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Topic: Need insight on Scorpio man.....
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Dinobleue9
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posted November 26, 2011 03:50 PM
  
Soo...I have a Scorpio guy that I've been interested in. We were talking a lot a few months back, then suddenly he stopped talking to me. Not ignoring me. But certainly became more unavailable. We live in different cities, and he was traveling a lot, so I just chalked it up to 'out of sight, out of mind'. I stopped reaching out to him, because I'm not the kind of girl to throw herself at a guy that's not paying attention, and just went on my way. Yet I did notice he was still talking to my sister, whom I'm very close with, pretty frequently on a social network sight that I'm also on. THEN, on his birthday, after almost two months with barely any contact, I wish him a Happy Birthday. He immediately responds, then gives me his login information for a site we had talked about in the past. His username and password. For me. So I could also login on his account. Ok..... So we chat a bit. He's alone, on his birthday, talking with me out of the blue. It's light and flirtatious. We're talking about that movie 'Crazy, Stupid, Love' and 'the move' the guy uses to get girls. He tells me he has a lot of moves, but his 'biggest move' always works without fail. So I ask him what it is...he says "It's infuriating. I'll just tell you. If you ever really want someone, build up a rapport, and then just drop off the face of the Earth. That's not really a big move, but ignoring girls always makes them crazy. Especially if they think there's something there." WHAT?! That's EXACTLY what he's been doing with me! So I say "Yeah. Ok. Obviously that works. Being ignored makes anyone crazy. But that gets tiresome after a while." Him: "For some people. Some girls get crazier and crazier. More and more desperate. I don't use it often." Me: "Warning though: be careful playing games like that, because usually it's the person playing them that gets left out in the end!!" Him: "I'm sure it is. I don't play games if it's something I'm serious about."
At this point I'm in shock. I tell him this convo is too deep for text message, and I need to go (which I do, I'm not lying).
A few days later on Thanksgiving I get a "Happy Thanksgiving! Xx" text from him... WHAT IS GOING ON?? So he was testing me, wasn't he?? And flat-out told me he was! Was he gaging me to see if I'd get crazy like other girls? Or to see if he could dissappear and come back and I'd still be interested in him? OR is he just f*cking with me??
BTW- he has Scorpio Sun/Merc/Venus, Cancer Moon, Aquarius ASC/Mars.
I have Aquarius Sun in the 8H, Cancer Moon (Our moons are loosely conjunct), and Cancer ASC (his Moon is Conjunct my ASC) IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 26, 2011 03:53 PM
Wow based on his natal chart, and your post I'd suggest staying away from him. He sound manipulative and very immature.IP: Logged |
Purrr
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posted November 26, 2011 03:56 PM
Sun signs aside, just ditch the guy. I've dated many guys who are like this, and it's just a sign of immaturity. As you get older, they eventually learn that games are games... Girls do it, too. Just move on and find a nice guy who will be straight forward and take you out on a nice date without testing you for three weeks.  IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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From: Surfing Kite. Seriously.
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted November 26, 2011 04:02 PM
Oh,the cancer placements... 
He sounds immature,he'd never hear from me again,if I were u... Playing hard to get,I mean,really,life isn't teen film  IP: Logged |
FireWire
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posted November 26, 2011 06:55 PM
Let him go, leave it alone!If you get screwed in the end and come back on the board talking about it, don't say nobody warned you! He sounds immature. Does that sound like loyalty? Intensity? Passion? Deep love? It sounds foolish. He's an arsehole, Scorpio, Leo, Cancer, Dancer, Prancer, Vixen--anyone who acts like that isn't really worth your time. Moreover, he was probably talking to you 'because' he was alone and perhaps a little lonely. IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 26, 2011 07:01 PM
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 26, 2011 07:45 PM
I personally would never tolerate mind games like that. If a person cannot speak to me directly, I would much rather the person not speak at all. If I were in your shoes, I would've been long gone. IP: Logged |
FireWire
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posted November 26, 2011 08:15 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I personally would never tolerate mind games like that. If a person cannot speak to me directly, I would much rather the person not speak at all. If I were in your shoes, I would've been long gone.
Precisely. Having dealt with something similar (as well as having observed it also), it is not worth it. That person knows he's being awful. In the end, he'll be forced to reconcile with that, and he will be the one losing out--he's not too clever for the balance of life. IP: Logged |
scrappydog
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From: Texas
Registered: May 2009
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posted November 26, 2011 10:01 PM
He sounds really, really DUMB AND IMMATURE and I can't believe any girl deep and insightful enough to be into astrology in the first place would even be interested in this idiot. Your obviously much better than him so count yourself lucky that he is such a shallow player.IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted November 26, 2011 10:35 PM
Wow. Ok. The response is unanimous. I'm not sure what I expected....I will say this though, this is NOT a guy I was dating. I think you all might be judging to harshly. We live in different cities and were talking frequently and then it kind of faded out. When he told me about the game he plays, I wasn't sure how to take it...but maybe I thought it was an apology or something.
But, I guess, good riddance. I'm an adult and take full responsibility for whatever trouble I get myself into.
I've been going over the reasons why he might've said that though, and apparently everyone just thinks it's immaturity?? Hmm. I sensed some other reason for it. But maybe that's just what I want to think. Or maybe I'm just an idiot when it comes to handsome men. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 26, 2011 11:51 PM
Mind games are played only by losers and accepted only by fools.You deserve so much better! Only women with low self-esteem would want to put up with that nonsense. This is coming from me, a guy. Na na na na, na na na na, hey hey-ey, goodbye IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 27, 2011 12:00 AM
^ haha OP I wasn't judging you. I just said the guy's bad news. He sounds like a little bratty boy who is insecure and needs to control others to feel better about himself.Good thing you didn't fall for his tricks =) Yeah stay away from the guy. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 27, 2011 12:02 AM
I hate infantile time wasting games. The only person he is tricking is his own sorry a$$. What an idiot!IP: Logged |
malicefey
Knowflake Posts: 258
From: NY
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 27, 2011 09:27 PM
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Originally posted by Dinobleue9:
Soo...I have a Scorpio guy that I've been interested in. We were talking a lot a few months back, then suddenly he stopped talking to me. Not ignoring me. But certainly became more unavailable. We live in different cities, and he was traveling a lot, so I just chalked it up to 'out of sight, out of mind'. I stopped reaching out to him, because I'm not the kind of girl to throw herself at a guy that's not paying attention, and just went on my way. Yet I did notice he was still talking to my sister, whom I'm very close with, pretty frequently on a social network sight that I'm also on. THEN, on his birthday, after almost two months with barely any contact, I wish him a Happy Birthday. He immediately responds, then gives me his login information for a site we had talked about in the past. His username and password. For me. So I could also login on his account. Ok..... So we chat a bit. He's alone, on his birthday, talking with me out of the blue. It's light and flirtatious. We're talking about that movie 'Crazy, Stupid, Love' and 'the move' the guy uses to get girls. He tells me he has a lot of moves, but his 'biggest move' always works without fail. So I ask him what it is...he says "It's infuriating. I'll just tell you. If you ever really want someone, build up a rapport, and then just drop off the face of the Earth. That's not really a big move, but ignoring girls always makes them crazy. Especially if they think there's something there." WHAT?! That's EXACTLY what he's been doing with me! So I say "Yeah. Ok. Obviously that works. Being ignored makes anyone crazy. But that gets tiresome after a while." Him: "For some people. Some girls get crazier and crazier. More and more desperate. I don't use it often." Me: "Warning though: be careful playing games like that, because usually it's the person playing them that gets left out in the end!!" Him: "I'm sure it is. I don't play games if it's something I'm serious about."
At this point I'm in shock. I tell him this convo is too deep for text message, and I need to go (which I do, I'm not lying).
A few days later on Thanksgiving I get a "Happy Thanksgiving! Xx" text from him... WHAT IS GOING ON?? So he was testing me, wasn't he?? And flat-out told me he was! Was he gaging me to see if I'd get crazy like other girls? Or to see if he could dissappear and come back and I'd still be interested in him? OR is he just f*cking with me??
BTW- he has Scorpio Sun/Merc/Venus, Cancer Moon, Aquarius ASC/Mars.
I have Aquarius Sun in the 8H, Cancer Moon (Our moons are loosely conjunct), and Cancer ASC (his Moon is Conjunct my ASC)
If he can say that to you then he obviously is not genuinely interested in you for you. He can test you all he wants, but you should stand your ground and not take the stupid bait. Afterall, which guy would say that if he was REALLY into you?..and just to test you?? :\ sounds like a kid to me ------------------
Sun Libra
Moon Libra
Mars Libra
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Scorpio
Asc Scorpio IP: Logged |
Dinobleue9
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posted November 27, 2011 09:34 PM
Well, thank you all for your insight. I obviously haven't been seeing the situation clearly. Time to move on!! IP: Logged | |
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