posted November 26, 2011 12:02 PM            

lessons that YOU learned after having been in a relationship or dated one; sun in LIBRA.
--post your ascendant

GO!!!!!!!!

posted November 26, 2011 12:04 PM            

There was nothing I could do that would make him hate me!!! I purposely started fights and tried to create drama and he just laid back and let me walk all over him and then forgave me and still loved me.

I still broke up with him.

So I learned Libras are way too nice, to a fault. And I learned I need someone to match my intensity or I WILL walk all over them...

posted November 26, 2011 12:31 PM            

DON'T make him fall into the trap of making him your friend and telling him everything! He'll love it at first but after a short while you'll think you're dating yor therapist

posted November 26, 2011 01:06 PM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:

1. They have the spine of a jellyfish (lol).
2. They will tell you anything you like to hear (never mind what they really think).
3. They like to mix and mingle with all sorts of ppl.
4. If you hurt them, you will see their ugly side (perhaps for the first time).

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haha this is really true for me

DO remember to express the same treatment libra has to you

DONT treat another with severe injustice or in a rude manner for you will feel the libran storm

-taurus rising

posted November 26, 2011 02:21 PM            

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Originally posted by frankie2912:
My longest relationship was with a Libra sun/Libra mars.

There was nothing I could do that would make him hate me!!! I purposely started fights and tried to create drama and he just laid back and let me walk all over him and then forgave me and still loved me.

I still broke up with him.

So I learned Libras are way too nice, to a fault. And I learned I need someone to match my intensity or I WILL walk all over them...

Scorpio ASC.

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Hang on, you purposely tried to make someone who loved you hate you? Sounds a little like How to lose a guy in ten days... although perhaps less humourous.

posted November 26, 2011 02:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Swift Freeze:
Hang on, you purposely tried to make someone who loved you hate you? Sounds a little like How to lose a guy in ten days... although perhaps less humourous.

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She's a scorp asc. That's what they do *rolls eyes*

lol

water signs -_- I don't even think it's intensity. It's called love of drama and conflict.

posted November 26, 2011 03:18 PM            

DON'T: Expect them to understand why you're annoyed re: above.

posted November 27, 2011 10:05 AM            

-Don't believe everything they say because some are fake and will only pretend to be your friend in order "not to hurt your feelings"

-Don't be totally unintellectual and uninformed. They will judge you as dumb.

-Don't say stupid jokes around them. They're not unjudgemental at all, though they sure try hard to seem that way.

posted November 27, 2011 01:54 PM            

DO: respect and appreciate their acts of love and kindness. If you don't 'speak' their Language of Love, get the book and figure it out. Learn it so you do speak it. This will be useful in any relationship.

DONT: take everything they say at face value. A lot of 'Youre right' type talk just to end a discussion; but they actually think you're very wrong. An unwillingness to honestly discuss things to a) avoid conflict, b) fear of loss c) spare your feelings -- sadly, has none of these effects.

DO: enjoy aesthetics! The arts, cooking, fashion, and love and romance!!!

DON'T: ever expect a Libra to forget a thing you've done - or truly forgive. They will always remember, they will "forgive" but they will hold onto the experience as a reminder of potential danger to avoid. Be very careful not to step on their toes.

DO: enjoy waxing nostalgic. That memory has incredibly positive attributes as well. With every Libra I know, nostalgia and sentiment has been a primary factor in hanging in there well past the shelf-life of the relationship.

DON'T: let them judge you for your behavior and then avoid responsibility for their own.

DO: expect them to ask a panel of people (friends, family, coworkers, the person in line at the store), for advice on major decisions and minor decisions.

DO: know you're incredibly blessed to have such a love in your life and do your best to make sure they know you value their love above all else...

posted November 27, 2011 08:02 PM            

DO appreciate and compliment them for the good effort they put in
DO pamper them once in a while
DO show them affection

posted November 28, 2011 08:51 AM            

i would add DO NOT be inappropriate, like make dirty jokes or rude comments, impolitness is a major turnoff..

DO NOT look un-interested when she/he's blabing about something

DO listen to what they have to say, i know for fact they are great listners too

posted November 28, 2011 09:34 AM            

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Originally posted by Venus:
^malicefey that was perfect

i would add DO NOT be inappropriate, like make dirty jokes or rude comments, impolitness is a major turnoff..

DO NOT look un-interested when she/he's blabing about something

DO listen to what they have to say, i know for fact they are great listners too

cap rising, sun & mars in libra

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Haha, thanks, good point though you added..looking un-interested in what we're talking about...that will turn us off faster than a light switch. LOL!

posted November 28, 2011 12:36 PM            

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DO: thank them and let them know that you like the nice things they do for you and that you appreciate their gestures.

DO: think back fondly on those moments because they were kind, and libra's can be very sweet.

DO: understand that 'fair' can be determined greatly by them and their own sense of what's fair so you've gotta actively participate!

DO: try to understand that they may not be a match for you if you are not up to pace because libra expects balance and if they give or say something, even if you're not capable of or one to have none of those traits, they'll expect equal treatment in return.

DON'T: if they love you, aren't you going to say you love them back? you may have just met.. but, that'd be 'fair'--what libra internalizes from then on, will be what the libra begins to express even if it meant nothing.. they can be downright bullies and very selfish if that 'love' wasn't given back just to prove a point.

DO: remember that most of them have mercury in scorpio.

DO: expect them to do little more than the minimal effort.. truth is, they can be lazy in a variety of ways; can be self-absorbed so they only dabble with the rest in a way that is deemed superficial.

DO: know that if they are taking you for granted, you've got to let them know and stand your ground.

DO: remind them that you, also have things that you'd like on that scale to be taken into account and be as viciously active about having your point heard as they are..

DO: know that if it's going nowhere, you're pretty much together in limbo... even if limbo has been decorated and even if it is nice, it takes awareness to realize when the two are just sitting there.. doing very little that's productive for either one of the individuals.

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posted November 28, 2011 07:04 PM            

I'm gonna make Do's and Don'ts for Libras a hotter topic!!!

Keep adding to the list!

DO let us help you
DO laugh at our jokes
DO tell us about yourself, we'd love to hear (sometimes)

DON'T tell us to pi$$ off and that we don't understand you
DON'T try to manipulate or control us
DON'T keep secrets from us

posted November 29, 2011 11:49 AM            

I have mars and venus in libra.

DO NOT be impolite to me, listen to what I say

DO NOT think that everything you say is right

DO be gentle with me and verbally express your love

DO open doors, buy small things , be attentive, I will love you for a long time if you do this

DO appreciate my affection and I will appreciate you

It is hard being a libra in love!

Sparkling

posted November 29, 2011 12:03 PM            

"DON'T try to manipulate or control us" - this repels me

I agree.

posted November 29, 2011 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by SparklingSag:
Hey

I have mars and venus in libra.

DO NOT be impolite to me, listen to what I say

DO NOT think that everything you say is right

DO be gentle with me and verbally express your love

DO open doors, buy small things , be attentive, I will love you for a long time if you do this

DO appreciate my affection and I will appreciate you

It is hard being a libra in love!

Sparkling

Sag sun
Leo moon

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posted November 29, 2011 12:05 PM            

DON'T be rude.

posted November 29, 2011 01:20 PM            

We were meant to be one of the great love stories of the zodiac: Me - aquarius sun, Him: Libra sun.

But I got bored.
And I was the only one trying to liven things up all the time, and I just ran out of steam.
He was too compliant, and not assertive enough, unless it was referring to how much he loved me.
He would get in a tizzy every day about work issues or people that crossed him, and I started to wish I was one of those people that ****** him off - I wanted that passion and aggression in our relationship, but he was all about the love and fairytales.

Obviously, this is a beautiful quality for someone to have, and he will make someone feel like a queen one day, but I need some grit and passion, otherwise my feelings deaden.

I'm not sure which of my placements/aspects would be looking for this. PLuto is strong in my chart though, so perhaps this.
I need the transformation, intensity, deaths and resurrections, or my interest wanes.

posted November 29, 2011 08:38 PM            

Bad Things I learnt
1)That they can so god damn manipulative
2)They can be so pushy.
3)They lie - seriously they do.

Good Things I learnt
1) How to be more assertive
2) How relationships are important
3) Sometimes being wishy-wash is good.
4) To find time to relax and appreciate beauty
5) How to balance stuff

Maybe Good/ Maybe Bad
1) How being controversial is key to be noticed.

posted November 29, 2011 08:49 PM            

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Originally posted by 4lifephrases:
This is perticularly from Libra Sun, Scorpio Asc, Cap Moon. I am sure we are not talking here very normal Libra.

Bad Things I learnt
1)That they can so god damn manipulative
2)They can be so pushy.
3)They lie - seriously they do.

Good Things I learnt
1) How to be more assertive
2) How relationships are important
3) Sometimes being wishy-wash is good.
4) To find time to relax and appreciate beauty
5) How to balance stuff

Maybe Good/ Maybe Bad
1) How being controversial is key to be noticed.

Sag Asc

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