posted November 19, 2011 06:27 PM            

I was under the impression that Scorpio and Taurus' relationship was perfect. Whenever they were around Aquarius (me) they would act like the cutest happiest couple. Fast forward 3 months after, Taurus shows up at Aquarius' work (where he used to work, and where Scorpio currently works, Taurus got both of them the job). He asks Aquarius if she can go on her break now, she agrees. They start talking catching up, and she asks "How is Scorpio? Have not seen her here for awhile and she doesn't seem to be picking up." Taurus says "I don't know, I don't trust her. I have 0 trust in her." Aquarius replies startled with, "Oh.. (desperately wants to ask what is going on, you know Aquarius is a little TOO nosey..) Why do you not trust her? I thought you guys were happy?" Taurus lets Aquarius into his car and they talk for a little over 30 minutes. Taurus confides in Aquarius that Scorpio has been cheating on him emotionally with a lot of guys, and that he needed to find out through "hunches" and all his hunches were confirmed by him snooping and when he confronted Scorpio, she denied all of it. Aquarius felt very awkward about what he had told her, she was friends with the two of them and knowing such information irritated her, but she kept quiet.

Fast forward a month later, Taurus shows up to Scorpio's birthday dinner enraged by the information he found of Scorpios Macbook, she had continued to emotionally cheat on him with the same guy that caused problems for them earlier, she promised that she would lose contact with this man but has obviously lied. Taurus yells at Scorpio and the two get into a very heated argument. Scorpio goes to Aquarius for comfort and just like taurus, Scorpio tells Aquarius all of her worries and relationship troubles. Aquarius again, felt very awkward and irritated because she had no idea what to say or do. She knew the answer "You two are toxic for each other, end the relationship." But there was no way she was getting her hands went in all of this.

Lately Taurus has been attempting to spend a lot more time with Aquarius. Aquarius has hidden the fact from Scorpio that sometimes Taurus will "bump" into Aquarius at specific places knowingly and attempt to take her out, pay for things etc. There was even a time when Taurus sent Aquarius late night calls to see him as he wanted to "talk"(aka drink and 'kick it') Aquarius knew it was inappropriate and declined. She felt awkward that, "Why would he ask me to hangout without scorpio around.." Aquarius hid a lot from Scorpio as she did not want to ruin anything.. as she wasn't even sure of herself and what had been going on. Aquarius remembered many times Taurus would "show" up to specific places she frequented with friends, without Scorpio, Taurus would always offer to pay for her meals and drinks and always attempted to be "alone" with her. She knew it was weird so she declined. There were even situations where Taurus made physical contact with Aquarius - again she did not know what to do or say so she kept quiet about it

Lately Taurus has been again, wanting to spend more time with Aquarius, Taurus is fed up with Scorpio, and Scorpio has been lying that their relationship is mended. Aquarius feels stuck, and doesn't understand why Taurus is being eerily nice towards her, joining her, paying for her meals, buying her gifts, calling/messaging her at all kinds of times throughout the day. Should Aquarius keep her mouth closed? Maybe Taurus is just being very friendly?

posted November 19, 2011 06:32 PM            

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Originally posted by curbro:
I'd love to see the charts of all or any of the three in order to give better advice.

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I do not know their birth information, I dont know the time of birth, All I know is that Scorpio was born November 6th 1993, Toronto, Ontario and He's a Taurus Im not sure what day and month he was born but he was born in 1992

posted November 19, 2011 06:47 PM            

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Originally posted by maira:
If she really was my best friend, I'd tell her. I would of told her from the start, but I know how Aquarians can be. If you don't have a crush on Taurus, the humane thing to do would be to tell both of them what you think and feel and see where it goes from there.

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"I know how Aquarians can be." What do you mean by that?

I don't have a crush on him. I too am In a relationship. I think of them both as friends. I don't likw what they both are doing but I am trying my best to stay impartial. I let him confide in me because I think that is the right thing for me to do. I mean I dont WANT him to confide i dont go out my way to ask, but he confides in my anyway. I keep what he says to myself. And she confides in me. But the physical contact, i.e the hugging has started possibly since June 2011.. I just thought "Maybe he is just a friendly guy.." I dont want to come in between their relationship at the same time I dont want to be at fault for anything, I dont want to tell her or him anything they each confide in me because I dont want to end up being the scapegoat for their very evident problems.. but then again if I keep most of what was said to myself.. could that be just as damaging? I dont know why they told me what they do, especially him... I feel extremely awkward, with the information I know. Its like i am a secret marriage/relationship counselor.

posted November 19, 2011 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
"I know how Aquarians can be." What do you mean by that?

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Oh, I didn't mean it in a negative way. I have Aqua SN, so I'm surrounded by them and I know how shy and unassuming they can be in close, personal relationships.

posted November 19, 2011 07:01 PM            

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Originally posted by maira:
Oh, I didn't mean it in a negative way. I have Aqua SN, so I'm surrounded by them and I know how shy and unassuming they can be in close, personal relationships.

There's another possibility, but I'm Scorpio influenced myself, so take it with a grain of salt... I'm getting strong "crush" vibes and I don't know why - is it possible that you have these feelings and don't acknowledge them to yourself? This is also an Aquarian trait.
Sorry if it feels like I'm meddling, I'm trying hard not to do that, but for some reason I felt like responding to your thread.

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Its okay meddle all you want, ask as much as you want.

Do you think *I* have the crush on him or he has the crush on me? Did I also mention for the entire summer he seemed creepily obsessed with me trying to go out with his friend? I honestly think he was more preoccupied about it then his own friend was. At that time I was not in a relationship, but now I am.

posted November 19, 2011 07:02 PM            

1. Explain to them that you were under the impression that their relationship was going well, but now you know that is not the truth.
2. Explain to Taurus (in front of Scorpio) that no it is not OK to confide on you against Scorpio behind Scorpio's back.
3. Explain to Scorpio that she has been estranged from you and you're sorry she has such troubles in her relationship with Taurus.
4. Explain to Taurus that it is not OK to call late at night for a talk, and that you would rather have them both over to kick back and relax.
5. Explain to both that if they break up, you will still love each of them as friends, and each friendship will continue or not depending on how it goes.
6. Tell them that you love them but can't stand being in the middle, so you will excuse yourself for a while and let them focus on their relationship.

Then, stop calling either of them and stop receiving calls from either for a while (say, 3 wks). After that point, contact your Best Friend, i.e. the Scorpio girl, and ask to talk in person about how she's doing and catching up on her relationship.

That's how I would make my boundaries clear and attempt to help my friends (especially my Best Friend) in the above situation.

posted November 19, 2011 07:50 PM            

im reallly similar to you in situations like this, i just try to go with the flow and try to make it out like theyr just nice? but its still uncomfortable. and confusing. but they need to break up if they cant stay true to each other, its sorta pointless otherwise. its kinda confrontational to tell scorpio that taurus is flirting with you.. soo maybe going about it in a roundabout way haha or talking to them about it in a discrete manner..

posted November 19, 2011 09:08 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Lately Taurus has been again, wanting to spend more time with Aquarius, Taurus is fed up with Scorpio, and Scorpio has been lying that their relationship is mended. Aquarius feels stuck, and doesn't understand why Taurus is being eerily nice towards her, joining her, paying for her meals, buying her gifts, calling/messaging her at all kinds of times throughout the day. Should Aquarius keep her mouth closed? Maybe Taurus is just being very friendly?

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Hahahaha no. Taurus is not just being friendly. If Taurus were really your friend, he'd show some respect and not put you in the position of keeping secrets from your best friend.

IMO Taurus is either:

a) Afraid to be without a relationship, so he's trying to see if you'll go for him before he jumps ship.

b) Trying to get back at Scorpio by cheating with her best friend - and I have to tell you that as a Scorpio, this would hurt me very badly. Actually, just the fact that he's asking you to keep these kinds of things secret from her, I would feel really betrayed if I knew my best friend were doing that. I understand that Aquarius didn't ask to be put in this position, but even so, I'd want to know if my boyfriend were sniffing around my best friend.

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What would you do if you were Aquarius?

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Set boundaries. Make it clear to Taurus in no uncertain terms that the late night phone calls and food/drink offers are not appropriate and you want them to stop.

Taurus will probably try to gaslight you by saying "But I only meant it as a ~frieeeeend boo hoo you're blowing this out of proportion", but that's a passive aggressive line of BS.

posted November 19, 2011 11:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Malena:
To be quite honest, I suspect you are not the first girl Taurus has expressed interest in outside his relationship with Scorpio. Based on your other thread about Taurus being controlling, I had a strong suspicion that half the reason he's so paranoid about Scorpio cheating is that he's probably doing the same thing. It's a classic trick for cheaters to accuse their partners of what they themselves are guilty of.

[b]Set boundaries. Make it clear to Taurus in no uncertain terms that the late night phone calls and food/drink offers are not appropriate and you want them to stop.

Taurus will probably try to gaslight you by saying "But I only meant it as a ~frieeeeend boo hoo you're blowing this out of proportion", but that's a passive aggressive line of BS.

There is no good way out of this situation, so pick the one that will let you keep your self-respect. I don't envy you. Getting pulled into your friends' relationship drama sucks beyond all belief.[/B]

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^ Exactly This ^ Taurus is

1. Seeking the next relationship prospect which requires the smallest amount of change,

2. Not the most attractive prospect with the way he has acted through his relationship with Scorpio.

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3. Way too suspicious and accusatory to seem innocent.

posted November 20, 2011 09:04 AM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Taurus made up the cheating to seduce Aquarius.

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posted November 20, 2011 10:47 AM            

However, are you now enjoying this new found attraction towards you? And does it make you feel extra special in some way? Something known only between you and him? Are you secretly telling yourself that he now wants you more than her and that you could have been with him all along? Then when meeting with her you feel there is something you have to tell her now, but can't say to her because now you feel entrenched in the matter?

Mostly the way I see this going is that at some point you will cross the line and when you do that you won't be able to look at your best friend in the face - and then you'll discover that he really still wants to be with her which will then make you realise you ought to have just told them both straight in the beginning.

If it were me and I DIDN'T want to be with him intimately then I would nip it in the bud now, let him know he needs to sort out HIS difficulties with her as that's who he has the difficulty with. I would also tell him exactly what you think (insert what you said above if that's the truth for you).

If you feel you have crossed the line already, then at some point you are going to have to put this to peace with your best friend.