typical capricorn fashion (sun, mercury & mars) & with a taurus rising, I also crave security & stability.
"You like life to be predictable and in your relationships, you want to know that your partner is loyal and that your partnership will be a long one." At times I find it hard to integrate this because I find it that it unbalances itself in certain situations especially since I have been in a long term relationship. My SO also has a venus in aquarius so at least we see things in a similiar light in regards to relating to each other. So my question is, do you find that your venus sign works against your ego (sun) in certain situations? IP: Logged |
Intense_Aquavixen
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posted November 17, 2011 01:04 PM
I've been talking about a Cap that I know with a similar placement, on here for the past week. He's Cap Venus Aqua, I am Aqua Venus Cap. Frankly I "get" him and all but due to my natal aspects being so prominent in Earth & Water, I'm the one craving attachment way more than that guy is. I know for a fact he's totally confused, at least for now. Maybe he still needs much more time to figure himself out. I mean aspects that counter one another such as this Aqua battle (known for that air of detachment), can pose confusion...I'm an Aqua sun so I know all too well about "freedom" because that needs to be felt to some extent  IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 01:14 PM
My SO is a cap with a venus aquarius, too & I find his behavior stranger than mine sometimes. I don't try to read too much into because the male/female dynamics are always going to be different. He has a venus rx trine pluto rx and also a venus square uranus so that's a huge monkey wrench for him. I enjoy the freedom side of it all but sometimes I need the reassurance of fidelity which he doesn't find necessary after two years. he says its all in the actions but I think that as women we like to hear it too. It takes a very secure woman to deal with a capricorn man! lol IP: Logged |
athenegoddess
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posted November 17, 2011 01:18 PM
Yes, mine surley does! My Venus in Gemini is sometimes too crazy for my Cancer Sun. But I manage.IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 01:18 PM
it seems like its not fair sometimes, lol! IP: Logged |
athenegoddess
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posted November 17, 2011 01:23 PM
I just want to talk to many people at once, yet I crave stability and one true love. I want to be free and open, yet I want to be sheltered and protected. Haha.IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 01:28 PM
When I get the attention, intimacy & stability,I get restless and want to run away. Sometimes I just have to dig my heels in and just enjoy it because I can have a tendency to sabotage it...that creates a wedge sometimes. IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 17, 2011 01:29 PM
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Originally posted by cappy1277:
I have venus in aquarius:A person who has the Venus Sign Aquarius oftentimes finds that he or she would rather have a meaningful friendship than to become involved in a flowery relationship. while I find that to be true, in typical capricorn fashion (sun, mercury & mars) & with a taurus rising, I also crave security & stability.
"You like life to be predictable and in your relationships, you want to know that your partner is loyal and that your partnership will be a long one." At times I find it hard to integrate this because I find it that it unbalances itself in certain situations especially since I have been in a long term relationship. My SO also has a venus in aquarius so at least we see things in a similiar light in regards to relating to each other. So my question is, do you find that your venus sign works against your ego (sun) in certain situations?
No, honestly in fact I'm grateful because I think my Venus sign kind of mitigates and balances out my sun. I don't think the sun rises and sets out of my own @$$ and feel like everything is about me the way some Leos might, and it makes me a lot less attention-seeking. I think it makes me more capable of real give and take and a lot less prone to narcissism and self-absorption. IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 01:32 PM
do you have a cancer venus BelligerentPygmy? IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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From: New England
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 17, 2011 01:54 PM
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Cappy1277: So my question is, do you find that your venus sign works against your ego (sun) in certain situations?
I have Venus in Leo and I think my Sun works in harmony with my Venus because my Sun is in Libra and Venus rules my Sun. Libra loves love, Leo loves love, all you need is love. Love and relationships take precedence in my life and if anything that's magnified by my Venus in Leo. The desires of my Sun and Venus are in harmony! IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted November 17, 2011 02:01 PM
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Originally posted by cappy1277:
So my question is, do you find that your venus sign works against your ego (sun) in certain situations?
I love that my Venus is compatible w.my Sun. I would be prettty upset if it wasn't lol. I see what other people go through.
What does not rub me the right way is that I have DSC in a masculine sign w.Sun/Moon/Venus in feminine signs. They're not happy w.the Uranus influenced men I attract, to say the least.IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 02:28 PM
I have a scorpio descendant so I do attract the dark scorpionic men in my life. I'm seeing a pattern that it seems to be hard to adjust to having an air venus. IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 17, 2011 02:35 PM
that's a nice mutual reception nativelyjoan...that makes a healthy balance for you. IP: Logged |
cappy1277
Moderator Posts: 1239
From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted November 17, 2011 03:56 PM
@intense- how long have you've been dealing with your cappy man? I'm wondering if it's hard for a cap to deal with an aquarius venus and it makes us indecisive in the direction that we go in relationships. For me personally, being committed or in a relationship is purely a semantical thing being that nothing would really change my actions in a relationship ex: being more clingy or controlling, asking for more, etc. But the thought of actually feeling like we are in one makes us feel hemmed in. But two adults relating to each other in a physical intimate way is a relationship regardless of the direction that it takes....am I confusing anyone with yet with gemini moon yet? LolIP: Logged |
frankie2912
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From: yep,ks,usa
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posted November 17, 2011 04:00 PM
ohhhhh yeahmy Venus is in Scorpio and my Sun in Capricorn....
my Venus makes me want intense relationships but also makes me extremely jealous, possessive, and destructive in my romantic relationships. i'm not even the same person anymore once a relationship like that is established.
my Sun wants to be cool, a little detached, and I sure as hell don't NEED a man for ANYTHING so relationships and all the emotions that come along with it just bug the crap out of me and i usually end the relationship abruptly. my Sagittarius moon plays into this as well, because my Moon loooooves freedom, despite Venus' clinging desires. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 17, 2011 04:21 PM
@cappy1227I too have Venus in Aquarius. I'm also Cappy for Sun, Mars and Mercury. Friendships are immensely important to me. They form the basis of any relationship for me. I have a couple of close friends who I adore but those weren't relationships. I also have previos relationships that are still good friends. So, I never managed to have a relationship where there isn't an overwhelming majority of hobbies in common. I do go to the mall shopping with my wife and honestly can buy her clothes and makeup without her presence. She also shares almost all my hobbies, and it isn't like she's trying to accommodate my hobbies. She is my best friend. IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 17, 2011 05:11 PM
I have Venus in Aries, but a Gemini rising and a Taurus moon. It makes for very conflicting wants and needs, esp. being able to sense what others need and want and wanting to make them happy.IP: Logged |
starfox
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From: London England
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posted November 17, 2011 05:36 PM
Venus Aqua here too, I want to be friends with everyone, even people I know I should probably avoid.. My last relationship lasted three years until it broke up, before that I stayed on my own for many years, I had had enough of the troubles of love. IP: Logged |
appleberry
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posted November 18, 2011 02:43 AM
I have Venus in Aquarius (5th) but I've read that we actually have difficulty feeling close to people- and that sounds about right to me... I have a lot of difficulty making close relationships... I really hate Venus in Aquarius because of this... I want to feel close to people  IP: Logged |
racole12
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posted November 18, 2011 03:05 AM
frankie2912 I have the same issue...Venus in Scp... 4 planets in Sag- Merc (ASC ruler), Neptune, Sun and Mars... if the guy can get thru the first month, my Sag energy starts kicking in. lol IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted November 18, 2011 04:36 AM
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bluegreyeyes
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From: NC
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 18, 2011 10:29 AM
quote:
Originally posted by cappy1277:
I have venus in aquarius:A person who has the Venus Sign Aquarius oftentimes finds that he or she would rather have a meaningful friendship than to become involved in a flowery relationship. while I find that to be true, in typical capricorn fashion (sun, mercury & mars) & with a taurus rising, I also crave security & stability.
"You like life to be predictable and in your relationships, you want to know that your partner is loyal and that your partnership will be a long one." At times I find it hard to integrate this because I find it that it unbalances itself in certain situations especially since I have been in a long term relationship. My SO also has a venus in aquarius so at least we see things in a similiar light in regards to relating to each other. So my question is, do you find that your venus sign works against your ego (sun) in certain situations?
I have venus in Aqua as well as my Sun. I tend to really struggle with intimate relationships... and I'm a lot more comfortable when things start of platonic or through friendship. My biggest issue is trust - if I have the slightest feelings for someone, I immediately put them to the test and will see how far I can "push" them. It's awful but for me, I can't be comfortable unless I'm secure with trusting the other person. My "cold" aqua detachment makes impossible to be flirty & intimate right away, I can be super friendly but there's a huge wall up. I am beginning to hate my aqua venus, it's such a challenge for me...I struggle constantly with whether I'm cut out for "love" or not ------------------
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bluegreyeyes
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posted November 18, 2011 10:30 AM
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Originally posted by appleberry:
I have Venus in Aquarius (5th) but I've read that we actually have difficulty feeling close to people- and that sounds about right to me... I have a lot of difficulty making close relationships... I really hate Venus in Aquarius because of this... I want to feel close to people
Venus in Aqua (12th) -- I couldn't have said this better myself! There should be relationship rehab or therapy with aqua in venus placements! ------------------
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starmoon
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posted November 18, 2011 10:57 AM
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Originally posted by bluegreyeyes:
Venus in Aqua (12th) -- I couldn't have said this better myself! There should be relationship rehab or therapy with aqua in venus placements!
and their partners as well... this is a tough placement for both sides IP: Logged |
cappy1277
Moderator Posts: 1239
From: philadelphia,pa
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posted November 18, 2011 03:26 PM
lol- relationship rehab for venus in aquarius to also include a 12 step program.  my partner and I both have venus in aquarius so I am getting some insight to my own behavior. @regardesplatero- You gave me a whole new perspective on the friend angle. that makes a whole lot of sense. it was like a light bulb going off. i find myself testing my SO sometimes. little niggling things but he also does the same thing to me. maybe its a cap thing too.
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