posted November 28, 2011 01:17 AM            

So a couple nights ago I made out with my new Cancer friend. It was awkward, but I tried being a good sport about it (I was the awkward one - he knew what he was doing... ) He'd been affectionate and very touchy-feely towards me the whole time that evening even after I declined more making out and went inside to watch the pool game. As I was leaving for the night, I looked at him like "C'mon! Gimme a hug!" and he was kinda brooding/sulking but gave me one, and I gave him a kiss on the cheek. He said "Aw, thank you." but I don't know if he was being sarcastic or not. Probably. Anyway, he pulled me back in as I was walking away and kissed me on the lips (so cute.) and I thought at least we managed to end the evening on a better note.

However, other things happened that night that just kinda made it suck worse than it needed to (think about his wing man making innuendos towards me about me and the Cancer, with the Cancer standing right there.) and I realized I'd given him mixed messages so I texted him tonight. As expected, he was a bit short. I asked him "Bad day?" "No." and I thought to myself I'm not letting this go on forever. so I bit the bullet and said "Oh. Well I wanted to apologize for getting off on the wrong foot the other night." He said "It's cool." and I asked him if he liked me or not. He said "Idk you're a hard one to figure out" I responded telling him we needed to hang out one on one sometime, and he said "Yeah."

posted November 28, 2011 01:36 AM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
I think he likes you, or at least he used to, but he took something the wrong way at some point - hence him sulking and acting weird later that night before you left.

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posted November 28, 2011 06:11 PM            

this guy likes you but here's what you did wrong according to the cancer perspective
1. you guys made out and you were being awkard
being the cancer male he is (I'm guessing he had other cancer placements) took it to heart an thought "wow I like this girl.. I'm with her tonight and she's acting like she doesn't want me at all." whereas you are awkward for whatever reason maybe nerves? he's so sensitive that he thinks "she doesn't like me at all I'm a horrible kisser she's not into me, not into this."
2. he tried to redeem himself probably thought "ok we will try this again and she will be into this because i like/want her so bad and so much" and when you declined which probably had nothing to do with him... his irrational self thought "I can't catch a break now I know she doesn't want me or must find me inattractive."

- cancers are so hurt by this, my bf was the same way when we started out his sun in Gemini progressed into cancer at age 10... so ya but I remember vividly there were a couple of times when I just really wasn't into the mood of touching or kissing had nothing to do with him! it was me not him.. and he perceived it was "do you not like me? do you not love me? do you hate me? I'm doing somethin wrong you must want another man blah blah blah" cancers show their love just like Leos through physical intimacy and affection especially if they are comfortable with you, it's someting I seriously needed to accept if wanted to be with him which I did but I was very uncomfortable with ostentatious displays of affection always wanting to cuddle snuggle touch kiss anything!! and they take it to heart cause that's how they show they like you! touching you! hehe
3. when his friend I assume... made those comments im curious to what he said.. mind sharing? :P
he thought "wow wtff is this guy doing flirting with her is he fkng crazy and she's just taking it? I'm over this..." this is what they think cancers can be extremely jealous/possessive even when you're not doing anything' they like you so much and to see a male talk to you or joke with you or make you laugh they think "oooookay buddy what the f is going on here!?! this is flirting and this is not okay." thats how they may think.. even if it's innocent.

So all together this guy likes you but your unintentional aloofness made him very insecure and when insecure they retreat and act how you described they don't know where they stand over a silly little not wanting to kiss LOL! it's how they get. tell him you're there for him, attempt to talk to him and hell stroke his ego a little tell him he's a great kisser and you were so nervous becauE he was a professional kisser and were overwhelmed by it all and that you'd love to do it again some time and than leave him be he will come to you.

posted November 28, 2011 06:22 PM            

and If u upset them most of the time they won't talk to u about they, they will be passive aggressive and make u guilty for it

I'm not sht talking them either i luv cancer placements but this is my overall experience with them. bf has cappy mars/rising cancer moon Venus and mercury and he does this all the time Gemini sun that progressed into cancer when he was very young...

they are big on affection and physical affection it's a big way they show they love you/care about you. it f*cking creeped me out at the beginning I thought "how many freaking hugs and kisses can you get?" he thought "how many cant YOU get?!?" i thought he was crazy for being so touchy and stuff and he thought I was crazy for not wanting to be touched but we compromised

posted November 29, 2011 02:23 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
He has Merc Cancer sun cancer and venus cancer
everything I described about a cancer esp my boyfriend fits because your guy just like my bf has cancer progrsssed sun and merc and venus in cancer

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It does fit, like he was being touchy-feely even after I kind of turned down his make-out session advances. I'm afraid he just wants me for action BUT I made sure to tell him I don't do one-night stands, not that kinda girl and he said "I know you're not" so.... maybe he wasn't? I don't know. I feel bad, but really I was just very embarrassed 'cause I wasn't good at it and didn't think he was enjoying it because of that. We've also only met twice, so I don't know if what you said about them being touchy-feely to show they care really applies. They're slow to care about someone, right? Or would someone with that heavy water placements fall fast?

I don't think he'd like me if he got to know me. He's a country guy and I'm...not. He's clearly a feeler, and I'm a thinker. We're opposites. And yet I feel a pull towards him, and I'm not sure why. I checked our synastry - we have Sun conj. Venus. Could one aspect be so strong?