posted November 26, 2011 12:14 PM            

lessons that YOU learned after having been in a relationship or dated one; sun in CANCER.
--post your ascendant

GO!!!!!!!!

posted November 26, 2011 12:24 PM            

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Originally posted by enchantress299:
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DON'T: Underestimate their capacity for crazy.

Scorpio Asc

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posted November 26, 2011 01:48 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:

Do expect to have to fill a mold of what they think it perfect regardless of your own personality.

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posted November 26, 2011 02:04 PM            

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DO: know that they mean well
DO: keep a distance
DO: have sudoku handy for when they disappear
DO: expect to be included in their little clan
DO: know that if you get the approval of those they introduce you to, you're in.
DO: know that they want to be there for you
DO: know that sharing, isn't always caring (for you, your space, time, wishes, privacy, respect, well-being) and it can sometimes prove to be very not-fun!

DON'T: forget that their want is more important than yours and they'll even sometimes create a situation so that you'll need them to express their want of wanting to be there for you.. despite your possibly having been better off had they not meddled.

DON'T: take for granted your personal time

DON'T: confide all of your trust in them as they are not the most of stable signs as is and could very well leave the confider feeling as they've been left out in the dust if they one day turn to them for support.

DON'T: think of them as being highly evolved to the point of them not being capable of using what they know about you to coerce(manipulate) if they choose to do so (usually out of fear - to keep the other around).

DON'T: roll your eyes while having to look over old pictures in their photo albums.. again!

DON'T: think they're being honest when they say they left one ex for someone else that was way better and that they then left them for someone better as well... if the Cancer remembers as if it were yesterday, they're putting a different spin on the story to make themselves feel better (hint).

DON'T: think that they'll behave as an adult when the 'disappearing-when-needed' is then turned around on them once you decide that you're tired of their b.s. and their incessant nagging.

DON'T: expect them to see the glass half-full.. everything they think they've already drunk or tasted before is " always " better... --what's that you say? oh, you're with a Cancer? oh! and you're a chef!? at a 5 star!? WOW! that's impressive!!!... yeah, well, according to your Cancer, they dated a chef before for a while.. a real chef that studied at Le Cord en Glue... not a quote-unquote, 'chef', like you..

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posted November 26, 2011 02:37 PM            

Do

Be emotionally able to handle them blowing hot and cold and disappearing on you

Understand that they can't help playing mind games and manipulating you. They just can't help it.

Know you're going to be expected to behave in a double standard manner. They can dish it out but DEFFF can't take it LOL

Don't

Be tooooo aggressive

Diss their mommy (haha jokes)

Just don't bother getting involved with them. Save ya sanity.

posted November 26, 2011 02:52 PM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:

Diss their mommy (haha jokes)

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"--oh!.... oops, you were kidding?

oh, dear!

gee, i feel awfully sorry.. i mean, i don't know what's gotten over me and now, --oh! to think that now they were all along right and.. *sniff* what if i am just a stupid screw-up *sniff*

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people! forget the fact that she has just assaulted the man's foot with a frying pan (or possibly a shovel) and forget that she has possibly fractured, if not broken an ankle that is severely sprained!.. by all means, let's 'listen' because it's 'important'.. because they need someone who is receptive to their emotions; one who isn't afraid of 'commitment' (with them) who is open and willing to listen!.. but most importantly, share.

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i thought that maybe you liked me and i found these chains and this bed out by the dumpster and i borrowed my cousin's truck --his name's Pete -oh, you'd just adore him! you two would have sooo much in common! in fact, he's also got a clubbed foot --oh! oh, now why did i go and say that!? "foot"... oh, well, no use in crying over something you can't fix, eh? so how's about you clean yourself up a bit and meet me downstairs while i make you some soup..

how about it?"

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posted November 26, 2011 05:14 PM            

DO
-Show affection
-Praise them
-Be understanding of their moods and don't take it personally
- open up and pour your heart out to them

posted November 26, 2011 05:20 PM            

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Originally posted by enchantress299:
DO: Enjoy the deep emotional bond that you will inevitably forge with them.
DON'T: Underestimate their capacity for crazy.

Scorpio Asc

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posted November 26, 2011 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
Don't expect to have your own life.
Do expect to have to fill a mold of what they think it perfect regardless of your own personality.

Leo asc.

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LOL! too close to home....

posted November 26, 2011 06:20 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
Don't expect to have your own life.
Do expect to have to fill a mold of what they think it perfect regardless of your own personality.

Leo asc.

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posted November 26, 2011 06:37 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'm not asking for anyone to agree or not but simply speaking of *my* experience, which was I experienced these two themes with a vedic Cancer sun/Scorpio moon, it's so so so true. Looking back without all the emotions attached to it I see it as harmless idealization but their subjectivity does tend to rub off on loved ones (i.e. me) so it was harder to be so casual about it back then. I felt like he didn't really SEE. ME.

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like i said, too close to home. Cancer sun, scorpio moon here.....

posted November 26, 2011 10:24 PM            

DO:
Be kind
Try to understand them